When Your Marriage Is Under Spiritual Warfare

BY: - 15 Nov '12 | Home

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The night I was baptized, my pastor said something powerful that I’ll never forget. “You made a huge decision. But it doesn’t get easier from here. It gets harder. The Devil is upset at the commitment you just made, and he will do everything in his power to make you feel like you made a mistake. But The Devil is a liar.” And he was right. Since that day, I have gone up the rough side of the mountain, but even when my faith  wavered, I always found my way back to God.

The same thing is happening with my marriage. My husband and I got married, and it seems like since that day, our marriage has been under spiritual warfare. Things have been thrown at us left and right, and there have been multiple times where we both wondered if we made the right decision.

Then I realized the same holds true of what my pastor said: Satan is upset at the commitment we made, and he’s doing everything in his power to make us feel like we made a mistake. But he’s a liar.  Marriage is a covenant, a commitment before God, and we have expectations to live up to that are outlined in the Bible. Despite what we’re going through, or may think we’re going through, we have to constantly lean on God.

On one particularly difficult night, I turned to my Bible for answers on how to deal with this, on how to fight for my marriage, despite the Devil trying his best to destroy it.

“Let us not become weary in doing good,  for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9 (NIV)

It’s hard trying to do what’s right, but we should never give up! God promises that at the right time, we will reap a harvest if we keep going. So how can we give up when we know God has something better in store for us?

“Rejoice always,  pray continually,  give thanks in all circumstances;  for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 (NIV)

Here are clear instructions for our marriage. What do we do? We should rejoice, we should pray continually, and we should give thanks, no matter the circumstances. So that means thank God when we’re up  and  when we’re down. Thank God when we have it and when we don’t.

“For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does.  The weapons we fight with  are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power  to demolish strongholds.” II Corinthians 10:3-4 (NIV)

We’re at war, but a different kind of war. So we use different kind of weapons: prayer, worship, the word. So we can’t use the weapons of the world. We have to use the weapons God gave us. These are the weapons that can truly defeat the enemy.

“Dear friends,  I urge you, as foreigners and exiles,  to abstain from sinful desires,  which wage war against your soul.  Live such good lives among the pagans that, though they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your good deeds  and glorify God  on the day he visits us.” I Peter 2:11-12 (NIV)

We live in a society that is quick to marry, and even quicker to divorce. The first sign of trouble, friends and family members are pushing you to go file papers on your spouse. But here, we’re urged to do it the right way, even if we’re talked about, even if we want to give up. We’re here to lead by example.

So the road gets hard, and things don’t always go our way. Our marriage may be under attack by the enemy, but we have the tools to fight back. If we stay diligent, we can make it through even the most treacherous of storms, with our spouse right by our side.

BMWK – what tools are you using to fight for your marriage?

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Briana Ford wrote 143 articles on this blog.

Briana is a writer, influencer, and Shero who's California bred and Texas fed. When she's not explaining the world of blogging and social media to entrepreneurs and small business owners, you can find her sharing memes, gifs, and her life lessons on her blog.


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53 WordPress comments on “When Your Marriage Is Under Spiritual Warfare

  1. Taiwo Williams

    Great article!
    My husband and myself see our obstacles and challenges that we face in our marriage; its inevitably when you are out there in the world and against flesh and blood so to say. However, we get over them, by our spiritual foundation and immense, unconditional love with have for God and each other, We see our struggles have ultimately strengthened our marriage, and that is a good thing:)

    1. Briana Myricks

      Thanks Taiwo! You and your husband will get through every trial and tribulation put in your way as long as you stay diligent and pray about it. Praying for you guys!

    1. Briana Myricks

      Eric, for me personally, I can’t say. I’d probably have to be in the situation to see. I know I would definitely pray HARD about it, because that’s a huge decision to make. I respect anyone who stays in light of infidelity, and respect those who choose that it’s too much for them. Guess it depends for each person.

    2. Pat

      Never thought I would but I did. It has been a spiritually journey. I can without a doubt tell you with God ALL things are possible. We are still in the healing process, but it looks like a scar, we will be healed stronger and better than before. Glory to God!

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  3. KayFish

    What a word! Thanks for the encouragement we need these reminders from time to time. God has blessed us with marriage so we have to fight the devil and his followers to keep it. I touch and agree with every reader:) May God continue to bless you and your family.

  4. Evol Me

    The world and the society that we live in has made us to believe that quitting is the best way to go. We want things to happen right now and if not we should throw in the towel. I have seen many folks gave up on their marriage and file divorce and they are Christians. The enemy does not like unity, because a married couple can create a force in their community and spread God’s love and word all over. Division/Confusion/Strife is the game the enemy plays, but we should take a stand and fight for our marriages and of course lean to God for is help at all times, we can do ALL things in Christ who strengthens me. Phillppians 4:13. Great Article

  5. Regina

    Thanks Briana! I thank God for you and the way he’s useing you, to encorag other people with his word. Even though we know thu word, but being flesh and blood we lose focus. Thank you for such profounded words to help God’s people to focus on his promies and his word. Have a Bless Thankgiveing.

