5 Hair Raising Signs That You Are Doing Too Much

BY: - 6 Aug '15 | Lifestyle

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By: Lia Miller

Life is busy, and sometimes, that makes it messy.  We all wear many hats and often find ourselves taking on many roles.  But, at what point do we say enough is enough?

Do you ever find yourself awake at night because you feel anxious about all the things you have to do.  The “to-do” list is playing over and over in your head and you feel as if you are about to lose your mind.

Have you ever found yourself in a situation and wondered why am I doing this or why am I spending time on this?  If you are like me, such things didn’t happen overnight.  Rather, they represent an accumulation of manageable concerns that, over time, have piled up and become unmanageable.

If you haven’t had your “moment of clarity,” here are some tell-tale signs that you are doing too much.

Regular Exercise Just Ain’t Happenin’

Were you once a gym rat?  Did you get out and run/walk/bike consistently a few times a week?

For the overwhelmed, the first thing off their plate when too much is going on is exercise.  And truthfully, setting aside that trip to the gym in favor of something else is occasionally necessary.

But if you aren’t diligent in your pursuit, you fall out of the habit and that won’t be good for you or anyone in your family.

Drop some items off the to-do list, so you can get back on track and return to a more manageable work load.

Healthy Eating – You Wish!

After a hectic workday, it is no fun coming home to a  huge list of household chores.  As such, it can be pretty easy to replace a healthy home cooked meal with a greasy fast food deal.

Don’t get me wrong.  I’m not knocking the pizza guy showing up at your house off and on.  But,  unless you curb your fast food habit, especially if you’ve already nixed exercising, you’re setting yourself – and your family – up for an earlier than planned “retirement.”

Stress Is Impacting Your Health

You are definitely under stress If you experience the following symptoms regularly:

  • headaches
  • fatigue
  • aches and pains
  • chronic cold-like symptoms
  • insomnia
  • weight gain
  • hair loss
  • irritability
  • lack of patience
  • become easily frustrated
  • feel overwhelmed or like you are drowning
  • lose focus easily and have become forgetful


If this sounds like you, then you’ve reached the point where you need to make a change.

After all, as the great Count Rugen in the Princess Bride says, “If you haven’t got your health, you haven’t got anything.”

Hobbies Are Non-existent

If your hobbies have been replaced by the laundry, errands, cooking, and cleaning, chances are you are doing too much.


In general, people prioritize things they “must do” over things they “want to do” and sometimes “it is what it is;” but if you let life pass you by without doing the things you love and are energized by,  it is a clear sign you are doing too much.  After all, what is life without time to pursue and enjoy the things you love to do?

You Are Constantly Running Late

We all run late from time to time – the alarm didn’t go off, the train/bus was delayed, we’re stuck in traffic, or a meeting ran long.  But if you are perpetually running from place to place and are late to every event, you are doing too much.

You either need to dial things back, learn to say no, or learn to strategically manage your time.  The danger here is that while you are trying to accommodate everyone and get to every meeting, your lateness can be perceived as unreliability or lack of respect.

If this is your world, then you are clearly sending the opposite of the message you desire to convey.

 BMWK, are you doing waaaay too much?

Lia Miller, known to the blogging world as Lia World Traveler, is the quintessential every-woman, a loving wife and mother, daughter, sister, friend, author/singer/song-writer, movie and book buff, DIY loc’d naturalista, food lover, sports and fitness enthusiast, news junkie, traveling fool, diplomat, diversity/social inclusion advocate, and life-time learner. In both her work and private lives, Lia has seen a lot and done a lot and through her writing; she shares her adventures and insights with you at Life As I See It.

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Lia Miller wrote 23 articles on this blog.

Lia Miller is an every woman, in that she does and is interested in a lot of things. Lia is a wife and mother, ambitious/career focused individual, writer and award winning blogger, do-it-yourself loc’d naturalista, foodie, avid reader, movie buff, sports enthusiast, passionate about music, dance, and the arts, news junkie, advocate for the underdog/under-represented, with an incurable bug for traveling and exploring the world. Lia is also a clinical social worker with a concentration in children, relationships, and family dynamics. Lia’s focus is to find and share how to get the best out of life by living fully, loving hard, and always learning.


