A Few Things to Remember if You’re Questioning if Your Spouse is Still “The One”

BY: - 27 Dec '16 | Marriage

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When your marriage is in a good place you feel good and you’re optimistic about your relationship and its future. But oh boy…when it’s not so great, you probably question and second guess everything about your union. You may have even wondered if you married the right person.

Whenever you end up in that space, here are a few things to remember.

Why you fell in love the first place.

Remember when you fell in love? You probably couldn’t get your spouse out of your head back then. Maybe you thought about them almost every hour. Do you recall what your date nights were like? There was, more than likely, a lot of excitement and anticipation, right? You were in love and the thought of that other person just made you feel some kind of way, I know.

At that time, all felt right in the world and your partner could do no wrong. Those memories and why you fell in love initially are so important to hold on to and use…especially when you need to remember why you’re still there.

It’s OK…You’ll disagree.

Sometimes, the realities of marriage prove to be too much. When life kicks in, it can be overwhelming for couples who didn’t expect life to actually kick in. Managing a household, raising children, juggling a career and paying bills will have you stressed. Unfortunately, what most couples do with that stress is the root cause of many relationship challenges. Life can be hard. Your marriage will experience life. But, know that it’s okay and be prepared to love and invest in your marriage all the more.

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Your needs will change and so will you.

Couples grow in marriage. And sometimes what you liked early on is no longer appealing to you. That cute kind of annoying thing your spouse did in the beginning is actually hella annoying now. It happens to the best of us. This is why communication is one of the key ingredients in marriage. When things change, discuss them. Don’t leave your partner clueless.

Read: Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired: 4 Ways to Avoid a Mid-Marriage Crisis

Your spouse is human and so are you.

I think we, sometimes, forget that everyone is flawed. We make mistakes and veer off course occasionally. This is why forgiveness in a marriage is so critical. When couples realize that neither partner is perfect, it becomes much easier to apologize, forgive and move forward.

Couples, don’t let the stress of the world have you second guessing the decision to marry your spouse. Life happens.  And when it does, prepare yourself and remember you are stronger and better together. You were drawn to each other for a reason. Remember that most when times get tough.

BMWK, what are additional things to remember if you’re still wondering if your spouse is the one?

About the author

Tiya Cunningham-Sumter wrote 630 articles on this blog.

Tiya Cunningham-Sumter is a Certified Life & Relationship Coach, founder of Life Editing and Author of A Conversation Piece: 32 Bold Relationship Lessons for Discussing Marriage, Sex and Conflict Available on Amazon . She helps couples and individuals rewrite their life to reflect their dreams. Tiya has been featured in Essence and Ebony Magazines, and named one of the top blogs to read now by Refinery29. She resides in Chicago with her husband and two daughters. To find out more about Tiya, and her coaching, visit www.thelifeandlovecoach.com and www.theboldersister.com.

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Fantasia Gets ReMarried “The Right Way” Over the Christmas Holiday

BY: - 27 Dec '16 | Black Celebrity Marriages

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Congratulations are in order for Fantasia and husband, Kendall Taylor! Over the Christmas holiday, the singer shared a few beautiful pictures from their special day.  They got remarried and Fantasia proudly proclaimed “we did it AGAIN!! The right way…”

I Love You so much that I’d do it over and over and over again! When I met You, I just never knew!! It’s almost like I may have known you in another life. Like this love has happened before and that’s how it works so well between us because we’ve been here before. So we did it AGAIN!! The right way.. so….Yes I DO  – Fantasia Taylor

We know that doing it “the right way” involves putting in intentional effort and then celebrating your love…which is what they are doing. We’re wishing the happy couple many years of a successful happy healthy marriage.  Check out pictures from their special day and join us in celebrating their love by leaving them an encouraging comment below.

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Ronnie Tyler wrote 513 articles on this blog.

Ronnie Tyler is the co-creator of BlackandMarriedWithKids.com and co-producer of the films Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me, Men Ain't Boys and Still Standing. The proud mom of 4 has been selected by Parenting Magazine as a Must-Read Mom and is one of Babble's Top 100 Mom Bloggers.

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