5 Relationship Issues You Need to Address Before the Year Ends

BY: - 29 Sep '16 | Marriage

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As we approach October, we all recognize that we are in the final quarter of the year. Sure, that means a lot to folks in the business world, but it should also mean a lot to you on a personal level.

So often, we take the start of the year as a time to identify what we want to change about our lives and relationships in the coming year. Now there is nothing wrong with planning for a better tomorrow. However, there is definitely something wrong with just waiting for tomorrow when you can do something today.

You can change things. You can start the new year off in a better place instead of waiting for the new year to arrive before you take action.

If you have relationship issues or family concerns that need to be tackled, why would your purposely hold off on addressing those issues? Yes, I know the holidays can be crazy. Yes, I also know that the holiday to-do list is sometimes insane. But I also know that if something is truly a priority in your life, you make time for it.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that you can address all your marital problems in three short months. Unless your problems are relatively small in nature, that may not be realistic. But you can make progress in three months. You can change things. You can start the new year off in a better place instead of waiting for the new year to arrive before you take action.

If you have any of the relationship problems listed below, consider doing something about it now. Don’t wait. Don’t ride it out until the holidays are over. Do something. You won’t regret it, and your relationship will be stronger for it.

Here are 5 issues you need to address before this year ends.

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Poor Communication

Communication issues are common but often go unaddressed. The problem with ignoring communication issues is that they can easily snowball into much larger issues, causing all kinds of problems in your marriage. Instead of waiting until January to address the poor communication occurring in your marriage, start addressing these issues now. Not only will it give you a head start when it comes to kicking off a great 2017, but it will also help you have a happy and peaceful holiday season.

Money Management Concerns

If you are having major issues in your marriage about money, you won’t address all of those issues in three months (and things could get especially tricky over the holidays).

However, entering another holiday season—a time where a lot of money is spent—is not something you want to do unless you make an effort to address what’s going on. Even if you firmly believe your spouse is causing your money troubles, don’t point fingers. Take a team approach, develop a common goal and get some outside help, so you can reach your financial goals while repairing any damage to your marriage.

Lack of Intimacy

Is your spouse no longer romantic? Do you feel like your sex life is not what it once was? Are you craving more affection and moments of intimacy in your marriage?

Start working on these things now. Once you establish that you are both still in love and you both want your marriage to last, you can begin working toward restoring the intimacy in your relationship.

It’s possible you won’t be able to do this alone, but that is okay. Get help. Seek counseling or therapy if you must, but do it now. Maybe you can start in October. Don’t wait another two to three months to do something. Your marriage deserves better.

Lack of Quality Time

Quality time with your spouse and your children is critical. If that is missing, it may be time to create new family rules in an attempt to get everyone to spend some much needed time with each other. Limit the use of devices. Plan family trips (a hike or a trip to the pumpkin farm is a nice idea).

Think about ways you can engage in community service as a family. Make this the year that you start new family traditions. The end of the year is a great time for connecting with the people you love most, so don’t wait for the new year to address an issue that is possibly hurting your marriage and your family more than anything else.

Health Concerns

Whether it’s a mental health issue or an issue with your physical health, address it today. Waiting will only hurt you and your marriage. Health issues have a tremendous impact on how we feel and how we interact with the people we love. When we neglect taking care of ourselves, our relationships hurt. You can get a head start on your health and improve your marriage long before everyone screams “Happy New Year!.”

 BMWK family, what do you plan to do to improve your relationship before the year ends?

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Martine Foreman wrote 494 articles on this blog.

Martine Foreman is a speaker, writer, lifestyle consultant, and ACE-certified Health Coach who specializes in helping moms who want more out of life but feel overwhelmed and confused. Through her content and services, Martine is committed to helping women embrace their personal truth, gain clarity, and take action to create healthier, happier lives. For more on Martine's candid views on life and love, visit her at candidbelle.com. To work with her, visit her at martineforeman.com. Martine resides in Maryland with her husband, two kids and sassy cat Pepper.

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Mr. and Mrs. President…The Obama Love Story in Photos

BY: - 29 Sep '16 | Black Celebrity Marriages

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“I have never been prouder to watch the rest of America fall in love with you too as our nation’s first lady.” – Barack Obama

Simply Beautiful!  Right?  What’s not to love about First Couple Michelle and Barack Obama’s love?  Let me say this upfront, with all due respect before anyone goes in on a political rant, this is not the article for that.

The article is to honor the progression of their love and love alone.  Even if you’re not a fan of theirs politically, don’t you just adore their unapologetic public displays of affection?  I find their genuine display of love adorable, captivating and inspiring—a breath of fresh air for all!

THE LOOK OF LOVE BETWEEN MR & MRS. OBAMAObama_embrace_findsourceTHE FIRST COUPLE ALWAYS SEEM TO SHARE A LAUGH…Obamas_smile_dance_Whitehousegov
…AND A SUBTLE DISPLAY OF SOLIDARITYWhitehouse.govBARACK LOVINGLY KISSING MICHELLE ON THE CHEEKObamaKiss_whitehousegov

No doubt the couple represents power professionally, after all President Barack Obama is the leader of the free world; but they represent the power of love with one of the sweetest storybook romances.

It was 28 years ago that they met each other.  Team Obama hit the scene in 2007 when President Obama launched his first presidential campaign.  However, the true launch happened in 1989, when their romance would unfold in in such an aspiring fashion that it became the basis of a full feature-length movie, Southside with You.

