3 Tips to Survive the Holiday Season When You Can’t Cook a Lick

BY: - 21 Nov '16 | Home

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Anyone who knows me knows I don’t cook, despite the fact that I LOVE to eat. The holidays are one of my favorite times of year for many reasons, and that’s mostly due to the abundance of food and family that is around.  So how can I, as a non-cooking person, pull my weight in social settings where everyone is expected to contribute?  Here are three tips I have used to survive the holiday season as a non-cook.

Tag Team

One of my go-to moves for years has been to tag team with a friend (or friends) I know who can cook like a pro and who knows my limitations in the kitchen.  My friends will ask me what dish I want to “learn” to make, and I will pick one or two, buy all of the ingredients needed for the dish and will then either go to my friend’s house or have them come over to teach me how to make it.

I did this with one of my best friends last Thanksgiving and learned how to make the best mac-n-cheese I’ve ever tasted; there wasn’t a piece left once dinner was over.  When the time comes to give credit for all of the goodness of the food, you share the credit with your bestie since you did it together.

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Practice Makes Perfect

Pick one or two recipes that are simple and easy for you as a non-cook. And don’t deviate or get overconfident in your culinary capabilities; make sure you follow the instructions step-by-step.

I did this with deviled eggs, and it became one of my signature items to make when I attend a holiday potluck event.  Once you have selected your dishes, practice, practice, practice.  Make the dishes a few times until you have perfected them; this should be to the point where you don’t need to follow the recipe anymore.  Practice making your dish a few times in advance of the holiday season, so that when the holidays roll around, you’ve got your recipes on lock and are ready to share your potluck contribution with confidence.

Be the Host

Another trick I’ve used in the past is to be the event host(ess).  What I do as hostess is provide all of the “staples,” as in things you can buy from the store, like wine, drinks, breads from the bakery, cheese, sliced meat, fruit and vegetable platters, etc. And then, I make a list of the items still needed for the event and send it to the guest list, which consists of people who can cook, who then come through the event with the more challenging and substantive dishes.  This has worked wonderfully over the years. Plus, it has also resulted in lots of tasty leftovers once the event has concluded.

These few tips have served me well over the years, and I hope they help my fellow non-cooks out there to survive this and many more holiday seasons.  Good luck and happy eating!!!

To all our BMWK non-cooks, what’s your go-to recipe when you’re asked to bring a dish for a potluck?

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Lia Miller wrote 23 articles on this blog.

Lia Miller is an every woman, in that she does and is interested in a lot of things. Lia is a wife and mother, ambitious/career focused individual, writer and award winning blogger, do-it-yourself loc’d naturalista, foodie, avid reader, movie buff, sports enthusiast, passionate about music, dance, and the arts, news junkie, advocate for the underdog/under-represented, with an incurable bug for traveling and exploring the world. Lia is also a clinical social worker with a concentration in children, relationships, and family dynamics. Lia’s focus is to find and share how to get the best out of life by living fully, loving hard, and always learning.

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7 Bad Habits That Will Wear Your Marriage Out

BY: - 21 Nov '16 | Home

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Bad habits are hard to break. Smoking, cursing and laziness are a few that, despite our best efforts, most of us continue to struggle with.

The truth is our bad habits won’t change overnight. There are some that affect just you personally, meaning if you never change them, they won’t necessarily hurt anyone else. Then there are others, that if not changed, could ruin your whole marriage.

So couples, it’s time that we become aware of the habits causing us the most heartache. Check out these seven bad habits that will wear your marriage out.

1. Ignoring your spouse’s requests too often will definitely cause a rift between you and your spouse. It’s easy to get caught up with your own needs. But remember whether you’re the one fulfilling your spouse’s needs or not, they will get met.

2. Sleeping separately makes intimacy difficult. Whether you do it when you’re mad at your spouse or whether you get into the habit of falling asleep on the couch after a night of binge watching, you’re destroying your intimacy. There’s a connection that happens just by lying next to your spouse. Plus, keep in mind, simply rolling over could kick off something hot and steamy in the bedroom.

3. Failing to show a genuine interest in your spouse’s life will affect your connection. People need to feel loved and valued. It doesn’t require very much energy to check in with your spouse and ask how their day is going.

4. Making everything else a priority above your spouse will drive him/her away. Your marriage and spouse should be at the top of the to-do list. When things are good in the home, all else will feel right in the world. Your spouse counts on you to make them feel like the most important person in this world.

5. Talking too much and not listening enough will make your spouse check out, altogether. Communication is the most needed ingredient for a healthy relationship. The verbal connection with your spouse is everything. Listening is essential to understanding.

6. Putting little-to-no effort into the relationship will ultimately end the relationship. Marriage is an investment. Take the time to nurture it and give it the energy it needs to thrive. Your marriage won’t work without you working.

7. Letting yourself go will affect the physical attraction you have with your spouse. For the most part, people want who they initially fell in love with, and some of that has to do with appearance. Look good, smell good and take pride in how you look for your spouse.

Sometimes, we just can’t seem to shake those bad habits. However, for the good of our marriage, we have to rid ourselves of the ones doing more harm than good.

BMWK, what are some bad habits you feel hurts our marriages?

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Tiya Cunningham-Sumter wrote 630 articles on this blog.

Tiya Cunningham-Sumter is a Certified Life & Relationship Coach, founder of Life Editing and Author of A Conversation Piece: 32 Bold Relationship Lessons for Discussing Marriage, Sex and Conflict Available on Amazon . She helps couples and individuals rewrite their life to reflect their dreams. Tiya has been featured in Essence and Ebony Magazines, and named one of the top blogs to read now by Refinery29. She resides in Chicago with her husband and two daughters. To find out more about Tiya, and her coaching, visit www.thelifeandlovecoach.com and www.theboldersister.com.

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