9 Things Your Husband Doesn’t Want to See You Doing

BY: - 3 Oct '13 | Marriage

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I’ve been with my husband a long time, and I’ve almost always worn something on my head at night. All this time, I just knew my husband thought my bonnets made me look sexy. I even took initiative to change it up a bit (either by color or by cocking it to one side like a kangol hat). But I was recently hit with the hard truth that he (*gasps*) hates it. So due to his lack of appreciation of me wanting to keep my ‘do intact, it got me wondering what else were some things that I or some of his friends’ wives did that they really didn’t care for? Well…I asked, he asked, and below is what they had to say.  None of these will probably lead to divorce or anything…but they may cause a need for a temporary space barrier to be put in place.


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And don’t even try to act like you don’t do it (*side eye*). And yes, it counts even if you try to sneak a quiet one in under the covers. We all know that if those covers lift in even the slightest manner…it’s a wrap for everyone involved. And yes, this sanction was at the top of all of their lists…

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Christine St. Vil wrote 153 articles on this blog.

Christine St.Vil is co-author of the Whose Shoes Are Your Wearing: 12 Steps to Uncovering the Woman You Really Want to Be. A happy wife to an amazing hubby of 8 years, and homeschooling mother of three, she teaches moms how to FLY (First Love Yourself). She uses her corporate background to work with women who are ready to start a new business, accelerate their career growth & design a life they love. She's on a mission to help moms to battle the mom guilt epidemic, so they can begin to put themselves first on their never-ending list of priorities.


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26 WordPress comments on “9 Things Your Husband Doesn’t Want to See You Doing

    1. Alexa

      No, it’s part of living a normal life. He married a human, not a unicorn. I’m not saying to go out of your way to be gross..or dutch oven him, but I will not make myself uncomfortable to seem like I’m this perfect thing I’m not. Oh, and he totally agrees. He said “what’s the point of a relationship if you can’t totally be yourself?” My point exactly.

  1. Erica B.

    This is a “cute” article, but realistically — when you been married for a couple of decades as I have, husbands AND wives see worst from one another. Once my husband saw me deliver our children from both a regular delivery and a C-section, all bets were off! Chatting in the bathroom while one of us is on the toilet is child’s play after all of the blood and gore of labor! And not to mention my husband’s battle with G.I. tract ulcers. If you’ve never witnessed the results of a G.I. bleed, then you don’t know what “In sickness or health” means. We’re bonded for life!

    And if you’re yawning during sex?! Wow… Maybe he should see you and then he’ll put forth more effort into blowing that back out!

    But still, cute article!

      1. Anonymous

        Me and my husband are newly weds(1 year), and we do all these things in front of each other, excluding #9. If you love one another, it shouldn’t matter how long you were married, you should be comfortable around one another.

    1. Andi

      Too bad you didn’t read the part where it said these were “her husbands’ friends answers”. Nobody said ditch your wife if she does these things, just take note that not everything you do is “cute”.

    2. Alexa

      That’s what it’s about..being there for each other at your best and worst. We don’t expect each other to hide things bc let’s face it, you marry someone you are comfortable with. Being able to do these things around someone shows that. I have to agree, we do have some of the best conversations on the toilet. I like to think it’s because he can’t just walk away lol. That’s probably the reason he follows me in too.

  2. Anonymous

    My husband went to Human Resources to acquire assistance for new job position, because he eas terribly upset with his boss. The HR Represenative, was an elderly lady, listened to him, went back in the office and informed her coworker there is nice looking fellow requesting assistance for a lateral job position and he is not married! My husband saide he she brought the woman out, and offered the woman sexually to him! He said he had to tell the HR rep and the other woman that he was married, and that he was very happy in that area! He said he was embarassed! I went on the job, the HR rep said sh thought he was single he so nice and good looking! HE STILL DID NOT GET THE LATERAL MOVE HE WORKS FOR THE CITY OF ST. LOUIS, IM STILL THINKING ABOUT A LAW SUIT! THESE WOMEN ARE SKANKS, I COULD NOT BELIEVE IT! UNPROFESSIONAL! HARLETS ASSISTING HARLETS TO DESTROY MARRIAGES! NOTHING IS SACRED ANYMORE!

