6 Reasons You’re Not Walking in Your God-given Shoes

BY: - 15 May '14 | Faith

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If you’ve ever found yourself living the definition of insanity, having a hard time telling people no, allowing unhealthy relationships to block your blessings, struggling to reconcile your cultural heritage to the woman you want to become, or  waiting on Prince Charming to come along and complete you, keep on reading.

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My sister and I have conquered our own personal and professional struggles to finally walk in our purpose. Our book, Whose Shoes Are You Wearing? 12 Steps to Uncovering the Woman You Really Want to Be, addresses issues faced by women of color on a daily basis, including how to integrate culture and heritage with the woman they aspire to be. It gives readers powerful insights from a spiritual perspective regarding the need to find and fit into their own God-given shoes. Through stories of personal tragedy, heartbreak and ultimate triumph, mixed with plenty of humor, we allow you to personally connect with our challenges in the hopes that it will help you overcome your own.

To get you started, we wanted to share these 6 reasons why you may not be walking in your own God-given shoes:

1. You refuse to remove the weave, the lashes and the heels.

You can’t heal what you won’t reveal. – Iyanla Vanzant

How can you expect to achieve your God-given greatness when you choose to continue to hide behind a mask? As women, it’s imperative that we learn to keep it real with the one person that truly matters – ourselves! Iyanla Vanzant has said: “You can’t heal what you won’t reveal”. So removing the weave, the lashes and the heels translates to whatever “masks” you hide behind.

2. You haven’t learned the true definition of insanity.

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Webster’s definition of insanity is: the state of being seriously mentally ill; madness. The more modern definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. I’d agree that equals madness, wouldn’t you? We’ve all done it. Most of the time, we continue to do the same thing because it’s either comfortable or because we think if we just continue to do it, it’ll get better. How’s that working for you? Chances are, it’s not. And only when you decide to finally admit it to yourself, will you be able to take the necessary steps to make that needed change.

3. You choose not to listen to that “still small voice”.

Sometimes making that NEXT BOLD move requires listening to that STILL SMALL voice. ”—Julian B. Kiganda

How many times have you done something “against your better judgement”? How many times have you thought to yourself, “man, I should’ve trusted my instinct”? Well, the more you tune into and listen to that “small voice”, the better chance you have of finding and walking in your own shoes.

4. You haven’t figured out how to heal and truly love yourself.

 If you don’t believe in yourself, how can you convince others to believe in you?

The term self-love gets tossed around so frequently these days that people don’t really understand the importance of it, but it’s a projection of you. It influences everyday decisions you make, in addition to portraying the image of how people perceive you. What image do you want to reflect to the world? People will respond to what you express on the outside. Chances are, if you express doubt, low self-esteem, or uncertainty, you will get those same things in return. If you don’t believe in yourself, how can you convince others to believe in you? Self-love is something you cultivate resulting from conscious actions you take.

5. You feel you need someone else to complete you

A house that is built by God will be completed. —Ethiopian Proverb

There are so many reasons related to our past that sometimes we feel we need another man to complete us…to make us feel happy…to make us feel loved…to make us feel more important. All of this is false! No one (but God Himself) can love you more than you love yourself. A spouse can compliment you, but he can’t complete you.

6. You haven’t learned how to say no (without explaining yourself)

“No” is one of the first words we comprehend when we learn how to talk. I remember all three of my children going through the “no” phase. Everything was “no” even when they really meant “yes.” But as adults, how many times do we say “yes” when we really want to yell “no”? How do we go from saying it so freely as babies, to being so scared to say it as adults? Why is it so difficult for us to just say no?

For more information on Whose Shoes Are You Wearing? you may visit www.whoseshoesbook.com and also order your copy today on Amazon.com.

BMWK: What does walking in and wearing your own shoes mean to you?

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Christine St. Vil wrote 153 articles on this blog.

Christine St.Vil is co-author of the Whose Shoes Are Your Wearing: 12 Steps to Uncovering the Woman You Really Want to Be. A happy wife to an amazing hubby of 8 years, and homeschooling mother of three, she teaches moms how to FLY (First Love Yourself). She uses her corporate background to work with women who are ready to start a new business, accelerate their career growth & design a life they love. She's on a mission to help moms to battle the mom guilt epidemic, so they can begin to put themselves first on their never-ending list of priorities.

