4 Reasons Why Your Marriage Needs Life Goals

BY: - 25 Jul '14 | Marriage

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In short, marriage is the agreement between two individuals to experience life together at each other’s sides. 

We hear far too often of marriages in trouble because the individuals believe they have grown apart over the years. The gap of unspoken words can lead to unspoken emotions, sentiments, goals and ultimately, directions. Instead of experiencing life along side one another, you feel as if you’re experiencing life in spite of your spouse’s presence.  And, this is dangerous space to be in over an extended period of time.

We all have ideas for how we would like our lives to be. Some want lives more lavish while others long for security. Some people want their family to experience every corner of the globe while others barely wish to explore the boundaries of their own city. 

We are all different. 

None of us are immune to time and we will grow as individuals whether we like it or not. In a marriage it’s important that the direction we grow in is in tune with our spouse and that only happens when we set goals for the marriage.

“A goal without a plan is a wish” – Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Here are 4 reasons why your marriage needs life goals

  1. The goals a couple sets for themselves keep them both focused on the same things. It keeps their actions rallied around the same dreams and aligns their motivations.
  2. It keeps both individuals on the same page of the marriage and their lives.
  3. This is true spiritually, financially, sexually, and otherwise. Your goals in the marriage arrange your steps so you can walk together in all things.
  4. So instead of the silence growing the gaps between you, your conversations around executing your goals keep you side by side.

BMWK – have you set goals for your marriage yet?  If not, what are you waiting for?

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Isom Kuade wrote 70 articles on this blog.

Isom Kuade is a father and a husband, resting his head in the middle of Texas. He's doing his best to adult with purpose and sneak in some good meals along the way. He and his wife tell stories of their triumphs, failures, and biased opinions at pancakesandcider.com.

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5 Needs Your Man May Not Be Sharing with You

BY: - 25 Jul '14 | Marriage

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My husband is a pretty low-key dude, and I respect that. You will rarely see pictures of him on my social media networks, simply because he’s not really into social media. It’s just not his thing. His low-key attitude, however, is pretty consistent. He doesn’t say too much unless he really has something to say, and I suspect that sharing his feelings and emotions is not his favorite thing to do.

Over the years, I have discovered that because my husband doesn’t share too much, it can be difficult to determine what he needs. I don’t think he’s intentionally keeping things from me. I just think it doesn’t occur to him that he really needs to share certain things. And the reality is that although it’s nice when he tells me what’s on his mind, I don’t need him to all the time. We have been friends and lovers long enough for me to figure out what he needs to make him happy and to make our marriage work.

Although your man may have unique needs, there are needs that many men have in common. To determine some of your man’s needs, you will definitely need to have a conversation with him, but I hope what’s listed below can serve as a starting point when it comes to figuring out what some of his needs are.

Here are a few things your man needs that he may not be sharing with you.

1. Feeling like you can hold things down. One of a man’s biggest fears is what will happen to his family if something ever happens to him. Sure, insurance can provide for his family financially, but a man needs to feel like his wife will be able to hold things and run the house and kids on her own if she has to.

2. For you to give him props. Your man needs to feel appreciated as much as you do. If you are always nagging but never thanking, he can begin to feel like you don’t appreciate anything he does.

3. For you to be more receptive. Is your man is pushing up on you – flirting – and you keeping dissing him because you are too tired to even think about sex, you are hurting that man’s feelings. I know you are tired (I am too), but your man needs you to be receptive. Whether he’s giving you a compliment or a kiss, when you are receptive he feels good.

4. A vote of confidence. Your man wants to feel like you have faith in him and you trust that he can do things right. Telling him what’s wrong all the time just makes him feel he can’t do anything right. If he is gracious enough to do something, have a little faith that he will do it well.

5. To feel trusted. If your man has given you reason to distrust him and you have decided to stay, consider counseling if you still find yourself unable to trust. However, if this man has never given you reason to distrust him and you are just holding on to pain from the last dude that did you wrong, let it go. Your man needs to feel trusted and making him pay for what someone else did doesn’t quite say “I trust you.”

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Martine Foreman wrote 494 articles on this blog.

Martine Foreman is a speaker, writer, lifestyle consultant, and ACE-certified Health Coach who specializes in helping moms who want more out of life but feel overwhelmed and confused. Through her content and services, Martine is committed to helping women embrace their personal truth, gain clarity, and take action to create healthier, happier lives. For more on Martine's candid views on life and love, visit her at candidbelle.com. To work with her, visit her at martineforeman.com. Martine resides in Maryland with her husband, two kids and sassy cat Pepper.

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