Love Your Kids Like There’s No Tomorrow – Praying for the Families in Newtown, CT

BY: - 14 Dec '12 | Parenting

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My heart bleeds for the families that have to endure the loss of their babies due to the recent massacre in Newtown, CT. I was in a toy store when my mom called me with the news, but it didn’t hit me instantly. As you see, we are a nation that has endured many senseless tragedies. From Columbine to Arizona to Colorado…we’ve seen it happen. We live. We grieve. We heal. Never completely, but with time, we do get better. It wasn’t until I sat down to eat lunch, did I fully realize the extent of what happened.

There were several conflicting reports about the shooter, the number of casualties and exactly what happened. But, there was one thing that was certain. There are mothers who unknowingly kissed their babies goodbye for the last time. There are fathers whose promises to their sons about the weekend’s activities that will go unfulfilled. There is most likely an older sibling that is grieving even more, because the last words at breakfast were something like, “I hate having a little brother/sister!” And sadly, there are gifts under the Christmas trees, that will never be opened by the intended sweet angel.

As I ate my lunch in a public place and perused social media, it became real and then suddenly surreal. I began to think, “That could have been one of my babies….I could have been on the other end of the phone conversation hearing those God-awful words…This could have have been me.” Uncontrollably, I began to sob – to the point that a concerned patron came over and asked if everything was ok. I told her why I was so upset. She said she hadn’t heard the news and immediately, we began to pray. There we were, a stranger and myself off in the corner of a popular restaurant at lunchtime, posturing and clasping arms and hands as if we were old friends or family. At that moment in time, we were family.

Anticipated but always caught off guard, I cringe when I have to answer my children’s inevitable questions about things like this, except for: “God knows what he’s doing…we often times don’t. Yes, this is extremely sad, but God will take care of everyone during this time. The best thing we can do is to just pray.” As parents, we sometimes worry about our kids hurting themselves or being hurt by others, but it is quite unimaginable for us to fathom that we would ever have to lay our children to rest. Sometimes there are sacrificial lambs that God uses to bring us closer to Him, to those we love and those we need to love more…before our own personal tragedies.

Such a dreadfully familiar scenario, as a country, we are once again clasping virtual hands and mourning  together as we grieve this loss of such precious little lives. May we continue to pray for those that lost loved ones in this tragedy. This truly makes me want to squeeze my cherubs even tighter, kiss their faces and tell them incessantly how much I love them. We need to make sure that they know – not just today, but everyday.

Please join us in praying for the families in Newtown, CT. 

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Sheree is a wife and WAHM of three who passionately blogs about marriage, family, health tips and more as Smart & Sassy Mom. Sheree is committed to helping blended families and keeping marriages strong, healthy, fun and SPICY!

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Clearly, We Must Have a Discussion About Gun Control in America

BY: - 17 Dec '12 | Events

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In the United States, it’s easier to buy a gun than to own a home. With a home purchase you have to go through months of inquiries into your financial, job, and relationship history. Everything is verified multiple times.  And, at any time if something does not ‘check out’ you are immediately denied the home loan. People plan for years to be ready to purchase their home. However, if you wake up one morning and want to buy a gun in the United States, you may have to wait a maximum of 7 days to purchase a piece of weapon that can kill another person. So what’s the problem? Should we ban weapons all together and only allow police and the army to have them? Of course not, however we must start having real discussions about gun control/education and stop hiding behind the belief that to discuss gun control means we are trying to take away people’s rights to ‘bear arms’. Never again do we want to turn on the news and learn that innocent children and adults were killed by someone who should not have been given access to guns in the first place.

This discussion has to be about common sense and gun control that will help protect our most precious commodity, our children, who far too often get guns in their hands. According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control, gun violence claims over 30,000 lives annually; while each year approximately 100,000 Americans are victims of gun violence. When the statistics are narrowed to our young people, the numbers are even more sobering. In 2007 the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention show that 3,042 children and teens died from gunfire in the United States —one every three hours, eight every day, 58 every week.

In simplistic terms, we have a problem. While many people argue that the solution lies within, totally outlawing guns is not the most common sense solution. Disarming law abiding citizens would make us targets for criminals. So what do we need to do?  I think we should address these key issues in regards to gun control :

1. Mandatory education class for anyone who buys a gun in our country. In some states, all you need is a driver’s license and the money and you can go into your local gun shop and buy a firearm. While other states are more stringent- there is almost no real mandate that makes sure people are given the proper education on how to handle/take care/protect your family with a gun.

According to David Kopel’s study on gun control, in Japan the differences are startling. To get a gun in Japan you have to attend an all day class, pass a written test (which is only held once a month). Then, you have to pass a rigorous background/mental health check for any criminal record. Lastly, you must provide police with documentation with the specific location of the gun in your home. (By the way, the gun and ammo must be stored in separate locations.) After all of that you can have the gun, but the police inspect the gun once a year and you have to retake the class and exam every three years!

2.Why do normal American citizens need military style assault weapons? The tragedy in Connecticut was compounded by the fact that the killer used his mothers semiautomatic and military assault weapons: a Bushmaster .223 caliber, Glock and Sig Sauer 9mm . These are all weapons that are meant to fire multiple bullets within seconds. Why do normal citizens need these type of weapons? Shouldn’t these type of weapons be reserved for military and police?

3.Why is music that blatantly glorifies gun violence readily played across the air waves of our country? We complain about violence in our society; however, we listen (and buy) music that glorifies gun use and gang violence then we wonder why our teens are being killed due to gun violence. To make matters even worse, there are parents whom have guns in their homes and they do not properly store or educate our children on their dangers.

In the end, a real discussion across political parties has to be had in this country about gun control. A conversation that is real, logical and most importantly figures out how to make our children safer. Don’t make the conversations about the cold, calculated killers like Adam Lanza but make it about those 26 beautiful teachers and students who were killed in Newtown, CT. They deserve it.

BMWK – what are your thoughts on gun control?

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Franchesca Warren wrote 44 articles on this blog.

Franchesca Warren is writer, author, blogger, educator, runner, entrepreneur, mother and overall BossyGirl. She's currently working on her second book detailing her chronicles of working in two of the roughest urban school districts with a release date of August 2012. You can find her full-time on her blog chronicling her life trying to balance it all and run a marathon by the end of the year. In her spare time she runs her own editing company, The Editing Nerd, and working on the launch of her first magazine. For a daily account of the good, bad and ugly of being a BossyGirl follow her on Twitter!

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