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6 More Reasons You’re Not Walking in Your God-given Shoes

BY: - 16 May '14 | Faith

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My sister and I have started a a movement to inspire confidence and empowerment. We conquered our own personal and professional struggles to finally walk in our purpose. Our book, Whose Shoes Are You Wearing? 12 Steps to Uncovering the Woman You Really Want to Be, addresses issues faced by women of color on a daily basis, including how to integrate culture and heritage with the woman they aspire to be. It gives readers powerful insights from a spiritual perspective regarding the need to find and fit into their own God-given shoes. Through stories of personal tragedy, heartbreak and ultimate triumph, mixed with plenty of humor, we allow you to personally connect with our challenges in the hopes that it will help you overcome your own.

Yesterday we gave you 6 Reasons You’re Not Walking in Your God-given Shoes.  Today, give you 6 more reasons….

7. You haven’t discovered the ultimate weight loss solution: getting rid of excess baggage

Pay attention to your circle of friends. Is it time to recycle some friendships, or let them go altogether? If you’re not surrounded by these types of girlfriends on a consistent basis –The 8 Types of Girlfriends Every Woman Should Have, then chances are, you’re carrying around excess baggage that is keeping you from getting to your destination.

8. You haven’t learned how to turn obstacles into opportunities

So many times we get paralyzed when obstacles and challenges arise. We’re so stuck on the negative, that we fail to see the great opportunity that can be achieved through this one challenge. I love this quote I heard from Eric Thomas: You have to take advantage of an opportunity of a lifetime in the lifetime of the opportunity. In other words, your chance might roll right past you because you’re too busy dwelling on what is not instead of what is.

9. You have no idea what it means to find and live in your passion

There is no passion to be found playing small—in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living. —Nelson Mandela

Did you know that the vast majority of U.S. workers (70%) are unhappy and unsatisfied at work? That’s according to the 2013 State of the American Workplace Report, which surveyed more than 150,000 full- and part-time workers in 2012. That’s a pretty eye-opening statistic. Why is that number so high? It’s probably because the vast majority of people are probably not living out their purpose. I know for a fact that you can’t be fulfilled unless you are following your heart’s calling.

10. Your external transformation hasn’t caught up to your internal transformation

Wholistic transformation radiates from the inside out. Take time to love all of you because when you look good, you feel good. —Christine St. Vil

For some people, myself included, your journey starts with your external transformation. How do you feel about yourself on the outside? How do you show up for yourself? How do you not show up for yourself when you’re not looking and feeling your best? Come on, y’all know what I’m talking about. When your clothes don’t fit like they used to or you can’t get an appointment with your hairdresser to get that mane under control, it changes the trajectory of any plans you have. What’s going on inside of you will usually match up to what’s going on outside of you.

11. You haven’t learned to embrace your culture

“It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.” –Denis Waitley

Being raised in an African household, culture played a huge role in how we viewed ourselves, and the people we are today. Hiding from my culture to fit in, prevented me from embracing and loving all that I am. Regardless of the culture you were raised in, how has it impacted your own life? Are there things you need to still embrace or maybe even let go of?

12. You haven’t learned to “Do it Afraid”

FEAR has two meanings: Forget Everything And Run OR Face Everything And Rise. The choice is yours.

While my transformational journey is ongoing, it has been all about working through my fears in a way I never had before. Over the last few years I’ve learned that going after and doing the things that scare me the most, are ultimately the things that have opened doors to my success. What fears do you have that are keeping you from walking in your greatness?

WhoseShoesFor more information on Whose Shoes Are You Wearing? you may visit www.whoseshoesbook.com and also order your copy today on Amazon.com.

BMWK: What does walking in and wearing your own shoes mean to you?

About the author

Christine St. Vil wrote 153 articles on this blog.

Christine St.Vil is co-author of the Whose Shoes Are Your Wearing: 12 Steps to Uncovering the Woman You Really Want to Be. A happy wife to an amazing hubby of 8 years, and homeschooling mother of three, she teaches moms how to FLY (First Love Yourself). She uses her corporate background to work with women who are ready to start a new business, accelerate their career growth & design a life they love. She's on a mission to help moms to battle the mom guilt epidemic, so they can begin to put themselves first on their never-ending list of priorities.

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