3 Statements Every Spouse Needs to Hear

BY: - 8 Oct '13 | Home

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For our seventh wedding anniversary, my husband planned a lovely evening for us to celebrate our special day. We went to dinner and then he surprised me with tickets to see Patti LaBelle in concert. We were probably the youngest people there, but who doesn’t love them some Patti?!

The show was excellent. Patti belted through the plethora of hits that have marked her stellar career with vibrancy and ease. Mid-way through her set, she sang her classic slow jam, “Love, Need and Want You.” As she sang and I stood there in my husband’s arms, I couldn’t help but think about how powerful the statements “I love you,” “I need you,” and “I want you” are in a marriage.

Here are 3 statements every spouse needs to hear:

Honey, I love you.

Far too often, as we get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life, “I love you” becomes a quick salutation at the end of phone conversations and text messages between spouses. How much more would it mean if you stopped your spouse from whatever they were doing, stared into their eyes and said, “I love you.” It’s easy to take your husband or wife’s love for granted. Make the extra effort to express your feelings for them and let them know they are loved and appreciated by you.

Baby, I need you.

Merriam-Webster defines the word need as “a situation in which someone or something must do or have something.” Think about that for a second. When you say to your spouse that you need them, you are declaring that you must have them! Tell your partner today that you need and must have him or her…just like you need air to breathe.

Sugar, I want you.

Never let your spouse wonder if you still desire them. Make it known that you want every part of who they are – don’t expect them to guess. Looks can change over the years, but what’s most important is that your spouse knows that, no matter what, you want them in every way; mentally, emotionally, and physically.

And there you have it. Whether you’ve been together two years or twenty, there’s nothing more powerful than telling your husband or wife how much you love, need and want them. Add those words to the lexicon of your marriage without delay. Be sure to back them up with actions, too!

If all else fails, call on Patti LaBelle to help you along and simply repeat this lyric of her song:

“I love and need and want you, baby.”

BMWK family: Who will commit to telling their spouse in a thoughtful and purposeful manner that they love, need and want them – TODAY? Comment below and let us know!

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Amber Wright wrote 39 articles on this blog.

Amber is a Communication Coach and Consultant that wants to help you learn how to say it right – from the boardroom to the bedroom! Visit her website, www.talktoamber.com, to find fun and insightful information on how to improve your communication skills and overall quality of life.


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6 WordPress comments on “3 Statements Every Spouse Needs to Hear

  1. tanisha

    This site is such a blessing it helps to give me ideas because i do not know everything and want to cpntinue to learn and grow. It felt good to say those wonderful words to the man i love and to hear them back priceless. your truly a blessing keep spreading your wisdom.

  2. November

    @Ashee, me too 🙂

    As a single woman, I must say that I LOVE this website. I read and cherish the information as wonderful rules to remember when God leads me and my future husband to each other.

    Thank you for making the time to write this article.

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It’s Time to Speak Up: Postpartum Depression in African American Women

BY: - 10 Oct '13 | Home

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Last week, we watched a story unfold about a woman who was shot dead at after a bizarre car chase in Washington, D.C. Details were very fuzzy as the news initially reported who 34-year-old Miriam Carey was and what could have been her motive for driving erratically with her child in the car. Various stations speculated there may have been mental health issues surrounding her delusions of President Obama stalking her. Carey’s mother and sister have both come out to the media, stating that she was suffering from postpartum depression with psychosis.

Symptoms of postpartum psychosis include disorientation, hallucinations, paranoia, and attempts to harm your baby or yourself. In December, Carey told police that she believed “President Obama would place the city of Stamford under a ‘lockdown’ and that he had her and her residence under electronic surveillance.” Discoveries in her apartment led officials to believe her mental state was deteriorating over time, but she had not been hospitalized for the issue.

Postpartum psychosis is a separate disorder from postpartum depression or baby blues. Both disorders affect a mother’s bonding with her child, as well as functioning from day to day. It usually sets in about two weeks after childbirth and could last up to a year. According to the American Psychological Association (APA) 9-16% of women will experience PPD. Women living in large cities are more likely to experience it than women living in rural areas.

An article in the Journal of Cultural Diversity that covered postpartum depression in African American women stated,

Participants suggested that depression was something that would not be disclosed readily among African-American people (or outsiders) because of the stigma attached to it and the negative consequences.

These negative consequences include past atrocities encountered by African-American people in health care systems, particularly mental health institutional systems where African-American children were taken from their mothers, and other stigmas regarding African-American women’s care of their children.

This unfortunate incident is an eye opener for a conversation that desperately needs to be had surrounding mental health and the black community. I personally don’t know any women in my circle who have admitted to suffering from PPD, but I know they are out there. We can help by educating ourselves about the problem, offering support if your loved one may be having the baby blues, and seeking help that is available if you’re experiencing the symptoms.

How can we deal with PPD better in our community?


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Briana is a writer, influencer, and Shero who's California bred and Texas fed. When she's not explaining the world of blogging and social media to entrepreneurs and small business owners, you can find her sharing memes, gifs, and her life lessons on her blog.


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