5 Things a New Mother Desperately Needs No Matter How Many Kids She Has

BY: - 20 Feb '17 | Parenting

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I can remember, just like it was yesterday, being almost 30 years old, pregnant with my second child and scared. I was literally scared to bring her home from the hospital.  And when my mother told me she would not be able to visit me until 2 weeks after my due date, I cried.  I didn’t tell her, but the thought of bringing that baby home from the hospital, without my mother, frightened me – because a new mother needs a support system.

I was literally scared to bring her home from the hospital.

My mother only came for a couple of weeks. But it was just enough time for me to get my bearings and to move forward confidently as a new single mother of two kids. And out of my four pregnancies, that was the only time I felt so alone and afraid like that.

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My mother finally came to spend a few weeks with me and the kids. I really needed her there and her presence comforted me.

With my first child, I was 20 years old and a junior in college. And although my mom was not happy about my choices, she was there with loving arms to guide me every step of the way after I gave birth – because a new mother needs to feel safe and secure. And a new young mother could definitely use some guidance.  And my mom was there, every day, to give me what I needed, because I lived with my parents until I graduated from college.

Fast forward nine years, my boyfriend and I were expecting our second child together. And I decided to end that tumultuous relationship shortly after I found out that I was expecting –because a new mother needs peace of mind.

On paper, I had everything that I needed to be a great mother.  I had a great job, a beautiful home, and I was already a great mother to my 9-year-old son.  But I was a mess because I had just ended a 10-year relationship and, technically, this would be the first time that I was bringing home a baby to take care of — all alone.  I was not in a good place as a woman and that surely impacted me as a mother.

But in the years following, I was in a new place in my life.  I took some time to heal and focus on myself and my kids. And within 3 years, I was married (to a wonderful man) and pregnant with my third child (within six months of our wedding day). And then, we had our fourth child 1.5 years after that. And I never felt more excited to bring babies home from the hospital. I was older (in my mid-thirties) and I was in a good place.  I felt more confident and sure of myself as a woman and a mother…. and being sure of myself empowered me as a new mother.

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This is me, holding our youngest daughter and 4th child. I was happy. I was in a good place in my life.

But, I also had an attentive, loving, caring, responsible husband at home.  He was not only ready to take care of the baby when we came home from the hospital, but he was ready to take care of me too – because a new mother needs to be taken care of too.

So, I’ve been a young mother, an older mother, a dead broke mother, a financially well-off mother, a single mother, and a married mother. And throughout it all, my needs remained the same; I needed a loving support system and I needed to feel safe and secure. I needed peace in my home. I needed to feel confident in myself.   And I needed all of that so that I could be the best mom that I could be for my new babies.

I think that is why I was so excited when I was invited to share BlueSmart mia – the newest innovation in smart baby feeding. It’s a high-tech system that tracks and analyzes your baby’s feeding intake and consumption patterns.  It’s a product that will help you worry less because it alleviates anxieties surrounding baby feeding. (And I did not even tell you all about all of my anxieties surrounding baby feedings with my first two kids…those stories would take all day.)

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How does it work?  BlueSmart mia smart sleave precisely measures the amount of milk consumed by your baby and it alerts parents and caregivers in real-time.  (As a working mom, I definitely could have used that.)  It also offers suggestions on optimal feeding angles and temperatures and even alerts you when your milk has expired and needs to be discarded. It even connects to Wi-Fi…. Yes, Wi-Fi!!!  It allows you to input feeding data on a mobile app.

I vividly remember worrying if my second child was eating enough when I left her with the daycare provider. Was she eating enough during the day? Is the daycare provider trying to feed her often enough?  Those were questions that ran through my mind when I picked up my child and found so many unused bottles.  A product like BlueSmart mia would have given me the peace of mind that I needed and could have helped my day care provider re-assure me that she was taking the best care of my baby.

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The BlueSmart mia is available on BlueSmartmia.com , use code NEWMIA30 at checkout for $30 off throughout the month of February 2017. For more information, you can also visit the company’s Facebook page, or Twitter account.

