Husbands: 7 Things Your Wife Would LOVE to Get From YOU

BY: - 21 Feb '13 | Marriage

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I admit I don’t always know what my wife wants from me. You should go ahead and admit it too, you don’t always know what your wife wants from you either.

My wife’s needs change all the time, and they can be hard to keep up with. What spoke to her last week, may turn her completely off this week.  That can be frustrating, very frustrating!

The more you learn the more you realize you needed to learn

Over the years I have found there are a few consistencies in the things she loves from me. They are little things, but if done consistently they function like compounding interest over time. The return is substantial and well worth it.

I know every woman is unique in their own way, and their needs change, but the seven things I’m about to share will bless your spouse and in turn she’ll love you even more.

7 Things Your Wife Will Love From You

  1. Apologize to her. Fellas, just like me, there is something you have done wrong in the past 7 days. Find out what it is and apologize. Even if you don’t know what it is, apologize.
  2. Focus on her.  Spend 30-minutes communicating without any distractions. Nothing but you and your spouse. No phones, no computers, no TV, no kids, no music, nothing but the two of you. (Note: do more listening than talking)
  3. Feed her. Plan, prepare, serve, and clean-up a meal specifically for your spouse. Make something your spouse likes a lot. Husbands if you don’t have the skills to prep her “fav dish” then try “her fav dish that you prepare.” 🙂
  4. Leave her. Set up a time where your spouse can spend a few hours of time to herself. If you have kids, then take the kids somewhere and stay gone for a preset period of time. If she prefers to be out of the house, then help her plan or make arrangements.
  5. Join her. Find out one thing that your wife really likes to do and do it with her. If she has a favorite TV show, watch it with her. Favorite hobby or activity, do it with her. Just make sure you do it on her terms (if she likes silence during the show, then no talking!).
  6. Relieve her. Your wife has a thousand things to do this week, and a million things on her mind. Be domestic sexy, provide a break for her by taking on at least one thing she normally does.
  7. Compliment her. Every day, every week, every month your wife does things that are to be appreciated, but nothing is said.  Look for opportunities to compliment your wife on these everyday things, not just the “big” things.

Marriage is your most important relationship, second to God, and it should be treated as such. I encourage you to do each of the 7 things, and watch the extraordinary results which follow. Do them so much they become habits, and watch your marriage change for the better.

BMWK — What will you do over the next week that your wife will love from you? Wives, what would you love your husband to do over the next week?

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Jackie Bledsoe, Jr. wrote 62 articles on this blog.

Jackie is an author, blogger, and speaker who helps men better love their wives and lead their families. He is the creator of The 7 Rings of Marriage™. You can receive his latest BMWK posts in your inbox, plus his latest marriage and parenting posts from around the web by subscribing to his weekly newsletter!

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Marriage is Under Attack: Is it Worth Fighting For?

BY: - 21 Feb '13 | Marriage

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The institution of marriage is under attack and it is time to go to war! I’ve held a few different discussions on social media about the topic of marriage and I have been surprised about the overwhelmingly negative responses and perceptions that are associated with marriage. It used to be that marriage was a beautiful thing and represented true commitment and companionship, next level loving under God, and a family structure ideal for raising our future generation of kids. So what happened? Where did we go wrong and how do we get back to what marriage used to be? Those are the three questions I hope to answer by the end of this article! I preface this by saying that I know this article does not represent every marriage, but based on the discussions I am having daily about marriage this is the perspective that is manifesting in the current generation. If perception is reality then it’s time to go to war…come follow me!

So…what happened? What happened was that we became more selfish and less accountable. For some reason the idea of marriage went from being about a commitment under God to $60,000 weddings, $10,000 wedding dresses and people saying “Yes to the Dress!” instead of yes to the marriage! What happened was that marriage became more about what you could get out of it than what you could put into it. What happened was that people started marrying people without actually knowing them, divorcing six months later, and then blaming the institution of marriage for their failure. What happened was that married people began airing out all their dirty laundry while burying all of the clean laundry all while giving marriage a bad smell. Yup in a nutshell I believe that’s what happened.

So where did we go wrong? Well we went wrong when our friends became the center of our marriages instead of God. We went wrong when we thought that every day in marriage would be perfect, thus when we had our first argument we decided that marriage was just too hard. We went wrong when we decided that we would shack up first, have sex first, have a few kids first, then get married and then wonder why marriage wasn’t so “exciting!” We went wrong when we started devaluing the institution so much that we began to glorify and embrace the idea of side dudes, side chicks, and mistresses not realizing we were driving a stake right in the hearts of our marriages. We went wrong when we decided that marriage was all about us. When we decided kids didn’t need healthy two parent households because we were more concerned with the idea of having a baby rather than focusing on the task of actually raising that baby. Yup in a nutshell that’s where we went wrong.

How do we get marriage back to what it used to be? Well let’s start with understanding that marriage is a covenant under God that should be taken seriously. We can start by dating the right way and actually getting to know someone before we decide to marry them. We can start by managing the expectations about marriage and knowing that everyday won’t be perfect, but we can make every day be worth it. We can start with married people not blaming the institution of marriage for their short comings and instead being accountable and CHOOSING to be happy people within the institution of marriage. We can start with happily married people being on the advertisements instead of bitter unhappily married people being the poster children. We can start with realizing that marriage is about more than how we feel at the moment and more about what we build for the future. Marriage is still a beautiful institution and even though it’s under attack; for the sake of our children and our communities we must do what it takes to protect it.

BMWK — Why do you think that marriage has begun to have such a negative connotation?

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Troy Spry wrote 190 articles on this blog.

Troy Spry a Certified Life, Dating, and Relationship Coach and the one and only "Reality Expert", resides in Charlotte, NC. He created his blog, Xklusive Thoughts, with the intent of putting out a very realistic perspective and using it as a vehicle for inspiration! He hopes to challenge people to think differently and inspire people to do and be better in relationships and in life!

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