5 Tips on Setting Relationship Goals for the New Year

BY: - 11 Dec '12 | Home

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Every year people get into a frenzy toward the end of the year as they make goals for the upcoming year. There’s always the people who make goals dealing with their health, their money and even their career.  But, what about your relationship? Every year we seem to put so much emphasis on superficial things. What if we put the same emphasis on goals for our happiness in our relationships? Would we be happier and better adjusted with our mates?

This year I’m making my regular goals, but I’m also taking time to sit down with my husband and develop goals for us in 2013. Our goals are not elaborate but deal with what we need in our relationship. Our goals have nothing to do with gaining something new materially, but deal with the emotional side of our relationship. We use the acronym S.M.A.R.T. to develop our goals and usually it takes us a couple of weeks to be completely done and ready for the new year. So how do you develop goals for something so personal and intimate? Use these 5 steps in developing and implementing goals for you and your spouse.

1. Be specific. We don’t like to make goals that are too broad such as ‘be happy’. All of our goals are specific- we say EXACTLY what we want. We believe if we speak it, it will manifest in us. For example, we may set a goal of writing thank you notes that tell one another why we’re thankful at least once a week.
2. Make them measurable. We’re not in the business of taking some type of meter and measuring every one of our goals. But we do want our goals to be measurable- by some extent. So if we set the goal to take more weekend trips, then in March we’ll see if we actually took any trips. If we didn’t take any- we’re in trouble. If we did, we are progressing to our goal.
3. Make sure they involve action. It’s always a good thing to talk about goals, but what do they mean if that’s all you do is talk? So we always make sure we have action steps for our goals. If we plan on traveling overseas as a couple, that means that we have to get our Passports/Visas and secure babysitting services for our kids. If our goal is to spend more time with just us two then we have to have dates (or time) set aside to do that.
4. Be reliable. In order for relationship goals to work, both parties have to be committed to them so if we say we’re going to do something we have to do it.
5. Be timely. Time is of the essence in goals because you have a year to manifest your goals. So even before January 1st we start working on them. Be mindful there has to be a start (and finish) for all goals.

So,  in the New Year make all of your regular goals but don’t forget that some of your most important ones should deal with your relationship! Now my BMWK family, what are your relationship goals for this year?

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Franchesca Warren wrote 44 articles on this blog.

Franchesca Warren is writer, author, blogger, educator, runner, entrepreneur, mother and overall BossyGirl. She's currently working on her second book detailing her chronicles of working in two of the roughest urban school districts with a release date of August 2012. You can find her full-time on her blog chronicling her life trying to balance it all and run a marathon by the end of the year. In her spare time she runs her own editing company, The Editing Nerd, and working on the launch of her first magazine. For a daily account of the good, bad and ugly of being a BossyGirl follow her on Twitter!


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5 Reasons Why I know Disney’s New Fantasyland is REALLY Enchanted

BY: - 12 Dec '12 | Home

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Grand Opening Celebration for Disney's New Fantasyland on December 6, 2012.
Photo Credit: Walt Disney World

Let me just get straight to the point…the kids and I HAD A BALL at the grand opening of  Walt Disney World’s  New Fantasyland last Thursday.  As a matter of fact, I don’t know who had a better time (me or the kids.)

New Fantasyland consists of the Enchanted Forrest and the Storybook Circus area. And contains new and “re-imagined” attractions such as the always popular Dumbo ride.  It brings your favorite Disney Stories and magical places to life, literally.  And, here are 5 reasons why I left Disney totally convinced the New Fantasyland is really enchanted:

#1. Because there is a fire breathing dragon flying over New Fantasyland.  I kid you not….. if you look into the sky, at night, you will see an actual dragon flying around New FantasyLand.  It’s hands down one of the most amazing things that I’ve seen in a long time.  (And I’m not just saying this because of my love for the Game of Thrones series….lol)  I literally stood looking up at the dragon with my mouth wide open for 5 minutes.  I don’t know how Disney pulled it off …..and I really don’t care to know because it would ruin the magical moment.

