Parents: 4 Things Your Kids Need From You Right Now

BY: - 22 May '14 | Parenting

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Whitney Houston’s song, The Greatest Love of All was one of my all-time favorite songs growing up. When you really think about the lyrics, they’re pretty deep:

“I believe the children are our future; Teach them well and let them lead the way; Show them all the beauty they possess inside. Give them a sense of pride to make it easier. Let the children’s laughter remind us how we used to be”

Who we are and who we become, really does boil down to how well we love ourselves, which is truly the greatest love of all (after the love of God Himself, of course). My kids are so comfortable in their own skin that even at two, four & six years of age, they tell each other how beautiful/handsome and smart they are. My girls understand that beauty is more than just putting on make-up. They tell me I’m beautiful whether my hair and make-up are done, or whether I have my hair all over the place and walking around plain face. My older daughter will play with little girls at the park she’s never met before and tell them how pretty they are, or compliment them on something they have on.

While we can only give what we have, it’s our duty and responsibility to acquire the things that we don’t have. When I think about the things I’m teaching my children that I had to learn, it’s also important to understand the things that our kids need most from us.

1. Affection

More than anything, children need and want to feel safe. Showing affection deomonstrates to them that we care, even when we may not be happy about something that they did. I once read about a study that said that children who are shown affection through hugging several times a day (or as much as they want), generally grow up to be independent. And the children who are either shown very little affection or are pushed away, tend to be insecure into adulthood. In looking at my own experience and those people close to me, I can definitely see the correlation.

2. Open Door Policy

I am working on building relationships with my children so that there is nothing that they would ever feel they couldn’t share with me. I want to be the first person they come to when they’re in trouble, even if it means they might get in trouble. I want them to always feel more comfort than fear because fear keeps us from doing things we should. I’m learning how to help my children express their feelings now, so as they get older, it will be much easier for them to do so, and do so freely.

3. Encouragement

I know even for me as an adult, a little encouragement goes a long way. When my kids get frustrated and feeling defeated with a task, we’ve taught them to say, “I’m having trouble, can you help me?”  Instead of, “I can’t do this”. Once they realize it’s okay to ask for help, it encourages them to ask for it when they need to, but more importantly, to work harder to try and do it themselves.

4. Love

Not only do they need to hear love in the home, but our children need to see love. They learn what they see, and chances are, if they’re not getting something they need at home, they will learn to look for it elsewhere. The love we instill in our children at a young age, is the love they will have for themselves as they grow older.

BMWK: What other things would you add to the list that our children need to see or hear from us?

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Christine St. Vil wrote 153 articles on this blog.

Christine St.Vil is co-author of the Whose Shoes Are Your Wearing: 12 Steps to Uncovering the Woman You Really Want to Be. A happy wife to an amazing hubby of 8 years, and homeschooling mother of three, she teaches moms how to FLY (First Love Yourself). She uses her corporate background to work with women who are ready to start a new business, accelerate their career growth & design a life they love. She's on a mission to help moms to battle the mom guilt epidemic, so they can begin to put themselves first on their never-ending list of priorities.


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Tips for Keeping Our Children Safe This Summer

BY: - 26 May '14 | Parenting

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As a parent, keeping my children safe is always a top priority. I am sure all of you who are parents feel the same way.

As we celebrate Memorial Day, the unofficial start of summer, and get ready to engage in a number of fun activities with our kids, we have to keep in mind a number of precautions that will allow us to keep our children safe and happy this summer.

Children’s Healthcare of Atlanta, a non-profit organization dedicated to making kids better today and healthier tomorrow, has release their 2014 Summer Safety Tips, sharing critical information with parents to ensure that we have a happy, safe, and healthy summer with our kids.

The tips available cover:

  • Water Safety
  • Play and Travel Safety
  • Sun and Skin Safety
  • Heat Safety
  • Fireworks Safety

There is a great deal of truth to the saying, “better safe than sorry.”  Visit Children’s Healthcare of Atlanta today to get more detailed information about these five areas of summer safety. It will definitely help your family have an incredible summer as well as a very safe one.

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Martine Foreman wrote 496 articles on this blog.

Martine Foreman is a speaker, writer, lifestyle consultant, and ACE-certified Health Coach who specializes in helping moms who want more out of life but feel overwhelmed and confused. Through her content and services, Martine is committed to helping women embrace their personal truth, gain clarity, and take action to create healthier, happier lives. For more on Martine's candid views on life and love, visit her at To work with her, visit her at Martine resides in Maryland with her husband, two kids and sassy cat Pepper.


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