5 Things I’ve Learned So Far in Marriage

BY: - 15 Feb '13 | Marriage

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I’ve only been married 15 years so I don’t consider myself a pro at it, but I have learned some things that may help you in your marriage. Below is a short list I’ve compiled.

    1. I don’t always have to be right. Being wrong in an argument is a learning experience for me. It hurts sometime when I am wrong, but I had to learn that I won’t always be right. My husband does know some things. Ok, many things.
    2. I don’t have to fight about everything. Some things are not worth fighting over. I have learned to accept that some things are not going to change, like him putting the toilet paper or paper towels in the holder instead of on top or beside it. I just take the attitude of Nike and just do it. I recall all the other things he does right, like cleaning the vacuum out.
    3. I’ve learned his way of showing love.  I swear I used to think this man didn’t love me because he didn’t tell me as often as I thought he should. But as the years go by, I realize when he keeps the car running well to ensure my safety and buys my favorite cereal when I’m running low, without me asking,  he is showing me he loves me.
    4. It’s not what I expected. I thought marriage was going to be like and endless first date. I just knew I would feel in love every day and no one could have a relationship as great as ours.  Well let me tell you, there have been days that I wished I were single! Not due to my husband’s behavior, but just because some days I don’t feel like being a wife. The feeling doesn’t last long, because I start thinking about how blessed I am to have him as my husband. I still think no one has a relationship as great as ours. Just kidding.
    5. It’s not all about me.  My husband will tell you that I was spoiled when we first married. I felt that I had to have my way all the time, I should be able to get what I wanted when I wanted and he couldn’t tell me no. That was the immaturity refusing to grow up. I have learned to consider my husband’s feelings before making decisions. I have learned that marriage is a partnership and I was a part not the whole.

Your marriage will have its ebbs and flows, but if you check yourself in the mirror often, and be honest with what you see in the reflection, you will learn things about yourself and your marriage that can help someone else.  On another note, I’ve also learned how to drive a stick shift correctly, cut and edge a yard, and how to use a drill. I am looking forward to learning more so our marriage can continue to blossom and so I may help someone else.

BMWK — What are some things you’ve learned in marriage that you’d like to share?

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Latoya Irving wrote 85 articles on this blog.

Latoya Irving is a former Air Force brat who loves writing about relationships, and family. She believes God should be the center of both. She is married with two kids and currently live in Texas.

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    Very correct……….kip up d gud work

7 Ways to Flirt With Your Husband

BY: - 15 Feb '13 | Marriage

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The act of flirting is still alive and well! Don’t ever stop doing it. If you’ve ever stopped, get back to it. It’s always a win-win for everybody, that’s sure to lead somewhere that you BOTH wanna go. Flirting is an art. To some, it comes naturally. Just make sure that you’re using it when and where it matters the most and of course, that is anytime, any place, and with your spouse!

1. It’s all about the eyes.

Make sure that you undress him with those eyes. You know, that quick up and down action. It’s not only for the guys. Ladies…give it a try! Softly bite your bottom lip too, while you’re at it, for good measure.

2. Grab him.

Playfully give him a tap and make it Rated G, when the kids are around, but kick it up a notch when no one’s around. Try it before he heads out to work in the morning.

3. Let him choose.

We know that as women we can make our own decisions, but why not let HIM in on the action every once in a while? Lay out a couple of bra and panty sets and request his help with the choice of the day? What better way to have him thinking about “his choice” all. day. long?

4. Talk softly.

We’re always talking and yelling loudly, especially when there’s chaos and kids around. Speak softly and draw him closer to you so that he can hear the soft words that you’re speaking. Just make sure that what you’re whispering is the start of something good, because you’ve got him right there!

5. Surprise him!

No, you don’t have to pop out of a cake, and yell surprise!! Just leave one of Victoria’s little secrets in a hiding spot that he’d least expect. Guaranteed to make him smile. NOTE: Please not in his briefcase! We want you to PLAY with fire, not get him FIRED! If you’re skeptical about planting this sweet little surprise, try just leaving a post-it note first, and see how that goes!

6. Feel sexy. Be sexy!

I’m sure at this point in your relationship, he’s shared what he finds most attractive about your body. Whether it’s putting on something hot and racy that plays up and accentuates your assets, or just wearing one of his over-sized t-shirts, make him look! Most of all, make him like what he sees!

7. Kiss him.

Sounds simple, right? Kiss him at a time that he’d least expect it. Catch him off guard and he’ll be sure to return the favor!

Keep the fun going. Keep the fire burning! Most of all, keep the love and affection in the forefront, and the rest will follow.

BMWK — How many more ways can you flirt with your husband?

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Sheree is a wife and WAHM of three who passionately blogs about marriage, family, health tips and more as Smart & Sassy Mom. Sheree is committed to helping blended families and keeping marriages strong, healthy, fun and SPICY!

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