How I Met My Husband Online

BY: - 21 Jun '13 | Marriage

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I used to be a digital skeptic. My nickname is Analog Girl after all.  Ten years ago, I even lugged around a paper planner, feverishly flipping through pages to schedule appointments. I even refused to purchase an E-reader because I felt like there was nothing comparable to holding an actual book and marking in the margins.

That all changed one night after reading his tweets. “I’m tired of being owned by corporations” and “I want to be free.” He then talked about wanting to build a movement. After having worked with the Children’s Defense Fund, and several non-profit organizations I wanted to help. We exchanged phone numbers via DM to begin building this movement. Our first convo was about two hours and it was free of awkward pauses or filler lines. Eventually two hours turned into six hours, with text & instant messages in between, and our conversations started veering into the personal and the profound. Before we met and even now, we’re “What’s the point of this conversation?” people – rarely spending more than 30 minutes on a call, but here we were talking about the meaning of life, revolution and happiness. We also wrote mission statements for our budding organization and fantasized about our future – free of consumer debt.

He lived in New York at the time and I lived in Chicago and we were both involved with other people. Through conversation we got to scan each other’s hearts and in the process became best friends. We were free from the distractions of name brand clothing and first impression improv. In the beginning the only thing that we could get familiar with was the tone of our voices. When he met me it wasn’t the size of my behind or the height of my heel that attracted him. When I met him it wasn’t the number of drinks he bought me or the smell of his cologne that mesmerized me. He was attracted to my hustle and my desire to help him get his stuff together. I was attracted to his sense of humor and his candidness.

On February 24, 2010 when we got married (one year after dating), we became one out of five relationships that began online, and we’re now at 4 years together and in much better places than our previous marriages, as this is both my husband’s and my second marriage. We were both divorced after 5 years in our previous marriages. So seriously, true love may be waiting for you in gigabytes and html…

BMWK Family: Would you consider dating online? Why or why not? 

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Donnie Smith wrote 24 articles on this blog.

Donnie Nicole Smith is an adolescent education expert and lifestyle blogger. From her traumatic childhood to her triumphant womanhood – she shares pieces of her public marriage & relationship to grammy-award winning “raptivist” Che “Rhymefest” Smith and her private fertility challenges.

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3 WordPress comments on “How I Met My Husband Online

  1. Yves Smith

    I met my husband on blackpeoplemeet.com in 2003 and married in 2006. It was my first time using the site, we met on a Monday and had our first date that following Saturday. When I tell the full story most people are shocked…you just never now what you’re going to get when you meet someone online. I don’t gamble much – but this was a good one. I would recommend being open to something different…something new.

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Couples Spotlight: John and Tammy Wright, Owners ABC Wellness and Fitness Center

BY: - 21 Jun '13 | Couple's Spotlight

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John and Tammy Wright are a dynamic fitness military couple who founded ABC Wellness and Fitness Center in Waldorf, MD in 2009. They’ve been married ten years and have two boys, ages seven and six. While Tammy (who holds a Master’s in information resource management) is “behind the scenes” and heads the overall strategic planning of the business, John (who is a certified personal trainer), manages the recruitment. The couple has been featured in several media publications including Black Enterprise magazine. They’re on the same page when it comes to a lot of things, but their stories differed slightly when it came to how they actually met and started dating.

Her story: We met in the gym at Bolling Air Force Base. We both worked out a lot, and it just so happened that I was looking for a chef for an event I was having at church. He would come and talk to me while we were in the gym, and I wondered why this guy was bothering me during my workout time. Come to find out, he was a chef and he gave me his phone number. Although we ended up not needing him for the event, we kept in contact. When I saw it was going in a positive direction, I prayed on it and we decided to move forward. Some people were trying to discourage the relationship because we’re ten years apart.

His story: This is what really happened. I was a chef at the base and I was there at the gym training. We had a mutual friend that introduced us, so that’s how she found out I was a chef. I gave her my business card, and when I didn’t hear back from her, I just checked in with her to ask if anything ever happened and if they would still be in need of my services. Everything gets a little fuzzy after that [laughs].

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Christine St.Vil is co-author of the Whose Shoes Are Your Wearing: 12 Steps to Uncovering the Woman You Really Want to Be. A happy wife to an amazing hubby of 8 years, and homeschooling mother of three, she teaches moms how to FLY (First Love Yourself). She uses her corporate background to work with women who are ready to start a new business, accelerate their career growth & design a life they love. She's on a mission to help moms to battle the mom guilt epidemic, so they can begin to put themselves first on their never-ending list of priorities.

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