Ladies: Shop These 11 Black Owned Businesses to Spoil Your Man on Valentine’s Day

BY: - 11 Feb '16 | Relationships

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With Valentine’s Day around the corner, it’s easy to get lost in chocolates and flowers. And while my husband and I don’t go “all out” for one day of love when we celebrate it all year long, I do like getting him something nice. And since so much focus is generally on the women, I decided to pull together these 11 black owned businesses you can shop for your man this Valentine’s Day (or really, any special occasion for that matter).

Dapper Black Box:

This black-owned family business is a subscription box for the conscious gentleman. They make supporting the black economy simple and rewarding by assembling the latest fashion accessories from black-owned business and delivering them to you at an extremely low cost every month. While they are currently sold out of December boxes, you can sign up now to get their January box.

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Christine St. Vil wrote 153 articles on this blog.

Christine St.Vil is co-author of the Whose Shoes Are Your Wearing: 12 Steps to Uncovering the Woman You Really Want to Be. A happy wife to an amazing hubby of 8 years, and homeschooling mother of three, she teaches moms how to FLY (First Love Yourself). She uses her corporate background to work with women who are ready to start a new business, accelerate their career growth & design a life they love. She's on a mission to help moms to battle the mom guilt epidemic, so they can begin to put themselves first on their never-ending list of priorities.


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It’s Not You, It’s Men: Bridging the Communication Gap Between Men and Women

BY: - 15 Feb '16 | Relationships

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On this week’s episode of It’s Not You, It’s Men, Rev Run and Tyrese tackled the topic: Lost in Translation- How men and women communicate differently. Evelyn Lozada and Vin Disel joined the conversation as they discussed ways to foster better communication in relationships.  

It is a known fact that men and women communicate differently, which often leads to challenges within relationships. In order to avoid the communication gap, here are a few ways to communicate with your partner and not get lost in translation.

Clarify the need

When a woman shares a story it’s her way of venting about a problem. She doesn’t necessarily want the situation solved. When a man hears a woman’s story, he automatically offers a solution. A man is a fixer by nature and his desire is to fix the problem. The best way to avoid conflict is to clarify the desired outcome. Ask the story teller do they want a listening ear or a solution, based on the answer, the listener can provide the needed response.

Ask for the meaning

Women are guilty of asking a question or making a statement which has an alternate meaning than what’s implied. In order to avoid confusion, ask questions regarding the true meaning of the statement.  

For instance, when a woman ask a man how does she look in a particular item, she doesn’t want his honest opinion. She just wants reassurance. Rev Run shared a perfect example. If you don’t like the way she looks in the dress, say something to the effect: “You look good in that red dress but in the green dress you looked gorgeous.” Tell the truth in love by giving her the encouragement she needs.

Men: I see you but I don’t want to hear you.

Women: I see you and I hear you

Carefully listen

We live in a multitasking age, where a million things are vying for our attention.  By being preoccupied and not fully listening, we open the door for a misunderstanding to take place. TNMMaleListenSpeakWhen your partner is speaking, take the time to be present in the moment and listen to what they are saying.  Sometimes that is all they need from you.

Discuss preferred communication methods

An article in the Huffington Post stated that texting is ruining communication in relationships. In order to avoid this potential communication trap, discuss with your partner preferred methods of communication.

It is very easy for a text to be misinterpreted and the intention to be misunderstood. Texting puts you at a disadvantage because you can’t hear their voice inflection, see their facial expression and at times are unsure of the real meaning behind the emoji in the text. Texting is great but take time to have a conversation and talk to each other.

Establish social media boundaries

Social media is contributing to the decay of relationships. Be sure to establish boundaries around social media and your online activity regarding your relationship. Don’t invite your followers into your relationship. Choose to keep your relationship private.

Use appropriate conflict resolution

When you have a problem within your relationship don’t bring in outside influences. Discuss the problems of your relationship with the person that you are in the relationships with.

Practice transparency

Transparency: Be honest. Make sure your actions and words are in sync.  

Check yourself

Everyone has baggage. And God will send you someone who is willing to help you unpack your bags. However you have to be honest with yourself and your partner regarding your issues. When you don’t deal with your issues they cause problems in the relationship; especially in the area of communication.

Relationships have the potential to bring out the best and worst in people. Communication is the foundational component which breaks or makes a relationship.  The best way to succeed in this area is by discussing your communication style and needs.

Be willing to say I don’t understand, ask for clarity and take time to really listen to your partner. Communication is the key to a successful relationship. By working on understanding each other’s communication style, you are building the foundation for a healthy relationship.

BMWK how do you communicate?

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Judi Mason wrote 61 articles on this blog.

Judi Mason is an Empowerment Strategist, whose mission is to empower You to become your best authentic self. As an accomplished author, Judi has garnered much success with her self-help books and workshops; including her popular Girl Talk: Relationship 101 events- which was birthed from her best-selling book, The Relationship Chronicles- Real Love, Straight Talk No Drama. As a sought after speaker, Judi uses multiple platforms from the marketplace to ministry; to enable individuals to pursue and fulfill their God ordained purpose with passion, in life, love and entrepreneurship.


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