How Will You Celebrate the Gift of Love This Week?

BY: - 11 Feb '13 | Marriage

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I love that Valentine’s Day comes around every year to remind couples to give, do and be more thoughtful of one another and we sometimes put aside our differences in order to participate in this celebration of love. We focus on which gift expresses our love the most. Some of us use this time as an opportunity to take our relationship to the next level. It’s a special time, it’s true. Love is in the air, the stores are filled with aisles of goodies, and the color red and heart shaped things are everywhere. I can appreciate any idea, holiday or thing that honors love. Lord knows we need more love in this world.

One of my daily prayer requests is for love to spread. So believe me I get it. But can you imagine how awesome it would be if more relationships went beyond this one special day and incorporated even more acts of giving love throughout the year.

Love is a gift and should be treated as such. Our mates deserve year round rewards of love. Once we remember that love is a choice and that the person who gives it to us chooses to do so, the more valuable it will become. At any time one can decide to remove their love if they ever deem us unworthy. Because it is a gift, we should treat love as we would any present we truly value.

We should be grateful for it. Although it may not come in the shape, form or design we expected, love is still a reward and should be treated as such.

We should thank the person that showers us with it. As with anything we receive, we must thank the giver. Typically with gifts there are usually thank you cards; but in a relationship there are numerous ways we can say thank you. It can come in the form or returning the love back and treating the person the way we want to be treated. Or it can come in how we communicate with that person. Using words rooted in love to build the person up is another great way to show our appreciation daily.

We should wear the gift. Meaning we should bask in the love that is being shown to us. Enjoy, welcome, and embrace it fully. No one wants to see what they share with someone else wasted. So delight in the experience of receiving and sharing love with your special person.

Gifts are special, not everyone receives them. This is why we should treat them as such. If you have someone in your life who truly loves you, recognize your blessings and treat them with the utmost respect and care. And not just this week, but every week of the year. I want to be able to ask this question a few weeks from now just to make sure you are still celebrating loving and honoring your partner.

BMWK — How will you celebrate the gift of love this week and beyond?

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Tiya Cunningham-Sumter wrote 555 articles on this blog.

Tiya Cunningham-Sumter is a Certified Life & Relationship Coach, founder of Life Editing and Author of A Conversation Piece: 32 Bold Relationship Lessons for Discussing Marriage, Sex and Conflict Available on Amazon . She helps couples and individuals rewrite their life to reflect their dreams. Tiya has been featured in Essence and Ebony Magazines, and named one of the top blogs to read now by Refinery29. She resides in Chicago with her husband and two daughters. To find out about Couple's Coaching visit www.lifeediting.com.

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  1. Karen Allen

    I love the fact that you emphasize the importance of showing “love” all year long. Gifts are great but nothing compares to an ongoing commitment to investing in the lives of others by demonstrating our care and concern. Love is indeed a choice. It is also an action. An action that is so powerful and so needed in this day and time. Thanks for highlighting the fact that LOVE is needed all year long.

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Are You All About the Ring?

BY: - 11 Feb '13 | Marriage

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Photo Credit: personal wedding photo by Visionaries Media

Photo Credit: personal wedding photo by Visionaries Media

I will never forget how excited I was when my husband (boyfriend at the time) and I went looking at engagement rings. Suddenly everything began to feel more real and exciting. I was finally going to marry the man that I felt I was created to love. It was only a matter of time. Several months later he surprised me by proposing. I said yes and while I loved my ring I was more excited about the fact that I had a ring. For weeks after, anyone who saw me immediately (and usually excitedly) asked to see “the ring.” I always showed them but it always felt a little weird. Suddenly the focus was on the ring and whether or not we had a wedding date.

My ring wasn’t the ring of my dreams. It wasn’t one I had looked at online or circled in a catalog. But because it came from the man of my dreams it was just perfect. It had some sparkle, a special story (he picked it out all by himself), and no payments because he had made the decision to get what he could afford.

I wore my ring with pride from the day we got married until the end of my third trimester of pregnancy. Suddenly the ring that I coveted for so long, the ring that I felt naked without, the ring that symbolized our union no longer fit. As I pried it off, my fingers winching in pain, my husband reminded me that it was just a ring. While pretty and symbolic, ring or not we had made vows to one another, and a promise to God. We were married.

At almost 6 months post partum I still can’t comfortably fit my ring. I’ve debated getting it re-sized but have ultimately decided to wait as my body is still going through various changes since giving birth.
From time to time I glance at my finger, the tan line from my ring is almost gone and my hands no longer feel bare. I laugh as I reflect on a time in which I was all about “the ring.” And then I got it and once the newness of being engaged wore off, I was reminded that there is more to our relationship than the piece of jewelry intended to indicate my relationship status.

An article by Ebony states that the ring can be a “source of pride for women.” While the article looks at it from the perspective of proposal, I am curious if women are still just as excited about the ring after settling into marriage or does your focus shift. Does that ring you guarded and handled with care during your engagement no longer excite you?

I love my ring and ever so often I miss it but on the bright side I’ve got my husband and have no intentions of outgrowing him. For more the importance of engagement rings for women visit Ebony.

BMWK — Are you still all about “the ring” now that you’re married? Is wearing your ring important to you? Is it important to you that your spouse wears theirs?

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Krishann Briscoe wrote 32 articles on this blog.

Krishann Briscoe is a child welfare professional turned freelancer with a background in child and adolescent development and social work. In addition to authoring her personal blog His Mrs. Her Mr., Krishann is a contributor for Disney's Babble, The Conversation and The Conscious Perspective. Krishann resides in Southern California with her husband and their two daughters.

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