In my previous article, I asked why do Christian men date and marry outside of the church. Referencing some of the high profile Christian pastors and leaders who have turned to Hollywood to find their mates (Pastor Devon Franklin and actress Meagan Good, Gospel artist Israel Houghton and singer/talk show host Adrienne Bailon, Pastor Jamal Bryant and R&B singer Tweet, etc.).
In that article, I talked to single Christian women to get the reasons they've encountered as to why they were being overlooked for less-traditional church girls and women outside the church altogether.
Little did I know that the men would be so vocal regarding this topic. I received countless emails, social media post and instant messages regarding this topic. The men were ready to talk and express their feelings regarding this hot button topic. Ladies, hold on because some of the answers you might not be ready for. And also, note, this is not an attack on all Christian women; it's just the perception of these men. So please remember, I am just the messenger.
[Before going any further, I would like to apologize to the men. In my previous article, my intention was to share what seemed to be taking place more frequently in the church. It was never to imply that “all” Christian men were guilty of this behavior. So I apologize if that sentiment was implied.]
Here are the top 12 answers that I repeatedly received as to why Christian men (between the ages of 30-55) date outside of the church.
Your Pastor, Deacon and Church Family
There should only be one man in your relationship and that is the man you are dating—not your pastor’s opinions, statements or sermons. These men say they don’t want to hear what the pastor had to say. When Christian women constantly state “Pastor said this and Pastor said that…”It turns a man off. He wants to be the only one that you admire and quote, not your pastor. (Plus, he’s uncomfortable that another man has so much sway over you.)
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