How I Learned a Shocking Lesson About Reaching My Goals

BY: - 10 Jul '14 | Lifestyle

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Since the beginning of summer, we have been without AC. That’s right, we’ve been living in a sauna cause for whatever reason our AC started blowing out warm air all of a sudden. But with everything being so hectic and crazy, we just didn’t have the time to get someone in to check it out (not to mention, we were fearful of hearing what the cost would be to fix the problem). On the bright side, our basement remained cool. So much to the kids’ delight, that’s where we’ve been camping out as one big happy family.

I was over it probably by the end of the first week. So I thought that maybe since we had the AC turned off for so long, maybe if I tried to turn it on again it would work properly. But I didn’t do anything different. We still didn’t have anyone come out and look at it or even know what to look for. All the while, my husband kept reassuring me that it was probably an easy fix. But because I couldn’t see it (or in this case feel it), I couldn’t believe it.

Fast forward to a few days ago when my husband got home from work in the morning. He had gone downstairs to take a look at the furnace and noticed that some wires looked to have been disconnected (which hadn’t been before). So he decided try connecting the wires together and then turning on the AC a few minutes later to see if it had made any difference. And guess what? It worked! We had spent nearly two months sweating bullets in the house, only to find out it was as simple as taking a step back, looking to see what was missing and then trying a different approach.

At the same time this was happening, I had joined a group challenge with an amazing group where we’re forcing ourselves to either rethink the way we’re executing our goals, or re-work them so that they actually work. As I sat down to do my homework on some new projects, I realized that it wasn’t that the idea sucked or that the product wasn’t going to work. It’s just that I had to figure out which “wires” were disconnected, or connected incorrectly, and then fix it.

You see, a lot of times people (me included) toss goals or ideas to the side because we think they’re not working or not good enough. But how many times have you tried a different approach? How often do you take a step back to evaluate the situation as a whole and see what wires are not connected that should be? And just like the AC fix, this one goal I’m working on was as simple as connecting some wires that had been disconnected.

So whatever your goals might be, if you’re getting frustrated because they don’t seem to be working, understand that all it might take is some readjusting and rearranging. If the way you’ve been doing it isn’t working, then try another, especially if you know it’s a great idea. Keep pressing, keep pushing, and don’t let the heat of life deter you from reaching your own goals.

BMWK, what has been getting the way of you reaching your goals? What are you going to do to move forward?

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Christine St. Vil wrote 153 articles on this blog.

Christine St.Vil is co-author of the Whose Shoes Are Your Wearing: 12 Steps to Uncovering the Woman You Really Want to Be. A happy wife to an amazing hubby of 8 years, and homeschooling mother of three, she teaches moms how to FLY (First Love Yourself). She uses her corporate background to work with women who are ready to start a new business, accelerate their career growth & design a life they love. She's on a mission to help moms to battle the mom guilt epidemic, so they can begin to put themselves first on their never-ending list of priorities.


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  2. Brittney

    I love this story. With school being out for the Summer I have been very happy with being more aggressive in reaching both short and long term goals. This new drive is mainly attributed to my social media fast. I spent too much senseless time scrolling through timelines which were filled with nonsense from my peers. So now I am much more happier, free from an overhaul of judgment, and even go outside to enjoy nature more. It lovely because I feel much more focused. So now… if I could just go through these two and a half years of graduate school with no phone then life would be great. But I do not see that happening at all.

    Once again, thanks for the encouragement.

    1. Christine St. Vil Post author

      I love it Brittney, good for you! Just coming back from the BMWK marriage cruise, I can say that I enjoyed not being able to use my phone and disconnecting from social media and e-mail for a week. It’s little changes and taking time to refocus that get us on track to reaching your goals. Congrats on grad school and best wishes to you. Thanks for sharing!

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Do I Need a Life Coach and How Do I Find a Good One?

BY: - 29 Jul '14 | inspiration

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by Melisa Alaba,

One of the most misunderstood growing professions today is that of a Life Coach. We see Life Coaches on reality shows and talk shows helping folks figure their stuff out? We are prone to wonder how a Life Coach can help me.  Which one do I choose? These are questions I often get in my inbox or on my twitter feed. Today, I would like to offer some clarity on how to select a Life Coach and what they offer.

The main objective of most Life Coaches is to get you to overcome an obstacle that has held you back, hold you accountable for your actions, and see you excel at living the life you desired. Beyond the training and certifications, they have their own personal experiences that shape them uniquely from other personal development coaches in the field.   Life Coaches help their clients navigate major life transitions that may have them stuck.

Here are few things to consider when choosing a Life Coach:

  1. Examine the Life Coach’s personal philosophy and values. Do you find that it resonates with you? Do you hold the same ideas or wish to embody these principles? I believe this is important because trust is needed in the relationship. A good Life Coach will push you to do things you have longed to demonstrate, but have been too scared to attempt.
  2. Expertise Matters. Research your perspective Life Coach’s specialty and the results they have achieved.  If you are seeking balance in your home and work life, seek someone who specializes in spiritual alignment and work life balance, rather than a career coach who may only generalize in this area.
  3. Expect to work. A good Life Coach will give you weekly assignments with the expectation of completion, unlike therapy, mentoring and consulting where talking and reflective listening is one of the principles. Life Coaching is about checking in and taking massive action.
  4. Feel the coach out. Life Coaching is a big investment which in many cases leads to a great payoff of personal achievement and breakthroughs that will shift your life. Take the time to read your prospective coach’s books, blog, and watch their videos. This will allow you to understand more about how they work and what they offer.
  5. Get Referrals. Do you have colleagues or friend that have used a coach that they rave about?  Ask them about their experiences to gain an understanding of what that Life Coach may be like.
  6. Go for it. Life is about taking chances. So jump in and get started. We can always find an excuse as to why we will not try something new.  Allow today be the day that you go for it.

As a Life Coach, I believe that we ultimately have the answer to all of life’s big questions in us. It is my job to guide you in understanding how to access that information by getting in touch with your spirit.  You were designed for greatness…so start living your best life today.

BMWK-  I want to hear from you. What experiences have you had with working with a Life Coach?

Melisa Alaba is a Life Coach, Speaker and the Author of Live Out Loud, 52 Ways to Reawaken Your Spirit and Live a Life of Purpose. Melisa can be found walking on a trail or celebrating her birthday (every day) with a piece of chocolate. You can connect with her at

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Melisa Alaba wrote 15 articles on this blog.

Melisa Alaba is a Life Coach, Licensed Professional Counselor, Speaker and the Author of the Book, Live Out Loud, 52 Ways to Reawaken Your Spirit and Live a Life of Purpose. She helps clients live a life of  joy and passion by connecting with their natural gifts. In her quiet time Melisa can be found walking on a trail or reading a new book. Connect with  her in one of her many classes or on her website at


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