Should You Make Sacrifices Just to Be in A Relationship?

BY: - 10 Jan '14 | Relationships

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The majority of us have a desire to share our lives with someone who makes us laugh, greatly contributes to the joy in our life and shows us real and lasting love. It’s a human requirement to feel loved. Yes love, when it’s done right, trumps everything. It’s no wonder some of us become fools for love. In an effort to obtain a happily ever after, some are making costly sacrifices. They are willing to surrender their own needs for the sake of being in a relationship. While being in love and in a committed relationship feels great, we are setting ourselves up for a life of regret when we dismiss what’s most important to us for somebody else. When we are true to who we are, an authentic relationship can be developed.

We must remember that honoring who we are is much more attractive to a potential mate. People are generally attracted to those who are confident and love themselves. Losing ourselves isn’t a requirement for being in love anyway.

There are certain aspects of who we are that should absolutely stay intact. Our spiritual beliefs and connection as well as our personal dreams are just a few. Although those might not change, there are some parts of us that might not serve a future relationship well.

Some sacrifices actually make sense as long as we don’t lose what actually makes us, us. I am a huge supporter of self-assessments and being honest about the areas of our lives needing improvement, but only when those areas have caused us hurt or damaged important relationships. If it has cost us our dreams, goals or future, we must take that self-examination and discover how we can show up better and have the life and love we planned.

Once we discover what hasn’t benefited us, then it’s time to make those changes. However, there are sacrifices people don’t necessarily have to make just to be in love. Yes, we should sacrifice selfishness, and careless spending or any other unhealthy habits. However, we must keep in mind, the person who was really meant for us won’t require that we sacrifice the core of who we are.The more authentic both  individuals are, the stronger the relationship.

BMWK, what sacrifices have you made to for a relationship?

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Tiya Cunningham-Sumter wrote 572 articles on this blog.

Tiya Cunningham-Sumter is a Certified Life & Relationship Coach, founder of Life Editing and Author of A Conversation Piece: 32 Bold Relationship Lessons for Discussing Marriage, Sex and Conflict Available on Amazon . She helps couples and individuals rewrite their life to reflect their dreams. Tiya has been featured in Essence and Ebony Magazines, and named one of the top blogs to read now by Refinery29. She resides in Chicago with her husband and two daughters. To find out more about Tiya, and her coaching, visit www.thelifeandlovecoach.com and www.theboldersister.com.

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3 Ways You Can Have a Ride Or Die Wife

BY: - 10 Jan '14 | Marriage

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All ride or die wives want a husband that will also be there through thick and thin. Wives want a husband that will be supportive and loving. A wife doesn’t have a problem with her husband taking his place as spiritual leader in the household if she knows who his spiritual leader is. So if husbands want a ride or die wife, below are some things they need to know.

1.  You need to know where you want to go. If you don’t know which direction to take, seek the wisdom of God. Your wife doesn’t expect you to know everything, but knowing that you seek the Word instead of your family and friends all the time will make your wife feel safer.

2. You need to have a plan. Now that you know where you want to go, you need a plan of action. Your wife likes that you have a plan for your lives. Knowing that you have goals and are not just a spinning top hoping to land anywhere will propel your wife to back you up.

3.  You need to acknowledge your wife as your co- pilot. You know where you want to go and you have a plan to get there. Now is the time to recognize your wife as your help.  Don’t think you have to do everything on your own; you have a help meet, a strong woman that has your back. You and your wife are a team, you can rely on her.  Also, do ask her opinion before making decisions that will affect the household.

Your wife chose to ride with you the day she recited her vows. Knowing where you are going, having a plan and acknowledging your wife will guarantee that she will stay on the ride with you therefore making her a ride or die wife.

BMWK Husbands –  are you giving your wife a reason to be a ride or die wife?

Check out:  4 Ways to Tell If You’re a Ride Or Die Wife

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Latoya Irving wrote 93 articles on this blog.

Latoya Irving is a former Air Force brat who loves writing about relationships, and family. She believes God should be the center of both. She is married with two kids and currently live in Texas.

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