No One is Perfect: Interview with Sarah Jakes about Her New Book

BY: - 4 Apr '14 | inspiration

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Sarah Jakes, the daughter of the renowned mega-church pastor and world preacher Bishop T.D. Jakes, has written a courageous memoir about her experiences growing up “Jakes.” In her new book Lost and Found: Finding Hope in the Detours of Life which released on April 1st, Sarah takes readers on a journey through some of the most difficult seasons in her life: from teenage pregnancy, college dropout and strip club waitress, to divorced single mother turned inspirational blogger, author, and speaker.

A mixture of grit and gospel, “Lost and Found” has something for everyone, from the every Sunday go-to-meeting believer to the Easter/Mother’s Day pew warmer. This coming of age and coming to Christ story gives readers permission to be less judgmental and more forgiving of themselves and of others.

Lost and Found _coverBefore diving into the book, I will warn you that because the narrative reads so effortlessly, you’ll probably wish for less commentary in favor of a more seamless retelling of events. Nonetheless, you’ll be finished reading the book before you know it and eager to share it with a friend or church group.

Recently, I had the opportunity to speak with Sarah about Lost and Found and the hopes she has for its impact in the church and beyond.

BMWK: Why share your story with the world now?

Sarah: I started writing my blog about 3 years ago. Started writing from my own frustrations really within my marriage and the church because I thought I had the type of marriage that church said would make me happy. But because I didn’t start off with the key foundation, I was frustrated and experienced a lot of heartache and infidelity, and so I just wanted to put those emotions into words. As I continued to blog, I was really convicted to share my story authentically, especially after I made the decision to divorce. I felt like if they were moved and inspired by my life in the church and having my son at 14 years old, that I could take some of the pain that resulted in my marriage to help other women.

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Dr. Michelle Johnson wrote 75 articles on this blog.

Dr. Michelle Johnson is the founder of Alabaster Woman Ministries, an online international women's ministry. She is a wife, mother, writer, speaker, teacher. Through her daily blog, online radio show, and video Bible studies, Dr. Michelle encourages women and married couples to make God the center of their lives.

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  1. Rhonda

    Great article Dr Michelle! It’s so important that we extend grace to people. As a mother of three grown daughters, I had to ask God to help me with that. I try very hard to keep my love for my daughters in the forefront when they come to me for advice. I try not to be hat mother who judges them as they go through the process of finding their position as women in the church and in every area of their lives. It really is a process that we have to go through in our own unique way!

    1. DrMichelle

      That’s a great word for me too. I want to be that mother. When you read it, you will see how Lady Jakes mothered her daughter in spite of.

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Should Husbands Object to Their Wives Wearing Bikinis?

BY: - 9 Apr '14 | inspiration

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I know a lot of ladies made up their minds that 2014 would be the year that they get their fitness game right.  Instead of just talking, they committed to working out, eating healthily, and monitoring their stress levels to ensure that they could be svelte for the spring and summer. They created vision boards, maintained fitness journals and even enlisted the emotional support of coaches and Facebook private groups.

I have one friend who was hell bent on fitting  looking fabulous in a bikini before her 40th birthday and after the birth of her first child. After months of putting in the work, she purchased her first bikini for the first time since she was a teenager and cried tears of happiness when she looked at her reflection in the mirror.

It was a real moment of triumph for her.

TNMBlackWomanSwimsuitFeeling confident, she ran home to surprise her husband by showing off her bikini body. She walked passed him in her bikini and the first thing that he said, “I hope you plan on wearing that in the house because I know you are not wearing that anywhere else.”

She was shocked. She was expecting him to say that she looked beautiful and sexy. He eventually did say those things, but he was adamant that he did not want his wife putting herself on display for other men and women to see. He felt that as her husband, keeping covered was a form of respect for the relationship and his position as the only man in her life.

For her, the ability to wear a bikini at an age where society tells women, especially mothers that their “beauty well” was drying up (and with a quickness) was a personal victory over long-held body image issues. Her ability to wear a bikini and feel comfortable with her body was symbol of confidence and deeper self-love.

When she came to me with this dilemma, I told her that I felt that I could see both sides of the story.  I had a problem concluding that her husband was insecure and not trusting. I thought that would be too easy of an analysis and a label. I also understood what setting and reaching a goal as personal and meaningful as the one that she set for herself meant to her. I could  empathize with the bit of hurt she felt when he wasn’t her number one cheerleader. (He ultimately said, though, that she was a grown woman and could wear what she wanted.)

They have plans for a little island getaway in the next couple of months. I wonder what she will be packing in the way of swimwear.

BMWK Family—What do you think? Should a husband have a say as to whether or not a wife should wear a bikini? I would love to hear your thoughts. What advice would you give to this couple?

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Kara Stevens wrote 142 articles on this blog.

Kara is a motivational speaker, life coach, and founder of the personal finance and lifestyle blog The Frugal Feminista .

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