Sometimes marriage reminds me of being a kid. It’s literally like you’ve gotta get permission for almost everything you do. I can remember being a kid trying to convince my moms to buy me a pair of Jordans for $140 (which in ’88 was BANANAS for a pair of sneakers.) And now, I find myself doing the same as an adult! Whether it’s still a pair of Jordans some 22 years later or a $400 PS4…I gotta check in with wifey first. I honestly think compromising is one of the hardest things about marriage.
As a kid, your main thing usually was, “I can’t wait to grow up so I can do what I wanna do”. Then, you graduate high school and go off to college or move out your people’s house. And now, you’re finally on your own and you can do whatever you wanna do, whenever you wanna do it, and stay out as late as you wanna stay out! You’ve finally gotten your freedom! Then you decide to get married…and you’re right back to being 16 years old again!
Remember, marriage is not about you anymore. Marriage is truly about being a servant to your spouse. It’s about two people becoming one. And when it’s time to make important decisions you should want your spouse’s opinions.
I think it’s crazy how some marriages work. I’ve literally heard of people coming home and telling their spouse they quit their jobs, bought a new car, or have decided to go back to school. And I’m sure the list could go on and on. And to me, that’s beyond disrespectful. Things like quitting your job, buying a new car, going back to school, etc. should be discussed with your spouse before YOU (remember marriage isn’t about “you”) decide to go out and do it.
And just like a kid, sometimes you’re not gonna get your way…. but MAN UP! You’re not a kid anymore. And where else in life do you get your way all of the time? Nowhere. So why would you expect to get your way all of the time in your marriage?
I tell folk all the time that if you wanna do something and your spouse is cool with it…give them the biggest hug ever and enjoy this moment cause many couples don’t agree on much of anything. Now again, I’m not saying EVERY couple disagrees about EVERY decision….but it’s a problem for a lot of marriages. And the bigger problem ….means it’s important to know how to compromise during these decisions.
Now, how do you compromise?….
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