3 Ways to Drop the Drama and Find Peace in the New Year

BY: - 30 Dec '15 | Lifestyle

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The New Year is often a time of hearty celebration with friends, music and alcohol. But what does one do if they prefer to ring in the New Year alone or more contemplatively?

There are a number of ways to celebrate the New Year in a less traditional way and make it meaningful. Below are three ways you can bring in the New Year quietly either alone or with friends.

When you wake up first thing in the morning, go and get it so it is the first thing that comes into your home in the New Year.

1) Burning Bowl/Fire Pit

This is one of my favorites and can be done throughout the year either alone or with a group of friends. Doing it on New Year’s Eve is a powerful way to set the intention of what you want to let go and have more of in the New Year.

But safety first! Since this uses fire, you want to be careful and consult with your local fire station to adhere to safety guidelines. You can modify this by tearing up the paper instead of using fire.

Here is how it works. On one sheet of paper, write down the things that you want to let go of. For example, anger, regret, jealousy, hate, and/or judgment. It’s not uncommon for people to use multiple sheets of paper. Then, take another sheet of paper and write down all of the things you want to bring or have waiting for you in the New Year.

Once you have these written down, burn the paper with all of the things you want to leave behind in either a large metal fire bowl, fire pit or tear it up into small pieces. If you tear up your paper, throw it in the outside garbage. Do not keep it in the house.

Take a few minutes to process and release the energy that you no longer want. Then, take the list of things you do want and burn or tear that list into small pieces like you did the first list.

2) Wish Box

Write down all of the things that you want to have waiting for you in the New Year and include symbols of those things when possible. For example, you may want to place money in your box for prosperity and abundance.

When you place your list and symbols in your box, take it outside on New Year’s Eve and place it where no one can find it. Then when you wake up first thing in the morning, go and get it so it is the first thing that comes into your home in the New Year.

Open your box and go through each item and silently internalize the essence of what it will bring to you.

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5 Reasons Why Focusing on Your Health Can Improve Your Marriage

BY: - 5 Jan '16 | Lifestyle

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I firmly believe in the power of taking a holistic approach to living a happier life. I think if one area of your life is way out of balance, it inevitably impacts the other areas of your life in ways you wouldn’t even imagine.

That said, your health is probably the area of your life that impacts everything else the most. From your ability to be successful in business, to being energized when spending time with your kids, to being enthusiastic about improving your marriage, poor health can stop it all from happening in a way that sits well with your soul.

When people think about ways to improve the quality of their marriages, making changes to their health and wellness habits is not usually the first thing that comes to mind, but it really should be on the short list of things you to do make your marriage stronger. If you are strong, the other things in your life that matter begin to improve.

Not convinced? Listen, I have been fat and tired, I have been thin and energized, and I have been somewhere in between. I can tell you with confidence that being thinner and healthy made my life better in every possible way.

So what’s the big deal? Why will focusing on your health make your marriage stronger? Here are 5 reasons why:

You feel stronger and more confident

Feeling strong and confident changes how you approach every interaction you have. It especially has an impact on how you interact with your spouse. When you feel strong and confident, you stop looking for someone else’s validation.


You stand tall and strong in who you are and you know what you are capable of. It doesn’t mean you don’t desire compliments and acknowledgment from your spouse. It simply means you no longer need it. When you stop looking to someone else to make you feel good about who you are, your relationship with that person improves.

You sleep better at night

Sleep is essential, and although I am no stranger to sleepless nights (the hustle is real), I am also very aware of the person I turn into after too many sleepless nights.

When you are constantly tired because you are not seeping well or enough, you end up being irritable, cranky, and hard to be around.

When you are well-rested, you are more pleasant to be around and easier to communicate with. By making self-care a priority and getting the sleep your body needs, the quality of the interactions you have with your spouse will surely improve.

You have more energy

Feeling exhausted does nothing for your attitude and it definitely does nothing for your sex life. Even if you are getting enough hours of sleep, if your health is in poor condition, that sleep probably isn’t quality sleep and you can still end up spending your day feeling worn out.

When you have more energy, you are able to give more to your marriage. The more you are able to give, the better your marriage will be.

You have more clarity

When you eat well and exercise, it helps you eliminate any mental fog you may be experiencing. Having mental clarity helps you address issues in your life from a more reasonable perspective, and that allows you to manage things before they get out of hand.

With a clear mind you can handle small issues in your marriage before they become major issues.

Your mood improves

When your health is not in order it can have a major impact on your mood. Not sleeping well, eating unhealthy foods, and dealing with unmanaged heath issues can all make you feel anxious, sad, frustrated and irritable.

If you make your health a priority, it can have a tremendous impact on your mood and your relationship with your spouse. When you feel stronger and healthier, it makes you happier, and that makes all the difference.

 BMWK family, what are your current health and wellness goals and how will it improve your marriage?

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Martine Foreman wrote 496 articles on this blog.

Martine Foreman is a speaker, writer, lifestyle consultant, and ACE-certified Health Coach who specializes in helping moms who want more out of life but feel overwhelmed and confused. Through her content and services, Martine is committed to helping women embrace their personal truth, gain clarity, and take action to create healthier, happier lives. For more on Martine's candid views on life and love, visit her at candidbelle.com. To work with her, visit her at martineforeman.com. Martine resides in Maryland with her husband, two kids and sassy cat Pepper.


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