  6. Svevans

    The enemy has declared war on marriage.  This is not a surprise to our Heavenly Father.  In His infinite wisdom, He has already provided a way of escape.  The bible tells us in Matthew 18:19  Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven.  Through the covenant of marriage, He has already provided us with the “two”.  Guess what happens when you an your spouse come in agreement against the enemy’s devices?  YOU WIN!!!  I am not married yet.  I like reading this blog in preparation.  Thank you for your honesty and transparency.

  7. Shaunda

    Thanks for the article! In the midst of a separation, God reaches out to meet us where we are. I am writing some of these scriptures and posting them in places as a daily reminder. Satan was making us retreat, but God is pushing us forward with the proper equipment to win this war!! Satan you can’t have mine!!

  8. Blessing Ndubuisi Uket

    My husband and i are really passing thru hard times and our marriage is going to be three years by 30th of Jan. We both lost our jobs same year that we got married and we are blessed by a beautiful boy. No friends,no money and no job. I will pratices wat u preached and i pray it work for my marriage. Thanks dear.

  9. Nastassia

    I have literally been in spiritual warfare in my marriage this year!!!!! There we’re many trying to understand how I still have my sanity. I say *because I know who my God is!* if he brings you to it, no matter how tough, he’ll bring you through it….. I can say God has brought us through it, we are currently rekindling our marriage. I have my moments when things get to me, but I do not allow them to defeat me(nor conquer what we are allowing God to fix). I am truly happier than I’ve been the whole relationship.

  10. keowa ivory

    Thank you for posting! Its encouraging to know that we are not alone, we too have been experiencing constant attack coming from every direction. But thanks be to God who always causes us to triumph in Him! Our enemy doesn’t want us to be unified cuz he knows the power that comes with agreement! So family fight against discord, strife, and division, let’s not give in to him!

  11. Bobby Allen

    God Is Good.My marriage is under attack and it’s amazing that.i was awakened out of my sleep to discover this topic. I will say confirmation that everything is going to be alright.

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  14. Goodness me

    This post was right on time, me and my husband are going through a really rough patch in our marriage right now, and I really needed this. There is so much work to be done in our marriage and it is so easy to get overwhelmed and give up. I don’t want to give up, I want to love like Christ did and walk in his footsteps, just trying to find my strength and perseverance to do exactly that. Thanks so much.

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  18. Romanzia Saunders

    We must definitely work the Word of God.. It is to our advantage to apply, and stand on his Word for it will not return to him void. It will accomplish that which we can’t accomplish in our own strength. It is easy to throw in the towel and say forget it. But thanks be to God who has allowed us to triumphant over all circumstances, which includes our covenant relationship with our spouse. Love is also the conquering tool to overcome all the distraction, discord and disunion. And we know without faith it is impossible to please Him. It is our faith that will launch us into the path of victory for our marriages…… After all it is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you and me. Thank you for your encouragement, what a great inspiration for many…..

  19. Anonymous

    Good morning I am standing strong in my marriage. My marriage is under attack… I would like to receive the article they are posting about. Thank you

  20. Faye

    My marriage is presently under attack by the enemy. Especially in the area of finances. It makes us be quiet for days not saying anythinh to each other. Thank God that we do get back to each other. Couples minutes b4 I read this article I was crying and wondering if my marriage will ever be healed. I know it will be healed! This is a great article and I believe and receive everything thing that you said! Continue to be bessed!

  21. C More

    I’m going through this right now. I am at my limit and about to call it quits. This is an excellent article. However, it takes TWO to say I do and stay in it for the long haul. I can’t fight the devil and my husband. He has to want it as much and I don’t feel he does. 🙁

  22. TMS

    I have in-laws and my own father who are against my marriage, and the battle…the devil… is alive and well. Getting my husband to get up early on Sunday to go to church with me is a lot harder than getting him up early on a Sunday to go to his friends’ house to watch football! I’m at my wits end, but I remain prayerful for him to understand his PRIORITIES at the age of 41. I pray for myself….patience and to bite my tongue sometimes. I don’t know how to sugarcoat the thoughts that run through my head and I give it to him live and in living color, which can be pretty harsh and disrespectful. Funny enough, my own church clergy and other churches in my area haven’t been very responsive/accommodating to my requests for counseling, and that makes me feel down, too.

  23. Monique

    This is on time for us, 20 years this Nov and I feel like giving in. Tired of same old struggles but im holding on to my faith. I know prayer works and God’s word will not return void.

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Stuff Single Moms Say

BY: - 16 Nov '12 | Home

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When I became a single mother, someone laughed and told me that I now had a baby daddy. The old school song, “That’s Just My Baby Daddy” played in my head.  I pictured a man wearing a “wife beater” undershirt, drinking a 40 ounce bottle of beer, and yelling, “I ain’t paying some chick child support for her to get her hur and nails did, pay her utility bills, and have some other dude watch premium cable on my TV.” Yes, that is the ultimate stereotype and the majority of single parents I know don’t have any of those characteristics.

