5 Ways to Motivate Yourself Every Day

BY: - 11 Aug '14 | inspiration

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by Tai Gooden,

Everyone has goals. Some people want to achieve a body like Beyoncé while others want to dive into entrepreneurship. No matter what a person’s goal or dream is, everyone can use some motivation along the way. And, although it is human nature to seek encouragement from others, the best source of motivation comes from within. How do I know this? Because I use five daily self-motivation methods as I attempt to strike a balance between marriage, motherhood, freelance writing, and a full-time career outside of my home.

Here are 5 ways to motivate yourself every day:

Surround Yourself with Uplifting Quotes

I am constantly surrounded by motivational quotes. Some of them are from religious texts and others are from people I hold in high regard. Whenever I come across a quote that inspires me to strive for success, I write it down on a post-it note or type it up and strategically place it in different places. I post my quotes on my refrigerator, in my car, at my home and work office desks, and in my freelance writing notebook. Think of five places where you spend most of your time and make sure you keep your power quotes nearby!

Give Yourself Kudos

At the end of each day, I take five minutes and write down five of my accomplishments for the day. Even if it is something as simple as completing my “to-do” list or making a delicious dinner, I give myself kudos for making daily moves. And, I keep in mind that every small move I make is propelling me toward my ultimate goal. Giving yourself credit for your accomplishments is an instant morale booster.

Visualize Victory for Yourself

What is your heart’s desire? Think about your ideal career, personal goal, or weight and write down your vision. For example, my goal is to be a full-time freelance writer in 3 years. I wrote down where I would like to be in my career transition at the end of each year and how I will feel as I achieve each milestone. I also wrote down what will happen if I decide to succumb to negative thoughts. When I am dealing with confidence issues or I am having a day where I don’t want to do anything, I revisit my vision and remind myself why I need to stay motivated each day.

Appreciate Your Past Accomplishments

Another way I stay motivated every day is to take a quick look at my past performance. In my writing notebook, I have a printed copy of my published articles and website features.  These items are in the front of my notebook so they are the first thing I see when I open it. By keeping track of my past performance, it not only reminds me that I am indeed making progress, but I can also evaluate my growth.  Your past performance is a great motivation tool to help you keep fighting for your dreams.

Make Yourself an Uplifting Soundtrack

Everyone has a favorite song (or five) that makes them want to take on challenges head first. For me, Katy Perry’s “Roar” and Daft Punk’s “Harder, Better, Faster, Stronger” are a part of my motivational mood music. Whether you are facing an arduous work day or a hiccup in your agenda, put a soundtrack of awesome tunes in your ears and “Keep Calm and Carry On.”

As we go through each day and attempt to juggle a multitude of responsibilities, our perceived failures can leave us feeling dejected. But, if we take just a few moments each day to read uplifting quotes, listen to inspiring music, appreciate our accomplishments, and visualize our future victories, then we can learn to give ourselves praise for what we have achieved.

BMWK readers, how do you motivate yourself each day? Comment below and share your success secrets!

Tai Gooden is a freelance writer, mom, wife, part-time blogger, and full-time Doctor Who fanatic. In April 2014, she published Amour Rising: A Collection of Poetry. Tai’s work has been featured in xojane.com, Clutch Magazine, and BlackLoveForm.com. 

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3 Ways to Become a Better Friend

BY: - 13 Aug '14 | inspiration

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Friendships are one of the greatest assets in your life. If they are stewarded well, they can yield more harvest for you than anything else. The opposite is true when friendships are not taken care of.  It is through your friends that you will learn the most about yourself relationally.

Here are 3 ways to become a better friend:

1. Examine all your failed friendships and see why things went sour.

“Its fine to celebrate success, but its more important to heed the lessons of failure.” – Bill Gates

The best lessons learned are the ones that come from the moments in life where success is nowhere to be found. Failure has a plethora of effects on a person, and can sometimes be, in the right season, more valuable than success. Why? You not only learn what not to do the next time, but you also learn about a side of yourself that will prove to be invaluable for the future. I have a few friendships that did not pan out the way I desired for them too, but after examining what went wrong, it brought life to all of my future friendships.


2. Keep the 2 C’s close in hand –  Communication & Confrontation.

Without conflict in friendships there aren’t any opportunities for growth. Many run out of fear of offense or being hurt when conflict arises….but those are the ripe moments in friendships. If you do not learn how to confront conflict in a friendship, then marriage is going to be a challenge for you. Healthy communication is key for a smooth “come to Jesus” talk. I call it that because Christ is our Cornerstone, so when there is a disagreement we need to meet in the Center and move from there. Do not try to have friendships without Christ because it will lack revelation to make it through the moments that matter most.

3. Become a glass house and make transparency a normal part of your life.

One of my weaknesses is trusting others with the deep intricate parts of me because of my fear of being viewed as weak. When you are a leader, you take on this superman mentality, living to save everyone, but easily forgetting about yourself. Transparency is the key that unlocks the door to a thriving, trustworthy covenant friendship. Allowing someone access into the parts of your life that even you are fearful of peering into is the beginning of shining the light on darkness. According to Ephesians 5:13, “But when anything is exposed by the light, it becomes visible.” This must be for every secret you have, and will ever have. Do not wait, expose it. Any secrets you carry are not just between you and yourself, but you, yourself, and the devil. This is why God brings friends into our lives that we can build a covenant agreement to walk with us during hard times, and challenge us to grow.

In a glass house, you can see everything from every angle. In our generation, especially with the rise of social media, we are caught up sharing the highlights of our lives. You can, without hesitation, hide behind the highlight moments of your day, but who is invited into the dark moments? The Bible states in Proverbs, 18:1:

“A man who isolates himself seeks his own desire; He rages against all wise judgment.”

Do not isolate yourself in order to prevent having to tell friends the whole truth. That is a strong spirit that causes you to masquerade like everything is okay, when actually your life can be in complete turmoil. You hurt yourself, and hurt those around you because they need the real you. If you do not have anyone in your life you trust to share the dark things about yourself then pray for God to send you someone. Your spouse will be your best friend, but they should not be your only friend.

BMWK –  how have you been able to keep your friendship bonds tight over the years?  What qualities make you a good friend and what qualities do you look for in a friend?

The need to feel loved isn’t confined to marriage or even romance—everyone has a desire to be fulfilled by meaningful relationships and unconditional love. Click here to find out what your “Love Language” is as a single.

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Jamal Miller wrote 84 articles on this blog.

Jamal Miller is the Co-Founder of Married and Young.com, a community committed to doing relationships God’s way, alongside his wife Natasha Miller. He has been involved in Pastoral Ministry for over 8 years, graduating from Christ for the Nations Institute with his Practical Theology Degree and Ecclesia College with his Bachelors in Christian Leadership. His passion for marriage and healthy relationships has influenced thousands to do it God’s way! He is the author of "25 Ways to Prepare for Marriage Other than Dating". Jamal and Natasha reside in Chicago, IL.


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