Ladies, Can You Handle The Truth? 6 Things That Frustrate Your Man!

BY: - 3 May '16 | Marriage

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Ladies Can You Handle The Truth? 6 Things That Frustrate Your Man!

1) You can’t make up your mind

Whether it’s what to wear or what to eat, can you please just make a decision and stick to it??? Sometimes, it really just comes down to you overthinking things. The kicker though is that when you ask for our opinion (and we give you an answer) and then you aren’t happy with our answer! Then you wonder why we always say “it’s whatever you want babe.” or “it doesn’t matter!” We still love you though! HA!

2) You can’t be on time to save your life!

Okay, if we have to be somewhere at 8:00pm that doesn’t mean you start getting ready at 7:30pm and we leave home at 8:25….NO! I know you’ve been picking out clothes and doing your makeup for years, so why is it that you still can’t allow enough time to get it all done so that you can be on time? Your husbands even try to tell you an earlier time but you’ve caught on to our game, so we still end up late. Oh and that “I’ll do my makeup in the car” stuff usually doesn’t help either.

3) You want to talk during the game

The playoffs are not the time for you to bring up serious conversations during the fourth quarter. I know you think that just because we are chilling, watching the game that we don’t look “busy.” But understand we need to focus! The game isn’t just background noise because every man is a low key sports analyst when his team is playing. In other words, just wait until the game is over for any important discussions because, if not, you’ll probably get very shallow, quick answers that you won’t like. Just trust me on this!

4) You won’t get to the point!

Ladies, I know you think we need to hear every detail to the story, but the truth is that we just want you to get to the point. Give us the Cliffs Notes version of the story because honestly you lose us in the first five minutes and then get mad because we glaze over. Give us the outline and both of us won’t be frustrated.

5) You want us to do things on your time and in your way

I can’t stress this enough: ladies you aren’t our mothers and we hate to be treated like your child. If you want us to do something just ask us but don’t get an attitude if we don’t do it your way and on your time. If we agree to do something and we don’t do it in the first five minutes of agreeing to it, it doesn’t mean we aren’t going to do it. You usually ask us in the middle of the game anyways, so it’s not a priority right now. Oh, and if you decide to do it yourself that’s on YOU, so don’t get an attitude with US.

6) Asking for the truth and hating the answer

Ladies, please stop asking us questions that you really don’t want the answer to. You put us in these catch-22 situations by asking these loaded questions, and we know we can’t win either way. Don’t ask the question unless you really want the answer even if the answer isn’t what you wanted to hear.

Soooooo ladies….I’m sure you’ve got an attitude with me after reading this, but just know that at the core of this article, are a few things that might be frustrating your man that you had no clue about. Yeah I know you’ve got a list of 45 things that frustrate you about us too but that’s why relationships are about learning each other and compromising! Like I said…we still love you though!

 

BMWK fellas, what other things stress you out about your spouse?

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Troy Spry wrote 225 articles on this blog.

Troy Spry a Certified Life, Dating, and Relationship Coach and the one and only "Reality Expert", resides in Charlotte, NC. He created his blog, Xklusive Thoughts, with the intent of putting out a very realistic perspective and using it as a vehicle for inspiration! He hopes to challenge people to think differently and inspire people to do and be better in relationships and in life!

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10 Ways “Phubbing” is Hurting Your Family

BY: - 3 May '16 | Marriage

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You’ve finally found a babysitter to stay with the kids, so you can enjoy a night out with your boo. But during the car ride to the restaurant, you are checking your Facebook status updates instead of talking to your husband in the car. At the restaurant, they ask you to wait 15 minutes (despite your reservation) and your husband starts checking work emails while you both sit and wait in silence.

Has this ever happened to you?

Unfortunately, it’s becoming a reality for far too many couples. Our love for technology is interfering with our love for each other. Crazy, right?

According to a Today Show post, this new (and sad) phenomenon is called “phubbing” or phone snubbing. Yep. Every time your spouse ignores you because he or she would rather engage with a smart phone, you are being phubbed. Ouch!

And the saddest part is that it’s not just your spouse that’s getting phubbed. Many of us are doing it to our kids, too. Telling our kids to wait one second while we finish typing a text message. Stopping to share pics of family fun on Instagram, only to find that you are no longer a part of the fun because you are now strolling through your Instagram feed.

Sure, on the surface, it doesn’t seem all that harmful, but it is. Phubbing is a problem generations before us didn’t have to worry about, and it’s causing a lot more damage than we think.

Here are 10 ways that phubbing is hurting your family.

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It creates distance in your marriage.
If you’d rather scroll through Instagram pics or look at what everyone on Facebook is up to instead of talking to your spouse, you are creating distance in your relationship, even if you don’t intend to. You should be using your time together to catch up on life, not scroll through emails or social media apps.

It stops you from being present.
It’s hard to be present with your family when you are constantly distracted by notification alerts on your phone. Whether you are using your device for business or for pleasure, when it constantly takes you away from the moment you’re in, it hurts you and your family.

It leaves you feeling unwanted.
If your spouse seems more interested in his or her phone than in having a conversation with you, it can leave you feeling disappointed and unwanted. And if you are the one distracted by the phone, you can make your spouse feel this way.

It contributes toward raising socially-awkward kids.
More and more kids are being raised with minimal social skills. Your kids need to see you talking and interacting with each other. They need to know what that looks like. If you are always on a device instead of engaging with your spouse, it shows your children that it’s normal behavior. And it robs them of learning how to effectively communicate with the people they love most.

It diminishes the quality of family time.
When work is done, family time should be quality time. That should mean no cells phones allowed. Your family needs to know that they are important enough for your to put your device away sometimes, so you can just hang out with them and enjoy true quality time.

It creates a culture of avoidance.
Although most people won’t admit it, smart phones are often used as an avoidance tactic. If you want a way out of an awkward conversation, just find something to do on your phone. The more engaged you look, the less likely you are to be interrupted. The problem is, whatever you’re avoiding never goes away. It just lingers. And I think we all know that lingering problems grow.

It sends your kids a negative message about communication.
Your kids need to know that you value the importance of communicating with them and with your spouse. Don’t raise kids that think texting on a smart phone is more important than picking up the phone and calling a friend in need. They need you to show them what healthy communication looks like.

It gives the devices in your home too much control.
Smart phone, tablets and other devices should not run things in your home. You should. If you feel like having a device in your hand is becoming a bad habit that you just can’t break, then take steps towards changing that habit before it damages your family life.

It fails to recognize the importance of setting boundaries.
Knowing when to put the phone down is all about setting boundaries, and setting clear boundaries is important in any family. If you are able to successfully set phone boundaries, everyone will be happier because of it.

It interferes with intimacy.
Nothing says, “I’m not interested” like having a glaring smart phone in the bed with you. There is a time and a place for your device, and maybe—just maybe—bedtime isn’t the right time and your bedroom isn’t the right place.

BMWK family, are you “phubbing” your spouse and your kids? What can you do to change that?

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Martine Foreman wrote 494 articles on this blog.

Martine Foreman is a speaker, writer, lifestyle consultant, and ACE-certified Health Coach who specializes in helping moms who want more out of life but feel overwhelmed and confused. Through her content and services, Martine is committed to helping women embrace their personal truth, gain clarity, and take action to create healthier, happier lives. For more on Martine's candid views on life and love, visit her at candidbelle.com. To work with her, visit her at martineforeman.com. Martine resides in Maryland with her husband, two kids and sassy cat Pepper.

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