However, we do say a lot of similar phrases. So, I enlisted comedian Jason Russ to write a list of things single moms say. He’s a part of the team who brought you the viral video Sh!t Bougie Black Girls Say. He was the hilarious man, or should I say woman, in the blond wig. Now, he’s swapping single moms’ stress for smiles.


“Gurl, I’m so tired!”

How many mothers have said this while talking to her girlfriends on the phone? I remember my mother calling me on her lunch and telling me that when she got off work, she would go grocery shopping. Later, she would come home, take her shoes off, sit down and never go to the store. The average day can make any person tired beyond belief. But imagine if your day included waking yourself up for work (which is tough enough), waking your child up and getting them ready for school (which makes waking yourself up a walk in the park),  and having a long day at work, with the reward of coming home to a child with more energy than Sonic the Hedge Hog. My mother had a good solution to this: she would tell me to go play and lock me out of the house. As a child, I thought I had the best mother in the world, only to find out that this was her way to get the rest that she needed and deserved. I was never put on punishment. The thought of putting me on punishment was punishment to my mother. There is no better joy to a mother than being around their child and being able to nurture them and see them grow. But every now and then, mama has to send baby boy away to a two-week summer camp for some me time when she says, “Gurl, I’m so tired!”


“She bet’ not be around my child.”

By now most of you know that moms are very protective of their children. We also know that mama didn’t make that baby on her own, which gives me the perfect opportunity to plug in single fathers. Yes, single fathers, the most over populated creature in America. As we know, daddy got a life too. And with judges typically granting the majority of custody to mommy, dad has more time to go out, and he doesn’t have to hire a babysitter to do so. With this social life, the father usually lands at some happy hour where he meets his next relationship –someone you might not be so fond of. The thought of your child being around this new person can make your blood boil. There could be no feelings whatsoever for the father, but once you meet his new girlfriend, Sha-nay-nay, you wish they had a restraining order for these cases.

What about another situation when your child’s father drops your kid over his mother’s house that is known to give the kids shots of Hennessy to get them to go to bed early? In these situations, you will generally hear the phrase, “She better not be around my child!” Who he brings into our children’s lives is very critical to their development. Once your little princess builds a strong relationship with Sha-nay-nay you better believe she will master the phrase, “Oh no he didn’t!”


“I don’t do baby mama’s.”

The pot calling the kettle black would be an understatement in this situation. But, the thought of dating someone with kids can sometimes scare even a team of Avengers away. Picture the Incredible Hulk having to balance time between being a father to his kid and a loving boyfriend to his woman, all while trying to get good reports from his job, which is to save the world. That’s enough stress to turn any human into a 20 foot tall green crime fighting machine.

The life of a single mother is tough as it is, and the thought of potentially dating a man who has “Tami from Basketball Wives” as a baby mama can add another level of stress that you are not willing to deal with. The dating life of a single mother has challenges. Single mothers must watch who they bring into their families’ lives. Is he a good man? Is he good with kids? Will he be a positive male figure in my child’s life? These questions go into deep consideration when choosing a mate. There is a certain level of stress that can come with dating a man with children, just as there are with childless men. Men with no children can be used to dating women without children.  This may mean they are accustomed to a woman’s full attention and the thought of sharing time with your child can put a mother in uncompromising situations. But a dating a man who is having a hard time sharing you with your kids isn’t that bad I guess??? It could be worse. You could be dating a mama’s boy!!


“My baby is so smart.”

There is no bigger cheerleader for a child than you know who – their mama! To see your child perform on any stage at any level can bring out the most obnoxious screams and cheers that will make any childless person never want to be your friend. A mother’s support is like no other. When a two month old begins to string sounds together, you always see their mom with the biggest smile on her face followed by, “My baby talk so good.”  Or how about, when their child is sitting on the bench at a sporting event while the way more talented players play…… inevitably you’ll hear them say: “Put my baby in the game!”

The point is, mothers truly love their children and want nothing but the best for them. Whether it is seeing good grades on report cards or scoring a touchdown when all of the lesser talented players are in the game, mothers love it all. So whether a child is the smartest or not, it is a mother’s job to support her child through encouragement and love so that her child knows that in everything positive that they attempt in life……..mama’s proud.!!


Want Jason to make you smile everyday? You can crack up if you log onto http://www.jrussthecomic.com

Hey single moms, what saying or phrase do you repeat over and over again?

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Heather Hopson wrote 60 articles on this blog.

Not long ago, Heather Hopson was an award-winning television host in the Cayman Islands. Today, she's writing a different kind of story as a new mom. She gives readers the key to her diary and shares personal stories about single parenting, dating, transitioning to motherhood and her obsession with being what her family calls an "activity mom." The site features celebrity interviews, parent spotlights and confessional videos. Follow her journey through motherhood on Twitter @dearmomdiary.


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