5 More Things I Did to Get My Daughter’s Natural Hair Growing

BY: - 5 Dec '12 | Home

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Recently,  I wrote an article that literally set off a slew of comments good (and bad) from people questioning the methods I used to get my daughter’s hair growing. While I always appreciate the comments, there is one lesson I want other parents who are learning to deal with their daughter’s natural hair to learn, Natural Hair Nazis need to take a seat. Being natural is not a cult where you HAVE to abide by certain rules or else you get kicked out. Being natural simply means you do not put a relaxer in your hair. It doesn’t matter if you wear your hair in an afro, straight or curly- you are natural. I don’t prescribe to hair types or beliefs that one ingredient will ruin a product. Instead I experiment and use trial and error. It may not work for everyone, but it’s work for my daughter and myself.

I initially made the decision not to put chemicals in my daughter’s hair  because I saw the damage they had did to my hair and I wanted her to love her hair- something I didn’t learn to do until adulthood. So while I knew the journey would be difficult, I was ready to take on the challenge.  Her hair didn’t miraculously start growing overnight.  But when I became consistent in my practices, her hair started to improve. There were times when I was told by people to ‘just put a perm in it’ but I knew that I wanted her to accept her hair in its natural state.  In the end, going natural allowed her hair to be healthy…… but not without a lot of trial and error on my part.

To further help you guys who are struggling to get your daughter’s hair to grow,  I’m going to summarize some natural hair strategies that took me 3 years to learn. While these are specific strategies you can start doing today, remember that everything will not work for everyone. Here goes:

1. Use Aloe Vera Juice in your hair routine.

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I mix it into my daily conditioning spray, I put a cap full in out conditioner and sometimes I even drink it. Aloe vera juice is a natural hair detangler and  conditioner. I personally buy an all natural brand  and it makes her hair soft, and gives it shine. Click here for a detailed review of one I use.

In the end, learning to take care of natural hair is a process. What works for me may not work for you.  But when you do your research, you can rest assured you will start to notice a change in moisture and length in your daughter’s hair.

Now my BMWK family, do you have anymore questions about natural hair and our daughters?  What do you do to keep yours or your daughter’s hair moisturized?


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Franchesca Warren wrote 44 articles on this blog.

Franchesca Warren is writer, author, blogger, educator, runner, entrepreneur, mother and overall BossyGirl. She's currently working on her second book detailing her chronicles of working in two of the roughest urban school districts with a release date of August 2012. You can find her full-time on her blog chronicling her life trying to balance it all and run a marathon by the end of the year. In her spare time she runs her own editing company, The Editing Nerd, and working on the launch of her first magazine. For a daily account of the good, bad and ugly of being a BossyGirl follow her on Twitter!


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18 WordPress comments on “5 More Things I Did to Get My Daughter’s Natural Hair Growing

  1. Pingback: 10 Tips to Help You Start Managing Your Child's Natural Hair | Black and Married With Kids.com - A Positive Image of Marriage and Family

  2. Mercy

    i want to share my testimony on how i gain my nature hair back in just three weeks: i had very thick curly hair.i straightened my hair 2 yr ago.they after some time started 2 fall out.i also having dandruff problem all d time, before i used shampoo called antidruf containing ketoconazole and tugain 2%(minoxidil) have stopped using chemical one year ago.but still i am loosing a lots of hair everyday and my hair has become so thin. when a friend of my visit me and i explain how i lose my hair every day, she told me she was having the same problem 3 months ago and he contacted DR OPINGO online, i please with grace and she gave me DR OPINGO email, i email him immediately and explain about my hair to him, he told me not to worry that he is going to help me out.After DR OPINGO have prepared the spell cream i use for good three weeks my hair grow fast and was very thick, all my girl friends love and cherish my hair thank you DR you can contact his email at: (alterofcandletemple05@gmail.com) his cream will make your hair grow fast and thicker.

  3. Shronda

    My 10 year old draugher hair is not growing when I comb her hair I feel a lot of new growth but it very short I the back I’m very concerned and worried .i need too ow what I can try to get her hair back to growing.

  4. Shawna-kay Davis

    My daughter was born with a head full of hair,she’s now 19 months old and now has lesser than what she had as a baby.Her hair started falling out and i was thinking she’s just losing her baby hair but now i’m concerned cause it’s falling out a bit more and the new growth is very short and now her hair is very thin. I don’t know what to do. I have used Johnson’s & Johnson’s detangling spray,blue magic hair oil.Just for me daily moisturizer creme,suave 2 in 1 shampoo and conditioner dove conditioner and nothing helps. I need help with getting her hair full and long again.What product(s) can i use in her hair for it to grow back full and long. I was told to use DOO GROW,does that work?
    please help me.

    1. Anonymous

      I have tried Doo Grow hair grease and products. This seems to be a strong line of products for children. While using this product line my 2 year old lost hair and the texture changed to a hard coarser feel.
      May be ok later in agebut was too much for her. I use Dudley’s products and have seen new growth and a texture of softness. Also low iron can cause slow hairgrowth and coarser texture. Also a skin tone of uneven color.

  5. Stephanie

    I see that this is about having natural hair but do you recommend anything for growth? My daughter is going to be 5 years old and her hair is still at her ears & very thin. I cut her ends and I put oils and I don’t see any change.

