3 Important Keys to Remember from a 3 Time Breast Cancer Survivor

BY: - 13 Oct '14 | inspiration

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Breast Cancer

The first time mom showed signs of breast cancer it was scary. I remember being home with her that morning. She woke up from a night’s sleep and her nightgown was filled with blood. She was bleeding from the ducts in her breast. The ducts that are created to supply milk to nourish a newborn baby were spouting blood. It was horrifying.

What came next was a diagnosis of breast cancer, a mastectomy, reconstructive surgery, chemo, and radiation. They were a part of the process. She was shook up but not defeated. The chemo caused nausea and the radiation burnt her badly but she was a survivor. A few years went by and the breast cancer metastasized. It reared its ugly head in her spine. This time chemo, the removal of part of her spine, and a hip surgery to gather bone to replace the vertebrae removed from her back were in store.  A few more years go by and you have got to be kidding me here we go again. This time the cancer returned to the breast where it began. This third time there was no surgery just radiation that burnt her badly and burnt away all the reconstructive surgery that she so painfully endured. Again shook up, body beaten, but she endured.

For this article it was my honor to sit down and talk with my mother. She is a three time breast cancer survivor with many stories of triumph to share and words of encouragement to gleam from. We talked at length but for the sake of this article I will share three things that she wanted those dealing with breast cancer to know.

  1. Find a good doctor that you trust. Or continue with the one your already have if you trust him or her with your life. Trusting your physician will be key. You don’t want to second guess what the doctor is telling you each time you go and have that weighing on your mind. Search out a doctor that meets your needs and calms your fears. One that your trust has your best interest and survival at the top of his priority list.
  1. Have a close friend that you can share your heart with; don’t just keep it bottled up inside. My mom talks about the ladies bible study group that she was a part of at the Pentagon. Those women where a treasured part of her life and encouraged her when she needed it and when she didn’t. Their outlook was always positive.
  1. Don’t worry. Try to keep pleasant thoughts as much as possible. Worrying makes things worse. Who can add a day to their life through worry? Positive thoughts and positive speech were look good medicine. My mother filled her mind with thoughts of her future. She read her Bible often to help keep her thoughts centered on the good in life. She had a time of feeling defeated and why me after the third diagnosis, but quickly moved from this place of mental despair, because her focus had to be on living.

My mother is a big proponent of women receiving their yearly mammograms. Breast Cancer Awareness tests and screenings saves lives. However, in her case she received a clean bill of health only a few weeks before receiving the diagnoses of cancer. For her the mammogram did not detect the cancer. She was neither bitter nor angry but grateful that no matter what she was a survivor. It has been over 10 years now since her last cancer diagnosis; my mother continues to be a survivor and encourages anyone facing this challenge to keep fighting this fight without giving up. At 73 years old, she encourages you to keep the mindset and the spirit of a survivor.

BMWK: Has anyone in your family experienced Breast Cancer?  

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Deborah L. Mills wrote 185 articles on this blog.

Coach, AUTHOR, Speaker, WIFE, Mom, and GRANDMOTHER. That's the gist of who I am. I love people and love to see their life and relationships thrive. As a coach I am ready to support your dream when you don't feel like it. As an author and speaker I am ready to pour into your life so that you can live your best life now. I am a personal and executive coach. Together with my husband I also marriage coach. GO TO MY WEBSITE. THERE IS A FREE GIFT THERE WAITING FOR YOU. http://bit.ly/2deborahlmills

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One thought on “3 Important Keys to Remember from a 3 Time Breast Cancer Survivor

  1. Lee I.

    How come that women in general, and “breast cancer survivors” in particular, most often lack the “breast cancer awareness” about the fact that a lot of breast cancer survivors are victims of harm instead of receivers of benefit (read epilogue of this article: google/bing “A Mammogram Letter The British Medical Journal Censored”)?

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4 Things a Good Husband and Good Bra Have In Common

BY: - 15 Oct '14 | inspiration

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Good Bra Good Husband

It was laundry time and I was down to my last and least favorite bra. Throughout the day, the bra was a nuisance and made me really appreciative of my good bras. And when I thought about it some more, I realized that the qualities of a good bra can also be found in a good husband.

Here are four of them.

A good bra and a good husband will never stab you in the back. The underwire of a good bra is meant to provide support. When the underwire in your bra stabs and pinches pieces of your flesh and makes you wish you never put it on, you know it is time to get rid of the bra. Similarly, a good husband never betrays your trust and is there for you to lean on when you feel overwhelmed. When you notice that your husband goes out of his way to make you feel less than, tells you that your ideas and dreams are dumb, or tells you that you can’t be who you are, then it may be time for some counseling or time for you to move on.

A good bra and a good husband make you feel sexy. When I put on my favorite bras, I know that I linger a bit longer in the mirror, add an extra spritz of my favorite perfume, and feel like I can take over the world at work. The same should occur with a good husband. A good husband tells you what he loves about you without prompting. He compliments you and makes you feel desired. In addition to his words, he shows that he believes you are sexy: a fondle, a booty smack, a long kiss, a poem, a serenade.

A good bra and a good husband make you look good. One of the reasons that you love your best bras are because they do an excellent job of making you look good, whether you are trying to round out, push up, smooth out, or minimize your girls.

When it comes to marriage, you know that you have a good husband when he protects and praises you in company and when you aren’t around. He will tell family members to stay out of your business in the same way that he will brag about you to his coworkers and friends.

A good bra and a good husband are built to last. You probably had to do some significant bra shopping to pick the brand that works for you. And more than likely, your best bras are not made from cheap flimsy material. When you take care of your delicates, they don’t disappoint. The lace stays intact, the straps stay firm, and material doesn’t pucker. As for a good husband, you probably had to date a lot of losers before you found your prince. He possesses all of the qualities that you need for a happy and meaningful life. And when you pour into him, you can be sure that he will be your partner-in-crime for the rest of your life.

BMWK: Are there any other ways that your good man acts and feels like your best bra? 

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Kara Stevens wrote 145 articles on this blog.

Kara is a motivational speaker, life coach, and founder of the personal finance and lifestyle blog The Frugal Feminista .

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