I recently had a brief conversation with a friend and he was trying to understand what a very close female friend of his meant when she said “Oh, you’re just too nice”. I honestly never had to tell a guy that, and I wasn’t even sure what a woman could possibly mean by telling another man that. But we hear it all the time “nice guys finish last”. To me, it’s just always been a catch phrase. To me, it wasn’t something that grown folks used in this day and age, simply because, well, you’re grown. And everyone knows good and well that someone being “too nice” is never actually the real issue.
Well like I mentioned before, I definitely have a “nice guy” and have for some time. So I had to turn to some of my trusted girlfriends to get their take on exactly what it means when a woman tells you, “you’re just too nice”.
Here are some answers that we came up with:
2. She Doesn't Want a Yes Man.
Of course women want a man to support, encourage and for you to give them their way sometimes. But when all the decisions fall on her shoulders, it takes away your power in the relationship. And she wants her man to have some power. Women can be turned off by how easily a man gives up his control.
Solution: Ladies, just tell him. If you want him to make the decision on something, put the ball in his court and don't take it back from him. Tell him you want him to decide.
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