    1. Andi

      Umm, so we should not let ourselves go, but we can burp in his face while wearing a hair net, sitting on the toilet? ‘Cause that’s sexy -_- Chile, bye!

      1. Alexa

        That’s all better than letting yourself go. That shows that you gave up on yourself and are doing little to maintain it. In addition, its a reflection of how you care about your health.
        All natural bodily functions are normal for couples to do in front of each other. Holding everything in while you live with this person isn’t normal or healthy. It’s not like they don’t know you go to the bathroom. No one said to burp in anyone’s face while wearing a hair net…

  3. Ariel Holmes

    We should respect each other’s comfort level. I laughed the whole time. Love is compromising and worth the commitment when it is real. HILARIOUS, but RESPECTED!

  4. April

    This article is crazy! My husband and I have been married for 10 years and we pass gas in front of each other. He has been going to the store to get my feminine products since we moved in together before we got married. When I was far along in my pregnancies he helped me shave. Yes he doesn’t mind when I wrap my hair in a head wrap or wear a satin cap to bed. The only thing I agree with is not letting yourself go.

  5. 20yearwifey

    This article was a waste of my time and the author is delusional. Advice to the author, do a bit more research and group sessions to get your facts straight before writing about something you obviously hasn’t had enough experience in. Being a wife of 20 years, there are ups, downs, highs, lows, good and bad and when you said “for better and for worse” you vowed to stick it out regardless. This might be a perfect time for the author to rethink her career choice.

    1. Alexa

      I agree with you. It’s not accurate. And the double standard of what men and women should and shouldn’t do is ridiclious. Men know they married a woman, not a babrie. We do all in front of each other, except letting ourselves go (bc we enjoy working out) and I haven’t yawned during sex. But I really think he’d be more hurt if I starting hiding stuff. Being in a relationship isn’t about keeping a “mystery” men know how humans function, (yes, women included). A relationship is about being comfortable with each other and growing together. In my opinion, nothing you do in front of each other should gross you out to the point where you need to stop doing it. You love this person for better or for worse.

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3 Ways Forgiveness Heals You

BY: - 4 Oct '13 | Marriage

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Has someone hurt you and you can’t seem to move past it? Do you want to seek revenge so that person can feel the pain they inflicted on you? If you answered yes, let me encourage you to forgive them instead.  Holding on to the hurt and anger for an extended period of time can damage your well-being and keep you in bondage. You may ask…. what’s in it for you to forgive someone for wronging you.  Well, here are three ways forgiveness heals you.

First, forgiveness heals your mind.

It allows you to make wise decisions instead of plotting revenge that could harm you or your family in the future. For example, deciding to have an affair to get back at your spouse can gain you a stalker or worse. Do not allow your hurt feelings to dictate your negative thoughts. Instead, do what Philippians 4:8 says…

whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Second, forgiveness heals your body.

If you don’t forgive, the stress from those negative thoughts and feelings will affect your body. Stress brings sickness, such as high blood pressure and ulcers. Refusing to forgive can cause you to worry about getting hurt again. You may fear being in another relationship due to the possibility of another disappointment. The act of forgiving does not have a feeling, but the results can.  Deciding to forgive releases the tension from your body and brings a sense of peace.

Lastly, forgiveness heals your soul.

If you continue to dwell on the wrong done to you and allow negative thoughts to control your irrational actions, you run the risk of delaying a blessing.  There may be something or someone that is supposed to be in your life, but the decisions you make because of not forgiving someone can cause you to delay or even miss it.  Mark 11:24 says

“Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. [25] And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.”

Forgiving someone does not say that what that person did was OK. It means you no longer allow it to hold you hostage.  You have the right to be angry and hurt; just don’t stay in that place. Envision your forgiveness like a helium balloon released in the air; once you let it go, it never returns. Move forward by faith, embrace your healing and forgive.

BMWK – Are you ready to forgive someone today?

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Latoya Irving wrote 99 articles on this blog.

Latoya Irving is a former Air Force brat who loves writing about relationships, and family. She believes God should be the center of both. She is married with two kids and currently live in Texas.


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