Our Marriages Need a “Village” to Help Them Succeed

BY: - 16 Sep '13 | Marriage

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I’ve been to my fair share of weddings throughout the past 10 years. Some are still around and some have an ended.  But one thing that I’ve heard at many of these weddings is the pastor telling the audience that he’s charging them with “investing” in this marriage to help it last. But I don’t think a lot people realize that a marriage is sometimes another entity from the two people that are in the marriage. The marriage is like a child. And the same way you’ve heard the saying that it takes a village to raise a child, likewise sometimes it takes a village to keep a marriage together. But in order to do that, the married couple have to have that “village.”

You will get return in your investment, if attention you pay… – Jay Z

I remember one time when I was a teenager and I was driving my uncle’s car (I usually was always seen driving my mom’s car) and when I pulled up on my block before I could even get out the car my neighbor Mr. Bey from across the street was already at the car door window giving me the 3rd degree! “Who’s car is this? Where did you get it from? Does your mom know you’re driving this car?” And best believe if I didn’t show him the registration that it was my uncles car, I would’ve been in a world of trouble. The moral is that their were certain people on my block growing up that, not only had my mother given them permission to check me and make sure I was doing right, but those people genuinely wanted to see me succeed and not go down the wrong path.


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  • Finally

    Wonderful article! We more often than not fear anything that requires such a long-term investment with no “apparent” guarantees. We’d rather have the immediate physical, often empty, gratifications. We reap what we sow. If we support and invest in the success of others, we will reap that investment in our own lives. This is a hard lesson to learn and requires a different type of “vision” that is not easy to acquire even though it’s staring us in the face.

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    Phenomenal Article…Sharing this with all My Married Friends!!!

  • Mrs. Prince Bryant

    Omg, I have tears in my eyes because I’ve been saying this since I got married. We NEED each other to succeed. If the odds are already stacked against married couples that means, before you know it your marriage will end. Investors yes, invest in marriages. It’s so unfair for you to go to a wedding, buy a gift, take pictures with the couple and not be there to help them fight for their marriage. It’s been on my heart which means that I need to do my part.

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