5 Ways to Have a Blessed Marriage…Starting Today

BY: - 10 Jul '17 | Faith

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Blessed. It’s one of those words that people like to use, especially to convey good wishes. Someone sneezes, we say “God bless you.” When asked, “How are you?” we reply with “I’m blessed.” When parting ways, we say, “Have a blessed day.” To be blessed is something we all desire, but blessings don’t always come easy.


Often times, blessings are cultivated through hard work, sacrifice, and unlimited gratitude. Imagine, then, what that means for a blessed marriage. We all want one. The benefits of amazing marriages, successful marriages, thriving marriages, and so on is just a Google search and a click away. There are studies aplenty on the positive psychological impact a great marriage can offer. So, it’s important to recognize that regardless of the synonym, each spouse must be willing to do what it takes to breed a marriage in which they feel blessed. As such, we’ve got a few ideas, and scriptures, on how you can make sure your marriage is a blessing to you and the one you love.

Show Appreciation

“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” I Thessalonians 5:18. Whether it’s at work or at home, everyone likes to hear “well done,” or “thank you.” No matter what form appreciation comes in, it endears us to the giver. Marriage is no different. Unlimited gratitude offered up in good times and bad only serves to strengthen your bond of love. Take the time, on a daily basis, to show appreciation to your spouse. It will serve as a great reminder that things aren’t as hard as they seem and you are truly blessed.

If you truly desire for your marriage to be blessed, then making the effort to be spiritually strong is something that simply can’t be ignored.

Extend Lots of Mercy

“Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.” Luke 6:36. Everybody makes mistakes. In a  blessed and working marriage, mistakes are an opportunity to practice mercy. Mercy builds the character of a marriage. It allows each spouse to step back and look at things from the other’s perspective. The mercy giver’s heart can become fully engaged in their partner’s, drawing them closer together, in the process.


Commit to Being a Peacemaker

“Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.” Matthew 5:9. Arguments are absolutely no fun. A house full of tension and stress is not a home anyone wants to come home to. In a blessed marriage, both the husband and wife have to make a decision to be a peacemaker regardless of who’s right and who’s wrong. Finding a peaceful way to settle an argument means that the health of the marriage is more important than your point. So before things boil over, commit to reaching a peaceful solution no matter what the cost.

Take Care of Your Physical and Emotional Health

The physical and emotional health of a marriage starts with the physical and emotional health of each spouse. If one partner is burning the candle at both ends and not taking the time to rejuvenate, it opens the door for hurt feelings and misunderstandings. He might want to get busy, but she is too tired. Or, she might want to go out to dinner and he just wants to stay at home. Working out and eating right provides both short and long term benefits. In the short term, you have the energy needed to make a blessed marriage work. In the long term, you have the health needed to make a blessed marriage last.

Take Care of Your Spiritual Health

“For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things…” 1 Timothy 4:8. This one should be a no-brainer but unfortunately is often neglected. If you want your marriage to be blessed, then it’s important to take it to God both individually and together. When your spirit is aligned with God’s, it makes it that much easier to fulfill all of the above. A spiritual perspective helps bring everything into focus. We’ve all heard the saying, “the prayers go up so the blessings can come down.” Those are not just empty words. If you truly desire for your marriage to be blessed, then making the effort to be spiritually strong is something that simply can’t be ignored.

We all want to have blessed marriages. But blessed marriages are nurtured, allowing them to become strong and healthy. The only way to achieve what you desire is to put in the time and effort to foster your relationship with your spouse. Then enjoy the blessings and pass it on.

BMWK, what steps do you need to take to have a blessed marriage?

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Joann Fisher wrote 154 articles on this blog.

Joann Fisher has been a writer and editor for both print and online newpapers and magazines for the last 10 years. She now serves as a Writer/Editor at BMWK and lead Editor for The Joy Network.


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Here’s How My Life and My Marriage Changed When I Allowed God’s Plan to Take Over

BY: - 10 Aug '17 | Faith

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By: Angelique Redus-McCoy

Two years ago, my family and I moved from our hometown to a city that, quite truthfully, had never been on our radar.  I left a job that I loved and where I felt loved. We left the home where we started our family, a home I could’ve lived in forever. We left our extended family, support systems, our church, our village. But to be clear, we did not move away from troubles. We moved on…to break free from our comfort zone and live out God’s plan for us.  It wasn’t easy though.

I am a planner at heart. Planning makes me breathe easier, helps me navigate life’s journeys and gives me a semblance of peace. Along the course of life, I always accepted that God’s plan for me ultimately ruled, but it was easy to accept because He and I typically were on the same page. That changed two years ago.

As we neared our breaking point, I had to learn to take a deep breath and BE STILL.

My husband and I both work in fields we love and feel passionate about. A few years into our marriage, we hit our stride with thriving careers, a beautiful home, two kids, vacations, and an active social life with friends and family. Life was pretty good.  Then my husband found himself with an opportunity to move up – if we moved away. Now was his time – but he wouldn’t – couldn’t- soar unless I was there alongside him.

When he first presented the opportunity to me, my initial thought was, “Um no…we’re good.” And we were. But who says “good” is the endpoint? I could not hold him back from his dreams – even if that meant I would need to redefine mine. Ultimately, the decision was easy, although I knew the journey would be challenging.

As it turned out, in a whirlwind four months, we moved our family and started upon our new adventure. Unfortunately, I quickly found myself in limbo – trying to recreate a plan without a firm sense of where I was and what I wanted.

In retrospect, I should have enjoyed the freedom to explore our new possibilities. Instead, the lack of a clear plan quickly stressed me out. After the first several months, the tension between my husband and I grew and almost suffocated us. He felt guilty for putting me in a position in which I had to recreate my career and adjust to a life without the support of our family and friends.  On the flip side, I volleyed between being proud of him and resenting him.

But God! As we neared our breaking point, I had to learn to take a deep breath and BE STILLGod did not bless us to this point in our lives to leave us hanging. He challenged us to grow into HIS plan for us. Leaning on the joy that persisted in my children, accepting my role as the rock that my husband needed through this transition, and remembering that God’s plan always prevails, I found peace in being still and letting God be God.


Soon, the dots began to connect and the hints of possibilities God had placed on my heart began to come to fruition. My husband is soaring in his new position and I am settling into the exciting next phase of my career, which my previous experiences had perfectly prepared me for. We are finding creative ways to stay connected to our loved ones and opening ourselves up to new people in our lives. Most importantly, my husband and I have grown closer, having to lean more directly on each other to open our hearts to God’s bigger plan for our family.

Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” So now, even as we have begun to set new goals and plans for our family, I am confident that our path is being directed by God and that any divergence from our plans is an opportunity that He has orchestrated. His plans are always bigger than ours and in that we find peace and look forward to a prosperous future.

Angelique Redus-McCoy is a Midwestern girl with a new Southern address. She is a board-certified pediatrician, caregiver at heart, but a writer deep down in her soul. She is currently crafting Act II of her life as a 40+ Wife/Mama/Daughter/ Sister/Friend/Dreamer. You can find her at  www.facebook.com/angelique.redusmccoy.

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