11 Ways to Cheer Yourself up When You’re Feeling Down

BY: - 15 Aug '14 | inspiration

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Lately, I’ve had a persistent case of the sads. Over the last several weeks, I’d stopped answering most calls from friends and family and become increasingly recluse. It came to a point where my friends threatened to show up at my house and force me out (one of them may or may not have actually done this). I know I’m not the only person in the history of ever to experience feelings of overwhelm and sadness. I also know that it’s not uncommon for these feelings to go overlooked as we continue to press on with our day to day activities; That’s why I put together this list of 11 ways to cheer yourself up when you’re feeling down. Try one, two or all of these ideas and get your happy back!

  • Shake your groove thang: We all have that one song that when it comes on you can’t help but dance and sing along. Make a mix of your favorite songs and get those hips movin’ and booty shakin’. Even if you look like a drunken frog when you’re dancing, you’ll be having fun.
  • Take a walk: A change of scenery can be a great mood booster. Walk around your neighborhood, stroll through the mall or head to a local park.
  • Break a sweat: It’s no secret that exercise increases endorphins. Endorphins produce a positive feeling and the results of working out (looking and feeling better) will boost self esteem. #winning
  • Get crafty: Whether it’s, painting, sewing, pottery or making jewelry, tapping into your creativity can be a fun way to lift your spirits.
  • Laugh: Watch one of your favorite comedies, or read entries on a favorite funny website. When I need a good belly laugh, I’ll watch a classic comedy like Coming to America or head over to Awesomely Luvvie and laugh myself to (good) tears.
  • Use a land-line: Call up some friends, order some takeout, pick a favorite movie and just hang. No need for a serious conversation (unless you’re in the mood), just have fun and enjoy the company of the people who make you smile.
  • Get inspired: Start a Pinterest board of inspirational quotes or images that you can sift through when you need them. Here’s one of my recent faves:

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  • Focus on the light: When you’re in the middle of the storm, it can be so hard to keep your focus on the clear skies ahead. Take some time to make a list of the things that are good in your life or of the things you want to accomplish (or both). Focusing on the desired result will help put things into perspective.
  • Be still: Pray, meditate or just sit quietly and focus on all that you have to be grateful for.

‘Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” – php.4.6-7.niv

  • Take back your power: Remember this, true happiness comes from within. The only person who can make you happy is you. Keep in mind that the actions of other people can only make you feel how you allow them to.
  • Don’t be afraid to get professional help: Sometimes we just can’t shake those feelings of overwhelm or sadness. If you’ve tried everything you can think of to lift your spirits, it may be time to turn to an expert. There is no shame in seeking out a professional to help you work through whatever is making you feel down.

What say you BMWK fam? How do you cheer yourself up when you feel down?

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T. Espinoza wrote 55 articles on this blog.

T. Espinoza is CEO at The Style Medic. She's the Diva next door, the girlfriend who always looks Fab but doesn’t spend a bundle. She works with the active, focused Diva who wants to look fly, save time and most of all, save money. T. can help you streamline your wardrobe, maximize your budget and take your style from flat-lined to FABULOUS!

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Living in the Time of Ferguson; We Must Not Stop Speaking Up

BY: - 21 Aug '14 | inspiration

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Michael Brown was killed recently in Ferguson, MO by a white police officer. Multiple people are claiming they witnessed the victim with his hands in the air when he was shot multiple times. Michael Brown was unarmed.

After local police refused to release the officer’s name, they managed to release video of Michael Brown robbing a store. The shooting and robbery video were quickly declared unrelated and labeled as a shameful character assassination attempt on behalf of the police department. 

Local, state, and federal involvement have been a part of this increasingly chaotic scene since day one. And with a recent curfew put in place for the residents of Ferguson, we may be witnessing only the beginning of a community in upheaval – a community in pain.

This type of story is not new.

The abuse of and dehumanization of minorities, especially black people, in this country at the hands of our police community is as old as at the country itself. We have all heard the notion that in an Obama era, America is beyond its ugly racial history.  But these sentiments are usually held by the removed privileged. The same ones who’s safety can be all but guaranteed by simply raising empty hands above their heads.

As a nation, we are still desensitized to the brutal treatment of American citizens by their own police and military. Much like Trayvon Martin, this killing is highlighting the American caste system behind the veil of American freedom. From media manipulation, to police withholding of information, to the militarization of our police force, to unlawful crowd control tactics, to journalist mistreatment and false arrests, to curfew setting, tear gas usage, and more, this is simply the most recent example.

I know people in Ferguson. I know parents in Ferguson. I know grandparents in Ferguson. I know fellow fathers in Ferguson raising their young black sons there. 

The conversations we unfortunately must have with our sons and daughters, because incidents like Michael Brown’s are still way too common. Even these written words seem futile. These words feel powerless in the face of such consistent and senseless loss of life.

Every single image taken and every single hashtagged tweet are part of a climate of irreversible frustration. If there’s anything we must not stop doing, it is speaking up.

The depth of despair about our country’s situation feels like it should go even deeper. And that’s the issue – the pain isn’t deep enough. I think we hide much of it. I think that even in the black community, we don’t value our own lives as much as we should. I think we numb ourselves to the pain less we feel the full crushing weight of helplessness.

This weight is slowly being lifted. In the age of the Internet and social media, we all have a voice. Many of voices are speaking up about situations like Michael Brown’s. A unified voice is a powerful voice. 

Ground up change has only come in the form of a united voice. In spite of our rage, guilt, sadness, hope, reflection, and sense of futility, we must continue to speak up. Every single voice counts. Every single image taken and every single hashtagged tweet are part of a climate of irreversible frustration. If there’s anything we must not stop doing, it is speaking up. It’s the only avenue of true change. A unified voice will be heard.

It is not okay to kill us.

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Isom Kuade wrote 70 articles on this blog.

Isom Kuade is a father and a husband, resting his head in the middle of Texas. He's doing his best to adult with purpose and sneak in some good meals along the way. He and his wife tell stories of their triumphs, failures, and biased opinions at pancakesandcider.com.

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