Dragon that flies around Disney’s New Fantasyland at night.
Photo Credit: Walt Disney World

#2.  Because I walked through an enchanted mirror. No Joke!!  One moment, I was standing in front of a mirror in Maurice’s Cottage in the Enchanted Tales with Belle attraction….And, Pow Bang…it turned into a doorway that led us to the Beast’s library.  And that magical portal was just the beginning.  In that library, the kids and I were able to participate in an interactive storytelling experience.  We were able to play different characters from the Beauty and the Beast story, along side princess Belle, in the flesh.  Awesome!!!

Mirror that turns into a magical portal – Enchanted Tales with Belle at Disney’s New Fantasyland.
Photo Credit: Walt Disney World

The kids and I played characters from the Beauty and Beast Story at the Enchanted Tales with Belle Attraction at Disney’s New Fantasyland.
Photo Credit: Lamar Tyler

#3.  Because Disney has literally doubled the fun.  Now, I know what you’re thinking: “Ronnie…how in the world could they possibly do that.”  Well,  New Fantasyland is the largest expansion in Magic Kingdom’s history, doubling the size of the original Fantasyland. And with this expansion, Disney has done everything in their power to give the guests the ultimate experience while you’re there.  For instance, we all know that the lines could get long for Dumbo as it is such a popular attraction.   Well, in the Storybook Circus area, they’ve added a second Flying Dumbo ride attraction.  But wait it gets better….because while you are waiting in line for Dumbo, the kids can play in an air conditioned circus t tent hat has a play area!! In addition to that, they’ve added the Casey Jr. Splash n’ Soak Station which is a water play area that will  allow the parents to take a break while the kids cool off and play.

Dumbo Ride at Storybook Circus area of New Fantasyland.
Photo Credit: Lamar Tyler

#4. Because the imagineers must be wizards.  Disney’s imagineers have really out done themselves with this one, because there is no way that mere mortals can come up with such creative experiences.  (Ok..ok… so I watch too much Lord of the Rings.) But seriously, New Fantasyland has a flying dragon, a magical mirror……and that’s just the tip of the iceberg.  With this multi-year expansion, they will be adding more magical experiences.  While there, we were given a sneak peak video of the Seven Dwarfs Mine Train.  It’s a roller coaster that promises to take guests on a “rollicking musical ride into the mine where a million diamonds shine.”

#5. Because I could feel the magic in my heart.  There is nothing (and I mean nothing) more special than seeing your child so happy and filled with joy.  My kids were literally on cloud nine…and so was I.  I couldn’t even ride any of the rides (doctor’s orders.) But that didn’t matter.  I enjoyed myself just watching my kids being so happy.

During the grand opening celebration, Tom Saggs –  Walt Disney Parks and Resorts Chairman, stated:

“Walt Disney once promised that Disneyland, and by extension all of our parks, would never be complete as long as there is imagination left in the world,” Staggs said. “New Fantasyland is a spectacular addition to the Magic Kingdom that delivers on Walt’s promise. We’re thrilled to take guests beyond the walls of Cinderella Castle to discover new worlds featuring iconic Disney characters and stories in ways that are more imaginative, more interactive and more immersive than ever before.”

Don’t take my word for it.  Make plans to visit New Fantasyland so that you can experience the magic for yourself. And 2013 promises to be a momentous year for Disney parks.  They will be having 52 weeks of magical experiences that will appear and then disappear each week.  Plus…you have to see that flying dragon for yourself!!!

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Ronnie Tyler wrote 527 articles on this blog.

Ronnie Tyler is the co-creator of BlackandMarriedWithKids.com and co-producer of the films Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me, Men Ain't Boys and Still Standing. The proud mom of 4 has been selected by Parenting Magazine as a Must-Read Mom and is one of Babble's Top 100 Mom Bloggers.


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