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One thought on “5 Hair Raising Signs That You Are Doing Too Much

  1. Serena

    All of these are so on point! I truly have people in my life that do way too much and I’m going to pass this along to them. These are lifesaving tips! People have lost friendships, relationships and spouses over doing way too much! Thanks Lia!

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The 3 P’s to Planning the Perfect Family Reunion

BY: - 10 Aug '15 | Lifestyle

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Disclosure: I’m a Blogger Ambassador for Hilton Hotels® and I received a complimentary 2-night hotel stay at Homewood Suites Hotels. As always, all opinions are my own.

There is no debating that family reunions are very important to African Americans.  Now that our families are spread out all over the United States, we use family reunions as a way to stay connected and to share family history and family traditions. In a study by Julie E. Miller-Cribbs, M.S.W., Ph.D, she found that over half of all travel and 70% of non-business travel by African Americans is to a family reunion.

Family reunions may have the capacity to ground people in a sense of place, of home and of family, and provide, if at least briefly, a sense of connection. ` Julie E. Miller

Wow!  With a statistic that like, you know that the family reunion trip might actually be the only trip for some families each year.  So it’s important that your family reunion is planned properly to provide the right mixture of fun and fellowship.

So, here are 3 P’s to a perfect family union.


Hands down, the planning is the most important aspect of the family reunion…it could literally make or break your event.  Let’s face it – improper planning causes confusion, stress, and At-titudes (with a capital A.)  If it is at all possible, planning for your family reunion should happen at least a year in advance.   And, there should be a committee that works together on the planning.

Planning in advance will also allow you to identify all of the family members that need to be notified. And it will give the entire family time enough to plan and budget for the event.  I can’t tell you how many times I have learned about family reunions at the last minute and it had me either scrambling to attend or missing it altogether.


Try to pick a place that would be accessible to the majority of your family and not just your “clique.”  I get it.  You’re planning and you’re doing most of the work, so why shouldn’t you pick the place.  But going back to the reason that you are doing this in the first place (so that family can connect) will help you stay focused on the right location for your event and will prevent you from excluding others because the event is too far or too costly.

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Cousins enjoying themselves in the pool during our family reunion.


Don’t just get together to eat and talk. Make sure that you pick a theme for your event, the food, and the activities.  And please don’t forget to make some time to go over family history. A family history program should be incorporated in every family reunion.

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Every year we have a program to discuss family history and accomplishments. In this picture, we are honoring my Aunt for the awesome work she did to plan our family reunion. And yes, it was an all-white party.

This year, I am so happy to be partnering with Hilton Hotels to spread the word about their “Count On It” initiative to help make your family reunion easy and stress-free for all participants.

African-American families can count on Embassy Suites Hotels and Homewood Suites by Hilton to help simplify the planning process, and provide spacious two-room suites, free hot breakfast, complimentary evening reception, full kitchens and other amenities that are sure to delight families,” said Mary Beth Parks, senior vice president, global marketing, Hilton Worldwide. “With ‘Count On It,’ families can focus on being together, whether in their suite or at a reunion activity.

By visiting hiltonfamilyreunions.com, family reunion organizers can find all the information they need to seamlessly manage their events.  They can create a  personalized group web page where everyone attending can book the rooms at a special group rate, while sharing important family reunion details.  And they will even provide on-site event planning that grants assistance from the hotel’s meeting planners.

BMWK – Please share with us some tips on how to make our next family reunion great.

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This post is brought to you by Hilton Worldwide. I have partnered with them to spread the word  that Embassy Suites Hotels and Homewood Suites by Hilton are teaming up to offer “Count On It,” a  program designed to help make family reunions easy and stress-free for all participants


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Ronnie Tyler wrote 528 articles on this blog.

Ronnie Tyler is the co-creator of BlackandMarriedWithKids.com and co-producer of the films Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me, Men Ain't Boys and Still Standing. The proud mom of 4 has been selected by Parenting Magazine as a Must-Read Mom and is one of Babble's Top 100 Mom Bloggers.


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