The night I was baptized, my pastor said something powerful that I’ll never forget. “You made a huge decision. But it doesn’t get easier from here. It gets harder. The Devil is upset at the commitment you just made, and he will do everything in his power to make you feel like you made a mistake. But The Devil is a liar.” And he was right. Since that day, I have gone up the rough side of the mountain, but even when my faith wavered, I always found my way back to God.
The same thing is happening with my marriage. My husband and I got married, and it seems like since that day, our marriage has been under spiritual warfare. Things have been thrown at us left and right, and there have been multiple times where we both wondered if we made the right decision.
Then I realized the same holds true of what my pastor said: Satan is upset at the commitment we made, and he’s doing everything in his power to make us feel like we made a mistake. But he’s a liar. Marriage is a covenant, a commitment before God, and we have expectations to live up to that are outlined in the Bible. Despite what we’re going through, or may think we’re going through, we have to constantly lean on God.
On one particularly difficult night, I turned to my Bible for answers on how to deal with this, on how to fight for my marriage, despite the Devil trying his best to destroy it.
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9 (NIV)
It’s hard trying to do what’s right, but we should never give up! God promises that at the right time, we will reap a harvest if we keep going. So how can we give up when we know God has something better in store for us?
“Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 (NIV)
Here are clear instructions for our marriage. What do we do? We should rejoice, we should pray continually, and we should give thanks, no matter the circumstances. So that means thank God when we’re up and when we’re down. Thank God when we have it and when we don’t.
“For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds.” II Corinthians 10:3-4 (NIV)
We’re at war, but a different kind of war. So we use different kind of weapons: prayer, worship, the word. So we can’t use the weapons of the world. We have to use the weapons God gave us. These are the weapons that can truly defeat the enemy.
“Dear friends, I urge you, as foreigners and exiles, to abstain from sinful desires, which wage war against your soul. Live such good lives among the pagans that, though they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day he visits us.” I Peter 2:11-12 (NIV)
We live in a society that is quick to marry, and even quicker to divorce. The first sign of trouble, friends and family members are pushing you to go file papers on your spouse. But here, we’re urged to do it the right way, even if we’re talked about, even if we want to give up. We’re here to lead by example.
So the road gets hard, and things don’t always go our way. Our marriage may be under attack by the enemy, but we have the tools to fight back. If we stay diligent, we can make it through even the most treacherous of storms, with our spouse right by our side.
BMWK – what tools are you using to fight for your marriage?
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