4 Homeschool Myths that Need to Go Away

BY: - 29 Jan '15 | Parenting

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My husband and I are only in our second year of homeschooling. So we are far from being the experts at this thing. But what I do know is that some of the same (and often times ridiculous) myths that go around about homeschool families from years ago, are still around today. Generally I get one of two reactions when I tell people that I homeschool: A) Wow, that’s great! or B) Girl, are you crazy?! And then occasionally, someone will ask (as they did a couple weeks ago), “What makes you qualified to teach your children? Have you taught before?” *insert screeching tires here*.

Let me be clear for those of you who are not aware: if you are a parent, you are a homeschooler (whether your kids go to a traditional school or not). We are our children’s first teachers. What I love about homeschooling is it allows us to be less rigid and more nurturing with our kids. We get to teach them at their own pace. I will never take anything away from the teachers that work so hard in the school systems and the ones that are doing a phenomenal job. But I’m happy to have the opportunity to teach my kids at home.

Today an estimated 1.6–2.0 million children are being taught at home by their parents. So it’s clear that this style of teaching is not going anywhere anytime soon. Here are 4 homeschool myths that need to go away:

1. Parents are not qualified enough to teach their kids

I’m not saying I’m better than any teacher. But I am saying that I’m more than qualified to give my kids a proper education. I don’t care to reinvent the wheel or make my job harder. We belong to a co-op group that meets once a week with over 100 other homeschool families (pre-k through high school). Our son (the only one who is legally supposed to be in school) also takes part in a Classical tutorial program once a week, where they go through all all of the subjects required by our county/state. I shared this picture the other day of my 7-year-old who is currently learning the periodic table. He’s also eager to learn because I promised him that we would make a periodic table out of cookies once he knows them all. The way I see it: I know how to read, write and ask for help when I need it.

2. Homeschooled kids will not be prepared for the real world

News flash: they live in the real world every day. When I take my kids to the grocery store and have them help me find items, that’s the real world. When I take them to Taekwondo twice a week, they learn about confidence, discipline, teamwork and respect, which is part of the real world. When they’re at home cooking with me and my oldest is reading off measurements from a recipe, it’s preparing him for the real world. We talk to our kids about everything, even those subjects that might be hard to tackle. We know we can’t always be there to protect them, so we plan to arm them with as much information and knowledge as we possibly can. We know that when they leave our home, they will definitely be prepared for the real world.

3. Homeschooled kids are not prepared for college

Actually, homeschoolers are more likely to enter college (76% vs. 46%) with more credit than their counterparts. “Homeschool students have proven themselves to be so outstanding that several colleges have begun to actively recruit them. Boston University, Nyack College, and Dartmouth are among them”. I’ve personally gotten to know and see homeschool high school students specifically in our co-op group, and they are as bright as they come. And then even when you second guess yourself, you’re surrounded by people who have been doing it, and have been successful, and they give you that extra bit of encouragement to keep on going. And if that’s not enough, you read about them more and more.

4. Homeschooled kids don’t know how to interact in social environments

This one is just crazy to me because, is school the only place that kids are in a social environment? I have to say that this was the least of my concerns when it came time to decide on whether or not we were going to homeschool. We’ve always had great kids (I know everyone says that about their kids, but seriously, mine are super fantastic). But them being “socially awkward” was definitely not a concern of mine. Why? For starters, we never planned to keep them in the house 24/7 and not show them the light of day. We come from a big family and we’re always out and about doing something…you know, socially. My kids have never lost their ability to communicate effectively. In fact, dare I say they are communicating even better now. My son has actually come out of his shell, and has a lot more confidence in himself.

I’m sure there are way more myths about homeschooling that need to go away or be debunked but these are the ones I’ve personally encountered myself. Hopefully, for those who are considering homeschool, you won’t allow outside forces/opinions to deter you from making that move. And those who have no interest in in whatsoever, no love lost. But just know, we’re not weird, crazy or eccentric people (most of us). We are doing what’s in the best interest for our own families.

BMWK, What crazy homeschool myths have you heard or encountered that you would like to see go away?

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Christine St. Vil wrote 153 articles on this blog.

Christine St.Vil is co-author of the Whose Shoes Are Your Wearing: 12 Steps to Uncovering the Woman You Really Want to Be. A happy wife to an amazing hubby of 8 years, and homeschooling mother of three, she teaches moms how to FLY (First Love Yourself). She uses her corporate background to work with women who are ready to start a new business, accelerate their career growth & design a life they love. She's on a mission to help moms to battle the mom guilt epidemic, so they can begin to put themselves first on their never-ending list of priorities.

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If Mommy is Beautiful, Then What AM I?

BY: - 30 Jan '15 | Natural Hair

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Being a mother is also about being the first woman your child looks up to and tries to emulate. I thought about the power a mother has over her children, then in a flash I thought about a mother not activating that power or worst, allowing the media to dictate what it means to be beautiful. While enjoying a breakfast date with one of my Butterflies, I was hit with the best line ever:

I promote positive examples of beauty for my daughters, their hair is beautiful and I show and tell them this everyday. They see me wearing my natural hair and they say “I want my hair like Mommy’s, because she is beautiful”.

As my friend and I talked about the influence she had over her two very beautiful daughters, the question of “Who defines beauty to a child?”, continued to play in my mind. A child seeing their mother wearing weaves, fake eyelashes, nails, and layers of make-up, ends up being their idea of beauty. This same look is perpetuated in the media, on magazines right by the candy in the grocery store; then it happens, these images become confirmation of what a beauty is in a child’s eyes.

When a young girl is growing up, one of the very first people she is trying to emulate is her mother. She wants to walk in her high heels, play in her makeup, wear her wigs or place a shirt on her head trying to get the image of long hair she sees her wearing. Isn’t that crazy? To think you, as a mother are the person responsible for how your daughter sees herself, as either beautiful or not? As scary as it sounds, my question to all mothers raising daughters is, “Are you being the example of beauty that will help or harm your child’s self-esteem?”.

This idea isn’t reserved for only your daughters. How your sons grow up seeing you will become their idea of what beauty is or isn’t. The man who despises weaves possibly grew up with a mother who was serious about wearing weaves as opposed to rocking her natural hair. Looking back over how you maintain your own ideas of beauty will help how your son and daughter view it for themselves.

Are you fostering a positive image of self-esteem for your children? Are you encouraging them to see themselves as beautiful, without the need of anything that must be applied? Telling your children they are beautiful and them seeing themselves in you is the best way to counter low self-esteem. Some may consider hair, weaves, lashes, and make-up as things they put on when they want to have a good time and or “look cute”. But who are you without it? More importantly, who is your child without it? Children observe mom excited and in a good mood after she gets a new weave, nails done, eyelashes perfectly placed, and her face beat to the god’s. They see you happy and in this moment beauty is born, but who is mom without these things she applies? And is mom beautiful without them?

Think about the images you portray in your home consciously and subconsciously, they could be the reason why your daughter doesn’t believe she’s beautiful and your son is only able to accept women that look a certain way. Tell your children they are beautiful before the world tells them they are not.

BMWK, Do you think how your children see you will affect the way they see themselves?

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Diana Ramsey wrote 17 articles on this blog.

Diana Ramsey is the Head Curl in Charge of SistersWithBeauty; a natural hair website, dedicated to teaching naturals the 6 Fundamentals of Home Hair Care. She encourages others to think about healthier hair choices, style options, and confidence building. Her mission is to motivate by any strand necessary. Join the Butterfly Movement. Visit www.SistersWithBeauty.com today!

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