  6. Janet Diaz

    Nice post. Hair growth has become a problem most of the people suffering across the world. The actual reason for seeing less/no hair growth is the hair follicles are in rest phase for temporary/permanent. There were three stages in hair follicles,1) anagen- active hair growth phase 2)catagen- transition phase(the lower part of hair follicle attached to the hair shaft) 3) telogen- hair is started falling in this stage, a severe hair loss will be seen in this stage. In the resting phase hair follicle it starts losing hair, there you see no hair growth. Use provillus for making your hair follicle to activate, the active minoxidil in provillus makes your hair follicle to produce hair .

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  8. precious jones

    My daughter 2 years old I been trying to grow her hair she have very thick short hair that I can’t pull up to a ponty tail I been using coconut oil in super gro it short in some area I have to keep it moisturizers 2 time a day because she have very dry hair I don’t know what to do or how style while short! Please help

  9. Ciara Lione

    I have tried so many things.My daughter had very thick hair while her early years. She is now 12 years old, and her hair is very thick, but so short. Now it’s thick and long.while her hair was so short,(by the way, this was while she was around 7 years old) People have been telling me to wash my daughter’s hair every other day. I have tried that, but my poor daughter’s hair is still very short. I also bought this very popular hair product called Shea Moisture. Her hair is getting much better. I got the shampoo, conditioner,and masque for it. It’s an AMAZING product. It could help a bald person grow hair! But there is one comdition, you cannot put too many braids on her hair. Trust me, I know she’ll probably be worried about what her friends will think, but it’s worth it. It only took about 5 months, and her hair is great! I suggest you get this product. You could find it at Walmart or target. It will change your life. I know because I have been through that, and my daughter has also.

  10. Rae

    My twins, a boy and a girl, were born with very little hair. Over the 3 years they’ve been on this earth I have struggled with their hair issues. My boy is easy because he can just were his hair short. My little girl I. The other hand suffers with diffuse thinning. The parts that are growing in are pretty lengthy but I can’t style it certain ways because it looks very thin. After doing research I’ve decided to take her to the Dr. For tests to make sure it’s not a medical condition such as Telum Effluvium, low zinc or iron, sensitivity to gluten, or some other condition. If you see thinning that seems to linger or get worse take them to a dr to get a proper diagnosis to see if something can be done to reverse the situation. My daughters hair is
    My hair and I can’t help it effecting me as much as her. She’s still very young but she’s already asking for long hair like xyz ( her doll, the white girls at church, her mixed sister). I wear my hair natural so she sees there’s nothing wrong with her natural hair because it’s what God gave her.

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Sanctify Your Bedroom

BY: - 5 Dec '12 | Home

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by G. Corey Carlisle

You know that feeling of walking into a cathedral, standing at a monument, or entering some sacred area and sensing the atmosphere shift? Without a word being spoken, you knew you were no longer in a common area, but rather in a place that was somehow special, set apart, and sanctified.

What if your bedroom was like that? What if when you walked into your bedroom you felt a positive shift in the atmosphere?

Sanctifying our bedrooms is one way we can enhance the lovemaking atmosphere of our marriage. It helps to create an environment that is conducive to lovemaking.

To sanctify something is to consecrate it, make it holy, or set apart it as sacred and regard it with reverence.

Is your bedroom a sanctuary for your marriage or just another common area where you happen to also sleep?

Consider the following ways to sanctify your bedroom.

Set apart your bedroom for three main activities:

  • Rest – sleep & space to relax and just be
  • Restoration – showering, dressing, grooming, etc.
  • Recreation (play)– sexual intimacy

We are certainly not limited to these activities, but the bedroom would be set apart for these activities. For example, it means that our bedroom is a place for us to hang out and play as a couple, not a place for our children to hang out and play. Likewise, in order to protect the sanctity of our bedroom, discussing finances or major conflicts might be better in the kitchen or home office.

When our bedroom becomes the dumping ground for our junk, stuff, and things, it is less likely to be a space that promotes lovemaking. Replace the workout equipment, stacks of papers and bills, dirty clothes, and the pictures of your Aunt Frieda with a décor that sets an intimate atmosphere for the two of you. Choose sights, sounds, and aromas that symbolize your oneness, and something your beloved can reflect on even when you are away. Give attention also to your tactile senses; make your room comfortable to be in and easy to turn toward each other.

Like a gardener, be intentional about cultivating your lovemaking atmosphere by setting boundaries for your bedroom and removing any “weeds” (e.g. take-home work, television, computer, pets, etc.) that are invasive and interfere with producing the fruit of intimacy. Bring only those things in your bedroom that will fertilize your intimacy and work to remove those things that, left unchecked, would choke out your intimacy.

Everyone’s situation is different, and what is ideal may not be possible for every living arrangement. Don’t get caught up in the details that you miss the spirit of this; sanctifying your bedroom even if just in spirit is a great way to enhance your lovemaking atmosphere.

May your bedroom be a haven for rest, restoration, and play with your spouse!

BMWK – is your bedroom your sanctuary? If not, what changes do you need to make to make your bedroom a haven for rest, restoration, and play with your spouse?

G. Corey Carlisle is a therapist at Building Intimate Marriages specializing in martial and sexual issues, and a recruiter for the SexInChristianAmerica.com research study. He holds the Master of Divinity in Marriage and Family Therapy from Amridge University and has received specialized training in Christian Sex Therapy from the Institute for Sexual Wholeness.

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Ronnie Tyler wrote 488 articles on this blog.

Ronnie Tyler is the co-creator of BlackandMarriedWithKids.com and co-producer of the films Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me, Men Ain't Boys and Still Standing. The proud mom of 4 has been selected by Parenting Magazine as a Must-Read Mom and is one of Babble's Top 100 Mom Bloggers.


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