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Disclosure: This is a sponsored post brought to you by BlueSmart mia. I have partnered with them to spread the word about the launch of this great new way to feed your baby. All opinions and stories are my own. 

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Ronnie Tyler wrote 508 articles on this blog.

Ronnie Tyler is the co-creator of BlackandMarriedWithKids.com and co-producer of the films Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me, Men Ain't Boys and Still Standing. The proud mom of 4 has been selected by Parenting Magazine as a Must-Read Mom and is one of Babble's Top 100 Mom Bloggers.

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Amazing! Atlanta Teen Creates Empowerment Conference for Girls of Color

BY: - 13 Mar '17 | On the Web

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Mikaela Sydney Smith is a 13-year-old student and budding actress that is doing amazing things in Atlanta, GA.  She has created a conference, specifically for girls of color, to make a difference and develop “a sisterhood of positivity.”  The conference, Activate Your Inner Magic – Mother/Daughter Dinner and Conference, will be held on May 7th, 2017 at Sutton Hall in Douglasville Ga, just 20 minutes outside of Atlanta.

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This year’s theme is “Activating Your Inner Magic” and it’s all about teaching girls of color how to find and appreciate the beauty in themselves while using their power and voices to help change the world.

Mikaela started her organization, Brown Girl Magic, when she was just 11-years-old after creating Mikaela’s “Crazy Knee Socks for a Cause” campaign to collect socks for kids in need during the winter season.

Mikaela was inspired to create the conference after reading the book, “Chicken Soup for the Preteen Soul”

“Just like the heroic teens outlined in the book, Mikaela decided to extend her charitable services to brown girls like herself and develop a conference to empower and charge all brown girls to realize their inner magic to make a difference in their communities.” ~ Brown Girl Magic

bgm_photoMikaela has a heart for empowering brown girls just like her. As an aspiring actress, she has experienced, firsthand, what occurs when your beauty as a brown girl is not valued by the mainstream media.  And therefore, she is so passionate about empowering girls of color through the community work that she is doing and now with her upcoming conference.

Conference Details:

The conference will hold sessions that will feed into the hearts and minds of so many young girls of color: whether Black, mixed raced, Latino, Native American, Middle Eastern, or Asian.

There will be powerful speakers, great food, and awesome gift bags and a one-of-a-kind experience that you don’t want to miss!  They have some very awesome speakers scheduled to truly empower girls of color…such as Denene Millner, Author and Founder of MyBrownBaby.com. She will set the tone for the conference by delivering an opening keynote that is sure to “leave an indelible impression on the hearts and minds of the young ladies in attendance.”

Gabby BowsThe KEYNOTE speaker is the wonderful young entrepreneur Gabrielle Goodwin of GaBBYBOWS, along with her mother Rozalynn! Rozalynn and Gabrielle created the first of its kind, double snap, double faced barrette hair accessory and the product has taken flight and landed Gabrielle in the NATIONAL spotlight! Gabby, the 2015 South Carolina Young Entrepreneur of the Year and company President and CEO tells other kids who she meets to try their best, “work hard, persevere and never give up on their dreams and desires to start their own businesses. Obstacles will be in your way and you’ll have to never give up in order to get through them.”

Click here for more information, and the register for the , Activate Your Inner Magic – Mother/Daughter Dinner and Conference, on May 7th 2017 at Sutton Hall in Douglasville Ga.

BMWK – my girls and I are definitely going to attend the Activate Your Inner Magic conference and I hope to see you and your daughters there too.  Please leave Mikaela some encouraging words as we want to encourage her to keep on spreading her Brown Girl Magic.

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Ronnie Tyler wrote 508 articles on this blog.

Ronnie Tyler is the co-creator of BlackandMarriedWithKids.com and co-producer of the films Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me, Men Ain't Boys and Still Standing. The proud mom of 4 has been selected by Parenting Magazine as a Must-Read Mom and is one of Babble's Top 100 Mom Bloggers.

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