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Love that started under the roof of a Chicago law firm almost three decades ago has certainly only progressed with time.  A young fierce attorney Michelle Robinson was selected to mentor a young yet determined intern named Barack Obama at the Chicago law firm Sidley & Austin. This determined intern was adamant to get a date with Ms. Michelle Robinson.

The couple must have always been about doing the right thing, so much so that couple’s first “date” (Michelle insists it wasn’t a date, lol) included a trip to see the Spike Lee film Do the Right Thing.

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THE PAIR HAVE ALWAYS SEEMED TRULY IN AWE OF EACH OTHER
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Hailing from the South Side of Chicago, too, I would be remiss if I neglected to give a SHOUT-OUT to all my South Siders!!!  (South Siders know the voice…SOUTH SIDE, lol)  Alright, back to business.

The young Michelle Robinson probably wouldn’t have believed she was getting the opportunity to mentor the future president! We’re told Barack Obama instantly fell for her, but Michelle was a sister from the South Side who was focused and about her business.

According to Michelle, she felt they instantly clicked on that “date” night and she could see herself with him for years to come

After two years of wooing, the couple married on October 3, 1992 (HAPPY Anniversary Mr & Mrs. Obama!!!). Thank you POTUS and FLOTUS for creating memories and sharing them through photos, which clearly capture the essence of your love.

COMPLETELY IN SYNC, WHILE THEY WAVE TO THE CROWDObama_hug_Facebook
HAND-IN-HAND, THEY WAVE AS THEY WALK THROUGH THE INAUGURATION DAY PARADEObama_Wave_Whitehousegov

Ever since their marriage, both love birds have gone on to make strides personally and professionally that have served the lives of millions.

In modern history, you’re not likely to find a man in power that consults his wife for guidance and advice. According to President Obama, he would not have run for presidency had he not had the consent of his wife. Michelle not only loved him as a person but loved the many causes he cared about.  Throughout her life, she has stood with her husband, supporting him.

Being the 44th President and the 44th first Lady of United States of America, the limelight on them has only increased. And despite the world watching them, they do not seem to have any apprehension in showing their love for each other publicly.

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From supporting the presidential campaigns to handling some delicate issues, the FLOTUS has been there for her husband and has assisted him with his role and duties. Likewise, the President has done the same.

Barack has also been a dedicated father. According to Michelle, he has always taken a keen interest in the upbringing of their children and has attempted to make their life as normal as much as possible, considering. Furthermore, even after having such a delicate position, one of the rules the two set is that at the end of each day, they will make sure to call each other and talk to their girls before their bedtime.  Love on all fronts, yes?

Even the way they smile shows the glimpses of each other, don’t they?
In the below article, the First Lady reveals how her husband is just as romantic with her today as he was 28 years ago.

Can you imagine his schedule and her schedule?  Now imagine them MAKING time for date nights!?! Despite time constraints, they still MAKE time to go out on dates and enjoy one another like everyday couples. To support this statement, after the November 4th election victory, they went out to their favorite Italian restaurant in Chicago to celebrate while spending private time away from the media.

Sometimes, when we’re lying together, I look at her and I feel dizzy with the realization that here is another distinct person from me, who has memories, origins, thoughts, feelings that are different from my own. That tension between familiarity and mystery meshes something strong between us. Even if one builds a life together based on trust, attentiveness and mutual support, I think that it’s important that a partner continues to surprise.” – Barack Obama

They’ve raised a family before our eyes. We’ve witnessed them handle adversity publicly.

The progressive love story of Barack and Michelle demonstrates humble beginnings to historic blessings!

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AND DESPITE THE PRESIDENCY, THERE IS ALWAYS TIME FOR FAMILYObama_firstfamily_Park_whitehouseogv

But yet and still, we’ve only witnessed their bond appear to grow stronger, more durable and more inspirational. As President Obama concludes his last term in office, we’re thankful to have had the front-row seat to their union. Black love is often demeaned, downgraded, ignored and misinterpreted in our society, but we are proud to have perhaps the biggest public example of the true power and potential of black love in the Obamas.

IT SEEMS THEIR MARRIAGE HAS NEVER LOST ITS SPARKOfficial White House Photo by Pete SouzaAND THEY SEEM TO KEEP THEIR SENSE OF HUMOR IN THEIR MARRIAGE Obamas_joke_whitehousegov
CAUGHT ON THE KISS CAM, THEY’RE NEVER ASHAMED TO DISPLAY THEIR LOVEObamas_kissCam_whitehousegov

BMWK, Help us show our thanks to the Obamas by sharing this article, bestowing them blessings in the comments and wish them a happy anniversary.


All photos came from whitehouse.gov and the official social media pages of the First Family.

 

 

 

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Da-Nay Macklin wrote 45 articles on this blog.

Coach Da-Nay Macklin is a Certified Christian Life & Relationship Coach, founder of the Courageous Conquerors Mastermind and Author of Love After Adultery: The Breakthrough Journey of the Brokenhearted Available on Amazon She is one of the nation’s leading experts on infidelity and a thought leader on maximizing potential as she assists couples and individuals to live life by design and not default. Da-Nay has been has been featured on the Oprah Winfrey Network’s show Unfaithful: Stories of Betrayal after successfully navigating adultery in her marriage, and named one of the 15 most powerful women on the south side of Chicago. She now resides in Charlotte, NC with her loving husband and daughter.

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