Ladies, Bring Sexy Back to Your Relationship; 20 Suggestions to Rethink, Reshape or Revive Your Inner Vixen

BY: - 28 Nov '16 | Intimacy

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After two children and some busy living, I don’t often feel as hot as I did in my 20s. I’ve gained weight, had a few surgeries, my eyeglass prescription is stronger, and my hair has changed. Those kind of transformations are enough to make a woman question whether or not she’s still got it.

The longer we live, the more change we’ll experience. Most will be external while some will be internal.

As busy parents and spouses, we have to make sure we don’t allow one to affect the other. Loving and feeling good about ourselves is a choice. If you struggle with feeling sexy, too, I hope a few of these suggestions are the reminder you need to get you back to sexy.

  • Sexy is an attitude
  • Men love a little extra to hold on to
  • Some women are paying for bigger butts and hips
  • Lingerie comes in all sizes for a reason
  • Extra pounds shouldn’t change your seduction and bedroom skills
  • Self-love empowers you  
  • Dressing up in a way that accentuates what you love about yourself is reassuring
  • Treating yourself well is a must
  • Positive affirmations will change your perspective
  • Your man stays for a reason
  • Self-pride is so attractive
  • Erotica will quickly arouse your inner vixen
  • Hobbies will bring you back to you
  • Sexy language, like “my breasts are sexy and voluptuous” encourages a positive self-image
  • Verbalizing your desires ensures you get what you need
  • Managing a household is sexy
  • Building a career is sexy
  • Bubble baths, massages and body wraps do your body good
  • Finishing or going back to school is sexy
  • At anytime, you can work on changing what you don’t like

In order to feel good about ourselves, we have to remind ourselves why we should feel good in the first place. Raising children, managing a household and pleasing a spouse is a job. One you should be proud of. If ever you doubt whether or not you still have it going on, just look at all you contribute to the lives of those around you. You are remarkable and that is super sexy!

BMWK, what are additional ways to feel sexy again?

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Tiya Cunningham-Sumter wrote 630 articles on this blog.

Tiya Cunningham-Sumter is a Certified Life & Relationship Coach, founder of Life Editing and Author of A Conversation Piece: 32 Bold Relationship Lessons for Discussing Marriage, Sex and Conflict Available on Amazon . She helps couples and individuals rewrite their life to reflect their dreams. Tiya has been featured in Essence and Ebony Magazines, and named one of the top blogs to read now by Refinery29. She resides in Chicago with her husband and two daughters. To find out more about Tiya, and her coaching, visit www.thelifeandlovecoach.com and www.theboldersister.com.

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5 Prayers for Better Sex and Intimacy in Your Marriage

BY: - 28 Nov '16 | Intimacy

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We pray for many things in our marriage. So why not better sex and intimacy? If the Bible dedicates an entire book to this subject, it must be important and require our attention. It may seem weird at first to pray over sex and intimacy, but God is concerned about every aspect of your marriage.

When praying be sure to cover these five areas. Insert your spouse’s name in each blank.

  1. A Safe Place for Open Communication
    Lord grant me the gift of open communication with _____________ concerning our sex and intimacy. Give me a desire to share my heart and hear his/her heart in this area. Allow us to create a safe place for one another where we feel secure enough to open our hearts and tell one another our wants and desires.

Scripture: Ephesians 4:15; Psalm 4:8

  1. A Healthy Body Image
    Father, show us how to be confident in the bodies you have given us. Give us the courage to stand in the truth that we are fearfully and wonderfully made in your image and know that our bodies are a gift from you. Pray that the sight and touch of my body are both pleasing to _________________. And his/her body is pleasing and brings me pleasure. Thank you Lord for allowing me to marry your son/daughter.

Scripture: Genesis 1:27; Psalm 139:14

  1. Healing from Past Hurts
    Past hurts are real. Thank you for being the God that heals. You are powerful enough to heal what seems to be inconsolable. Right now, I release all hurt and pain associated with ______________________ (event), and I receive your healing. Past hurts will no longer hinder my intimacy with __________________. It is done in Jesus name.

Scripture: Genesis 50:20; Matthew 11:28; Psalm 107:19-21

  1. A Desire to Please One Another
    ___________________ and I are joined together as one. Our desire is for you first, and then for one another. We will forever be satisfied with one another because our love for one another is based on a love for you. It is not solely physical or emotional but complete in you.

Scripture: Proverbs 5:18-23; Malachi 2:15

  1. Keep the Enemy Out of the Bedroom
    I declare that ________________ and I satisfy each other sexually and intimately. We are each other’s good thing. We will let nothing come between that. Our marriage bed is sacred and no devil in hell will defile that sanctity. When faced with any tempting situation, you have already given us a way out and you are that way. We will rely on you.

Scripture: Proverbs 18:10; 1 Corinthians 10:13

Isn’t it exciting to introduce this area of your marriage into your prayer life. Sex and intimacy are a vital part of the marriage relationship. We pray about a lot of things in our marriage. Sex and intimacy are no different, pray for confidence, healing, trust, desire and anything else that concerns you.

BMWK family, do you already pray over sex and intimacy in your marriage?

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Deborah L. Mills wrote 183 articles on this blog.

Coach, AUTHOR, Speaker, WIFE, Mom, and GRANDMOTHER. That's the gist of who I am. I love people and love to see their life and relationships thrive. As a coach I am ready to support your dream when you don't feel like it. As an author and speaker I am ready to pour into your life so that you can live your best life now. I am a personal and executive coach. Together with my husband I also marriage coach. GO TO MY WEBSITE. THERE IS A FREE GIFT THERE WAITING FOR YOU. http://bit.ly/2deborahlmills

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