BMWK Cruise: 4 Reasons You Need an Annual Getaway for Your Marriage

BY: - 18 Jul '14 | Marriage

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2014 BMWK Marriage Cruise

My husband and I recently had the pleasure of attending the inaugural BMWK Marriage Cruise. When I first heard about it, we immediately jumped at the opportunity because we truly believe that when you put your marriage first, it creates a stronger foundation and bond for the entire family. Not to mention, we hadn’t planned a real getaway in a long time. So what better way to spend time strenghthening your marriage than on a marriage cruise with dozens of other couples who are looking to do the same thing?

To say it was phenomenal is an understatement and no, I’m not just saying this because this is Ronnie & Lamar’s site, nor did they put me up to it LOL! It was so inspiring to learn from couples who were teaching us some incredible marriage nuggets, and doing it as a team.

From Terry and Deborah Owens talking about love and money (and the seven wealthy habits of financially successful families), to Carlos and Katherine Greene discussing love and intimacy (love is more than a four letter word), to Dr. Johnny & Lezlyn Parker sharing the importance of seasoning your heart for satisfying communication (marriage is heart work); they all dished out some juicy nuggets. I know this is just the beginning and I’m so glad that Ronnie & Lamar have decided to make it an annual getaway because it’s needed!

So many people claim their marriage comes first, but what does that really mean? And how do you demonstrate that? This was the first time we had both been away from the kids for this period of time (a total of nine days). But we realized that we hadn’t taken time to really focus on our marriage in a long time.

It was so great to completely unplug from e-mail, phone and social media for a whole week. We enjoyed dating day in and day out, and having conversations about things that really mattered without all of the distractions.

It’s one thing to go away on vacation with just you and your spouse. And yes, we probably would’ve had fun if we had done a cruise on our own. But we wouldn’t have had nearly as much fun, and our marriage wouldn’t have been transformed the way it was coming off of the marriage cruise. We wouldn’t have gained so many phenomenal resources and tools that we could put into practice right away to take our marriage from great to amazing and from amazing to phenomenal. A marriage getaway, gives you the best of both worlds.

Here are 5 reasons you need an annual getaway for your marriage:

1. It strengthens your marriage.

One of the quotes I took away and love is “a great marriage doesn’t just happen, it happens intentionally”. In order for your marriage to continue to grow and flourish year after year, you have to continue to nurture it and feed it and you have to be intentional about it.

2. You need a break from distractions.

Regular dates and dinner outings are great. But often times it’s hard to even do that. An annual getaway is intentional and brings the focus back to where it belongs (minus the distractions).

3. Meet and connect with other happily married couples.

It’s one thing to see the beautiful pictures on this site and on the FB page and hear the many stories from happy couples. But it’s a completely different thing to witness it first-hand. It’s simply amazing, and surrounding ourselves with other positive and happy couples is exactly what our marriages need.

4. It’s like a honeymoon.

While we’ve been married for almost nine years, we really did feel like we were newlyweds on our honeymoon again. We danced all night like teenagers, took lots of naps, ate like champs and held hands everywhere we went.

BMWK: What things do you enjoy doing to strengthen and grow in your marriage? Will you join us on the 2015 BMWK Marriage Getaway? Details will be announced soon. 

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Christine St. Vil wrote 153 articles on this blog.

Christine St.Vil is co-author of the Whose Shoes Are Your Wearing: 12 Steps to Uncovering the Woman You Really Want to Be. A happy wife to an amazing hubby of 8 years, and homeschooling mother of three, she teaches moms how to FLY (First Love Yourself). She uses her corporate background to work with women who are ready to start a new business, accelerate their career growth & design a life they love. She's on a mission to help moms to battle the mom guilt epidemic, so they can begin to put themselves first on their never-ending list of priorities.


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BY: - 21 Jul '14 | Marriage

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How often do you take time to appreciate your spouse? Sometimes, those of us who are married, forget what initially attracted us to our mate. Taking for granted who we were in the beginning, the love that was evident and the excitement of just spending time together. Rarely do most individuals reflect on the blessings of marriage.

Gratefulness is usually an afterthought. I have found there is so much in my life, family and marriage to be grateful for. Having a spouse who loves me in words and deeds is an amazing gift.

Although neither my husband nor myself are perfect, our marriage is in a great place. Living a life where you recognize blessings instead of dwelling on the negatives is a choice. Each of us can choose to live a life of gratitude. Gratitude begins with looking for what’s right in our life. Even when our relationships are experiencing a struggle, there is always a silver lining. When our spouse is overcoming personal challenges, there are still positive attributes we can be thankful for. If you have an amazing spouse, flaws and all, don’t take that for granted. A good spouse is difficult to find. Here are a few reminders of what a good spouse looks and feels like:

You know you have a good spouse when…

Your spouse does something nice for you just because. When it doesn’t have to be a special occasion for them to do something nice for you, be grateful. A spouse who comes home with that cute little item you mentioned weeks ago, just because, is a blessing.

Your spouse believes in your dreams, no matter what. When they can see you achieving your goals as clearly as you can, be grateful. Whether your ideas are off track and makes absolutely no sense to anyone else in the world, if your spouse still supports it, you are blessed.

Your spouse keeps the family spiritually grounded. If you have a spouse who is able to maintain a spiritual connection and be led by God in all things, be grateful. Recognizing and acknowledging the source of where all of our blessings flow is an actual blessing itself.

Your spouse actually listens to you. If you are married to someone who values your voice and opinions, be grateful. A spouse who is cognizant of your likes and dislikes and consistently adheres to them is a blessing.

Your spouse is gentle with your heart. If your spouse realizes your feelings are valid and treats them as such, be grateful. Even when we wonder why we feel the way we do, a spouse who doesn’t question or judge is a true blessing.

If your marriage hasn’t quite arrived here just yet, not to worry. Change can happen in any situation. We have to be lovingly honest when sharing our needs with our spouse. Telling them what makes us feel loved without shifting blame or pointing fingers is how transformation happens. Be vulnerable and communicate all of your needs to your spouse.

BMWK, how do you know you have a good spouse?

Click here to discover what happens When a Woman Loves a Man. Find out the characteristics that a woman demonstrates that expresses her love to her man in the way that God intended.

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Tiya Cunningham-Sumter wrote 635 articles on this blog.

Tiya Cunningham-Sumter is a Certified Life & Relationship Coach, founder of Life Editing and Author of A Conversation Piece: 32 Bold Relationship Lessons for Discussing Marriage, Sex and Conflict Available on Amazon . She helps couples and individuals rewrite their life to reflect their dreams. Tiya has been featured in Essence and Ebony Magazines, and named one of the top blogs to read now by Refinery29. She resides in Chicago with her husband and two daughters. To find out more about Tiya, and her coaching, visit and


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