I recently had a brief conversation with a friend and he was trying to understand what a very close female friend of his meant when she said “Oh, you’re just too nice”. I honestly never had to tell a guy that, and I wasn’t even sure what a woman could possibly mean by telling another man that. But we hear it all the time “nice guys finish last”. To me, it’s just always been a catch phrase. To me, it wasn’t something that grown folks used in this day and age, simply because, well, you’re grown. And everyone knows good and well that someone being “too nice” is never actually the real issue.
Well like I mentioned before, I definitely have a “nice guy” and have for some time. So I had to turn to some of my trusted girlfriends to get their take on exactly what it means when a woman tells you, “you’re just too nice”.
Here are some answers that we came up with:
5. She Wants to Keep Her Independence.
She doesn't want you to strip away her independence. Yes there are some women that want to remain completely independent and single, and that's fine. But there are some who, while they enjoy some dependency, sometimes they just want to carry their own bags. Sometimes they just want to drive themselves where they need to go.
Solution: Ladies, just tell him (see, the easiest way to avoid any confusion). Let him know you're looking for someone who can take care of you, but also allow you some space to take care of yourself when needed.
BMWK: Have you ever been told you're too nice, or told someone else that? What did you mean by it?
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