Our Marriages Need a “Village” to Help Them Succeed

BY: - 16 Sep '13 | Marriage

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I’ve been to my fair share of weddings throughout the past 10 years. Some are still around and some have an ended.  But one thing that I’ve heard at many of these weddings is the pastor telling the audience that he’s charging them with “investing” in this marriage to help it last. But I don’t think a lot people realize that a marriage is sometimes another entity from the two people that are in the marriage. The marriage is like a child. And the same way you’ve heard the saying that it takes a village to raise a child, likewise sometimes it takes a village to keep a marriage together. But in order to do that, the married couple have to have that “village.”

You will get return in your investment, if attention you pay… – Jay Z

I remember one time when I was a teenager and I was driving my uncle’s car (I usually was always seen driving my mom’s car) and when I pulled up on my block before I could even get out the car my neighbor Mr. Bey from across the street was already at the car door window giving me the 3rd degree! “Who’s car is this? Where did you get it from? Does your mom know you’re driving this car?” And best believe if I didn’t show him the registration that it was my uncles car, I would’ve been in a world of trouble. The moral is that their were certain people on my block growing up that, not only had my mother given them permission to check me and make sure I was doing right, but those people genuinely wanted to see me succeed and not go down the wrong path.

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Rahaman "Kil" Kilpatrick wrote 27 articles on this blog.

Rahaman "Kil" Kilpatrick is a relationship coach, producer, writer, photographer, director and co-creator of Marriage Exposed. He has been married 13 years to his beautiful wife Tanya and they have a beautiful daughter together, Naomi. Through Marriage Exposed & coaching couples with Dr. Roz, Kil encourages people to always continue to fight for their marriages and relationships.

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4 WordPress comments on “Our Marriages Need a “Village” to Help Them Succeed

  1. Finally

    Wonderful article! We more often than not fear anything that requires such a long-term investment with no “apparent” guarantees. We’d rather have the immediate physical, often empty, gratifications. We reap what we sow. If we support and invest in the success of others, we will reap that investment in our own lives. This is a hard lesson to learn and requires a different type of “vision” that is not easy to acquire even though it’s staring us in the face.

  2. Mrs. Prince Bryant

    Omg, I have tears in my eyes because I’ve been saying this since I got married. We NEED each other to succeed. If the odds are already stacked against married couples that means, before you know it your marriage will end. Investors yes, invest in marriages. It’s so unfair for you to go to a wedding, buy a gift, take pictures with the couple and not be there to help them fight for their marriage. It’s been on my heart which means that I need to do my part.

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Fellas, Realize that You Need Her Before She’s Ready to Leave

BY: - 17 Sep '13 | Marriage

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“I need you!” That’s the thing we say as men when we are at our most vulnerable point and about to lose the woman we love. With it comes a feeling of a deep pit in the stomach that can only be filled by her saying she won’t leave us. We promise to make every change she has ever wanted us to as we plead that all we need is one more last time! Suddenly we are stripped of our pride, the ego washes off and we are left….naked. We realize that having you wasn’t just a luxury because in reality we really do NEED you! Let me explain….here are a few reasons why we NEED YOU!

1) We Need Your Unconditional Love

As men we feel constant pressure. We are constantly challenged to prove our worth to the world. Do we make enough money? Are we accomplished enough to make you proud to call us your man? How do we compete with the next man constantly looking to take our spot?, The task to provide and protect is no easy feat, but coming home to a woman who loves us unconditionally makes it all worth it. Knowing that if we lost the battle with the world you would be there to pick us up is why we need you!

2)  We Need Your Soft Touch and Nurturing Spirit.

All grown men were once little boys who at some point needed their mother to hug them and say it would be okay. It’s just something about that woman’s touch; that rub of the shoulders; that rub on the top of the head; or that stroke of the ego. As much as we might want to hang with our boys that soft touch is always a reason to want to come home. That touch says more than any words you could ever say and for that reason we need you!

3) We to Connect with You Intimately.

Don’t get me wrong we love sex, but we also desire a deeper connection as well. We want that spiritual experience that we can’t experience with just anyone. We want to be able to feel vulnerable in our feelings without feeling judged. Men like to have the security of knowing we can experience you whenever we want to without the awkward morning afters or the unknown expectations. Yes, for this reason as well we need you.

Okay now that the secret is out I hope this lets wives and girlfriends know that your impact on us as men should never be doubted. I also hope this encourages some men to do what it takes to keep her so that when you tell her “I need you” it’s not to save the relationship…… it’s because you are just being honest. Yes ladies…WE NEED YOU!

BMWK family what else do you think couples need from each other?

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