This Week’s Fab 5 Marriage Resources!

BY: - 9 Aug '13 | Marriage Resources

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Time for a summer edition of our popular Fab 5 Marriage resources.  This edition includes a great mentoring program for kids, life coach,  guide to long lasting relationship and much more.

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The P.H.A.T. Kids Mentoring Program...Summer is kids time with summer camps, vacation bible school and fabulous family vacations in full swing.  Summer is also a great time to experience something totally different and the P.H.A.T. Kids Mentoring Program is a great option.  The P.H.A.T. Kids Mentoring Program is available providing  community enrichment and outreach programs for youth and adults by preparing our children for the future thru tutoring, life coaching and extra curricular activities.  Click here to learn more about this unique program.

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‘How to Stay Married for at Least 100 Years.’…Are you struggling in your relationship or marriage? Are you looking for answers to those tough questions?  ‘How to Stay Married for at Least 100 Years by Darren Smith has the answer to every marital problem within its pages.  Click here to start building a stronger relationship.

 

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“Life Editing Coaching Services”… Was founded by certified life and love coach Tiya Cunningham-Sumter to help people discover what isn’t working in their life and/or relationships and remove those negative thoughts and behaviors that frequently block us from having what we want.  Take the first step in removing your roadblocks by clicking here and learning more about ‘Life Editing Coaching Services.’

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“What Yo Nayme Iz-Volume Too”…Does your name or what you name your children affect self esteem, life relationships and quite possibly your career.  Yes, it can and authors Rodney Kellum and Shawn Ousley examine the delicate topic of how ethnic or unique names impact children in school, adults in the work place and in life relationships.  Click here to learn more about this delicate topic.

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“Life in Righteousness:  The Word is Your Life!” …If you desire to achieve more in your life and reach new heights this is the book for you!  This book will show you your true identity in Christ. Once your eyes are opened up to who you really are in Him, that’s when you’ll change. That’s when you’ll go higher. Transformation is in the discovery. This book will take you from the position that you’re at now to a higher one.  Click here to begin the journey to self discovery.

These are just a few of the fabulous resources on the BlackandMarriedwithKids.com Resource Guide.  Take advantage of the special complimentary 30-day listing and get your book, coaching/counseling service, event or marriage/relationship resource listed on the BlackandMarriedwithKids.com Resource Guide today!

By Kirstin N. Fuller

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Kirstin N. Fuller aka The Travelin Diva is a DC based travel journalist bringing fellow travelers the best deals on family vacations, couples retreats, spa getaways, the best travel gadgets and more in BMWK's exclusive Travel Tuesday & Weekend Travel Guide columns. Check out her new travel blog daily for more deals & destinations www.passenger156.com.

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When It Comes to Our Spouses, Why is Forgiveness So Hard

BY: - 7 Oct '13 | Marriage

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“Ain’t asking for forgiveness for my sins…” – Jay Z

I wonder, how many of us are asking for forgiveness from our sins? Not only asking for forgiveness from God for things we’ve done, but asking for forgiveness from our spouses if we’ve wronged them. Webster defines forgiveness as “to grant free pardon and to give up all claim on account of an offense or debt.” Did ya’ll get that? “To grant free pardon” and “to give up all claim of an offense or debt”. So basically, forgiveness is to wipe the slate clean like it never even happened. So, that means once we have truly forgiven someone, we shouldn’t be bringing up what they did 5 days, 5 months or 5 years later. And that’s not what a lot of us do when we say we “forgive” someone.

It seems like a lot of people’s definition of forgiveness looks more like “I’ll forgive you, but I won’t forget.” Which isn’t forgiveness. So why is it so hard for us to forgive?

I think a big reason why people don’t know how to forgive is because we don’t know how to deal with the hurt that person inflicted on us. I personally think it’s very hard to be able to truly grasp the concept of forgiveness if you don’t have a relationship with God. Before I became a believer, there were times that I thought I forgave people but when I look back at it, I realized that I really hadn’t forgiven them.

Yeah, I might kick it with them from time to time and on the surface I thought I wasn’t mad at them anymore but deep down inside, there was resentment that had been building up. I’ve learned that without true forgiveness, I’m hurting myself by keeping all of this negative energy inside me.

we’re all going to have to learn how to forgive because one of the many things that’s guaranteed in marriage, is that our spouse WILL do something to us that they will need to be forgiven for.

In the past, I’ve made a lot of bad decisions and treated people who had hurt me, REALLY messed up…. because I felt like they deserved it.  And now when I look back at it, me trying to get them back was just as wrong as what they did to me.

Since I’ve matured more in Christ, I think I have a better understanding of forgiveness…but I’m still growing. And think of it like this, we’re all going to have to learn how to forgive because one of the many things that’s guaranteed in marriage, is that our spouse WILL do something to us that they will need to be forgiven for. And we’ll do something to them as well, and we’ll need to ask for forgiveness and it’s going to be hard to ask for forgiveness when we truly don’t understand it ourselves. And on that note, let me leave you with some things God has to say about forgiveness:

We forgive because we have been forgiven by God (Ephesians 4:32)

We forgive in obedience to God (Matthew 6:14-15; Romans 12:18)

We forgive others to gain control of our lives from hurt emotions (Genesis 4:1-8)

We forgive so we won’t become bitter and defile those around us (Hebrew 12:14-15)

BMWK – do you find it hard for you and/or your spouse to forgive each other?  Why is that?

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Rahaman "Kil" Kilpatrick wrote 27 articles on this blog.

Rahaman "Kil" Kilpatrick is a relationship coach, producer, writer, photographer, director and co-creator of Marriage Exposed. He has been married 13 years to his beautiful wife Tanya and they have a beautiful daughter together, Naomi. Through Marriage Exposed & coaching couples with Dr. Roz, Kil encourages people to always continue to fight for their marriages and relationships.

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