When I was a child, I talked like a child. I would disrespect my husband by saying anything I wanted towards him. I had a smart mouth and would curse at him whenever I was mad. I would also purposely use words I knew would hurt him.
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things. ~1 Corinthians 13:11
When I was a child, I thought like a child. I thought I was supposed to get my way all the time and I was supposed to have whatever I wanted whenever I wanted however I wanted. I thought that if my husband didn’t buy me gifts all the time that he didn’t love me. I thought that if I wasn’t getting constant attention that my husband no longer wanted me.
When I was a child, I reasoned like a child. I reasoned that I could treat my husband the way I saw others treat their husbands which wasn’t always good. I reasoned that I didn’t need to submit to my husband because I was a strong woman and would bow down to no man. I reasoned that my kids came first then me then him. I reasoned that I didn’t need to show my husband any appreciation for anything because he knew that I did appreciate him.
Oh but one day, The Spirit made me examine myself. It was like parts of my marriage were played back to me that made me feel awful about my treatment towards my husband. I had to grow up and become a woman.
When I matured, I apologized to my husband for the way I talked to him.
When I matured, I began to use my words to encourage and uplift my husband.
When I matured, I began speaking good things over him and our marriage.
When I matured, I started changing the way I thought. I started to think of my husband’s wants and needs. I started to think of all the ways my husband shows his love towards me; by making sure the bills were paid, the kids were taken care of, I was taken care of, my car was maintained and many other ways that I didn’t pay attention to.
When I matured, I started to reason that I needed to be a better wife. I reasoned that the Bible could tell me how to be a wife and discovered I had the order of the household wrong. I reasoned that not only did I need to show my appreciation to my husband, but he needed to know that I did appreciate all that he does for me and my kids.
So, basically I had to stop talking, thinking and reasoning like a child if I wanted to stay in my marriage. I had to put away those childish things and grow up to become the wife that my husband needs and the wife that God called me to be.
BMWK ladies, have you put away your childish things?
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