Make Your Man Feel Good; 5 Ways to Show Appreciation to Your Husband

BY: - 16 Jul '13 | Marriage

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Being a wife is a special privilege. Every day you have the chance to make your husband feel like he’s special, valued and desired. Sometimes life can get in the way. Here are five things that you can start doing to make your man feel good…

1. Massaging his feet

Every two weeks you can find me with my feet in the pedicure bowl. My favorite part of the experience is the “foot rub.” Sometimes I even pay a little extra for a little more TLC. One day, I thought my husband deserved this same treat so while he was sitting on the couch, I removed his socks and went to work. Now, when he has a particularly long or stressful day or when I want him to feel special I massage his feet. He’d never had a foot massage before me and now he looks forward to it.

2. Complimenting him

Who doesn’t love compliments? Ladies, when we get a new hair color or a new pair of shoes, we love to hear someone say, “I love your….” When was that last time you complimented your man? He needs to know that you love the way he smells. He’d love to hear that you admire the way he handled that last work conflict. Seriously, make a point to compliment your man at least once a week.

3.Breaking the rules with him

Sometimes we wives like to play it safe. We get wrapped up into a routine and things can quickly become stale. The best way to “freshen up” your relationship is to do something out of the ordinary… break the rules. Go play outside in the rain… forget your hair for a minute… wrestle… Every couple has their “safe boundaries” so breaking the rules will look a little different for everyone, but go ahead and cross your line.

4.Showing your gratitude for the little things

He cuts the grass, he takes out the trash, he takes the cars in for a tune-up. My husband has to travel regularly for work and when I have to carry in the groceries, pump my own gas and pick up my step-son from school, I am quickly reminded of how important his presence is to my life. All of those little things add up and as much as possible I show my gratitude. Leave him little love notes around the house. Call his name and when he thinks that you’re going to ask him to do something say, “I just wanted to say thank you for…”

5.Supporting his wildest dreams.

Maybe your man has always wanted to ride a motorcycle? Purchase him some lessons. Perhaps he’s always wanted to start his own T-shirt line? Do some research and find some affordable screen printing businesses. Have a conversation with your hubby about what it is he’s always wanted to do, and do your best to help him make it happen!

BMWK Family: Ladies, what are some unique things you do for your husband to show your love & appreciation for him? Gentleman, what does your wife do to show you that you’re special?  

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Donnie Smith wrote 24 articles on this blog.

Donnie Nicole Smith is an adolescent education expert and lifestyle blogger. From her traumatic childhood to her triumphant womanhood – she shares pieces of her public marriage & relationship to grammy-award winning “raptivist” Che “Rhymefest” Smith and her private fertility challenges.

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5 WordPress comments on “Make Your Man Feel Good; 5 Ways to Show Appreciation to Your Husband

  1. Nancy Perron

    Well for me care and showing love to each other is best. As long as you are honest with each other you will have a successful marriage life. Showing compliment to your husband is a good way also for making him feel that he is important to you.

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Coping with Losing My Job; Now My Husband has a New Wife

BY: - 16 Jul '13 | Marriage

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My apologies, I hope that I didn’t alarm you!  Please don’t be because you see the new wife is me. Let me explain.  In January 2013, I was laid off from a 9-5 that I had been working for 17 years.  For 17 years I clocked in for this company every day and in 2 different states.  Through rain, sleet, snow, hail AND Atlanta traffic, I was dedicated to this job.  For nearly 2 decades I served this cruel master, this 9-5. How it affected my well being, my marriage and life were never more apparent to me as they are now and my husband has made me realize this.

My job was a huge part of who I was.  Its what I spent most of my time doing.  I was a single mother for 11 years before I got married, and this job kept us fed during those lean times. I was a trustworthy employee often depended on to take on overtime and always being a “team player” in hopes of a promotion, plus chasing those bonuses with a vengeance.   When I moved from Indiana to Georgia to marry my husband in 2000, I came with a job because they agreed to transfer me.  My job was my life.  My job came first. When I became a work at home employee for this same company in 2005 I felt so blessed because I thought that it would allow me to be here for my family…but I wasn’t really here.

Let me say that differently.  I was here, but I wasn’t present.  By “present” I mean mentally here and really experiencing what is going on at that moment in time. Physically I was here, but mentally I was always thinking about my job.  I did not realize how often I was shushing the kids to take client phone calls, logging on at all hours of the day because my office was right there, working late every day to always finish up one more thing… I didn’t realize that I was putting my hopes and dreams on hold to slave for someone else’s.  I didn’t realize that any of this was happening while it was happening.  I thought I was superwoman and that I was handling it all, because no one was complaining.  Boy was I wrong!

So, here I am today, unemployed and the happiest that I have ever been in all my days as an adult. My husband says all the time that he has a new wife!  He says that he enjoys this calm, unstressed version of me.  My children tell me that I am a lot calmer too (which makes me think that i was a maniac!).  I am grateful that I’ve had a chance to be present with each of them at some point during the past 6 months.  I’ve lost weight and rediscovered my gorgeous legs! I’m having the time of my life reintroducing myself to the people that I have been blessed to share a life with.  I am at peace and pursuing my dreams (one of which was to write for this site!).    I am more attentive to my husband’s needs and the emotional needs of my family.  My husband has taken notice and it shows in his new reactions to me.  Things have always been pretty good for the most part, but now they are just so much sweeter.  I am his new wife and I am enjoying the new way that he loves me. I am free.

BMWK – Can you relate to the way the my job affected my life? Does your job affect you in similar ways?

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Stacey Taylor aka "The SistahChick" is the 40+ SuperChick behind TheSistahCafe.com, Sistah Buttah, and OurNaturalKids.ning.com. She is a writer, blogger and Social Media Maven with a passion for natural hair and her community. Through her online presence she promotes generational self acceptance for women & children alike. Since 2009 Stacey has used her blog to share her love for Atlanta's thriving social scene, natural hair and her successful life as a wife, mother & entrepreneur. Stacey is an Indiana native currently residing in Atlanta, Georgia with her husband and kids.

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