We’ve all heard the phrase: Happy Wife, Happy Life. And while we don’t subscribe to such a basic principle of marriage in our house, that doesn’t mean I don’t go out of my way to put a smile on wife’s face just because she’s my wife.
I want to see her happy every day, and I want to do my part to bring a her daily dose of joy. And while I would love to jet set her to the Colorado Rockies or half-way around the world to a remote island in the Maldives, truth is the way our bank account is set up…well, you know how that story goes. So it leaves me to get creative about how to lessen her burden and simply show her how often I think about her and her well being every day.
Send text messages.
Nothing seems to get women more excited than a vibrating phone. A simple, “how’s your day going?” or “thinking about you brought a much needed smile to my face” is the perfect way to stay connected during the workday or any other day for that matter. Let her know she’s top of mind even when she’s not around.
Top off her gas.
You know she’s running around to work, school, daycare, after-school, lessons, mama’s house, mama and ‘nem’s house, and the grocery store all through traffic both ways. Please go get her car washed, vacuumed, but most importantly – fill up her tank. You know she could use it. Just one less stop on an endless cycle of the adulthood routine. She’ll appreciate the gesture.
Fold the clothes.
Folding clothes is so simple, yet so impactful that J. Cole dedicated an entire track to Folding Clothes for his beloved on his newest album. And seeing how Cole is another married man, it sounds like he’s getting his marriage off to the right start. If you currently don’t fold your own clothes, then you can immediately do two things: 1) thank the person who folds your never-ending supply of drawls, and 2) return the favor.
If you do fold your own clothes, imagine a world where your clothes magically made their way from the dryer sorted and organized into your drawers? How much would you pay for a magical genie to do this on your behalf? How many hours of your life would you get back? How many novels would you read? Fold.her.clothes. The, literally watch her love for you grow by 3-fold.
Leave her alone.
I love this one. This is by far my favorite simple thing to do for my wife. Like most people, my wife likes people – but only when she likes people. And people are draining. All of us. We love each other…and we drain the hell outta one another too. Our wives need time alone to choose how they want to spend their own time. Sleep, exercise, reading, sleep, Netflix, or whatever else my wife wants to do, I encourage. Give her the most valuable asset any of us own – TIME. It’s free, and it’s priceless.
We love each other…and we drain the hell outta one another too.
Rub her feet.
You’re gonna watch Netflix anyway. Tell her to kick up those hardworking hooves on your knees and rub those kinks away. I mean really work the pressure out of her. She literally carries the weight of your whole entire family, a few of her close friends, her boss, her employees, the one co-worker she actually likes, and the worries of the modern free world on those feet.
Make getting her feet pampered a normal thing in your house. And the beauty is it’s also self-serving. Because the next time you get into a disagreement that leads to that long night of silence. Let’s see who breaks first when you’re not kneading your knuckles into the arches you’ve made her accustomed to. I know I would say sorry if it meant someone would rub my feet.
Enjoy your marriage. Enjoy each other’s time. It will always be the simple things that matter most. You knew this already. This was simply another reminder.
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