After the Affair: 4 Scriptures to Reignite Your Faith and Save Your Marriage

BY: - 1 Nov '17 | Infidelity

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When a marriage goes through its ups and downs, where do you turn for guidance? I can honestly and wholeheartedly say to you that if it was not for my faith our marriage “Never Would Have Made It” through the storm! Glory to God our marriage not only survived the storm but we are lying under a beautiful rainbow covering!

See most married couples have it twisted.  Twisted in that they think they can do this marital thing alone or just the two of them. However, marriage is a God thing! Oh and when you recognize it is a God thing it become a good thing!

I knew that I could not do this alone.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m a strong woman but even the strongest of us grow weak.  A wedding gift gave me life at one of the weakest times in my life.  A wedding gift that my husband’s aunt had blessed us with became my most cherished gift ever and would prove to save our marriage time and time again.

It is a beautiful bronze statue with praying hands, the cross, and the bible and it is engraved “ DA-NAY & CHRISTOPHER It Takes Three To Make A Marriage June 2006.”

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My mother raised me Catholic and I went to church as far back as I can remember.  However, I strayed from my faith as a young adult and it definitely came “roaring back” when I learned of my husband’s affair in 2006.  I know that I would not have gotten through our infidelity had it not been for my faith and prayers of others.  It is vital that you be grounded in your faith and prayer life to fight for and save your marriage too.

I’m going to try to make a long story short and provide the very scriptures that supported and encouraged my faith to fight for our marriage and WIN!

Cry out for help!

“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4:8

Psalm 18:6 “But in my distress I cried out to the LORD; yes, I prayed to my God for help.  He heard me from His sanctuary; my cry to Him reached His ears.”

Tears poured from my eyes uncontrollably as I found myself on bended knee beside our bed praying to God. I began to frantically call out begging God at the top of my lungs to PLEASE HELP… “God please help me”, “God please help my husband”, and “God please help our marriage!”  God hears and answers prayers because in a matter of a few weeks He elevated me in such a way that I was able to pray for the other woman. Yep you read that right. “God please help __________ !”

Do Not Despair!

Psalm 50:15 Call upon me in the day of trouble; I shall rescue you, and you will honor me.

After crying out at the top of my lungs in desperation, I remember feeling so completely depleted and utterly exhausted that I fell to the floor in the fetal position. It would be safe to say that if anyone walked in and found me lying on the floor, they would say I needed rescuing!  I knew I needed rescuing and, luckily for me, the Lord knew it too.  One of my favorite scriptures began to play in my head reminding me that I was not in despair. I’ve learned to believe what God say’s about me, and if God says I’m not in despair, then who am I to argue with God?!

Remember Your Faith

2 Corinthians 4:8-9 “We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair

A majority of us, especially women dream of the “perfect” wedding which most take for granted and assume will naturally mean a “perfect” marriage.  Don’t get me wrong marriage can be glorious and gratifying!  At the same time, understand marriage is not for punks either!  Marriage is a life in and of its own.  It is a breathing bond in need of life-sustaining faith in order to weather the marriage.  Just like our bodies need water, our marriages need faith.

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Our natural faith is necessary and sufficiently effective to enable us to live day in and day out in our marriage.  However, it takes more to save a decaying marriage. It takes a special gift from God and that gift is your faith!

Trust the Power Behind Your Faith

Luke 17:6, “If you had faith even like a grain of mustard seed, you could say to this mulberry tree, be pulled up by the roots, and be planted in the sea, and it would obey you.”

Most mulberry trees are quite huge and immensely challenging to uproot by bare hands.  Luke was referring to a powerful faith found deep inside all of us…a saving kind of faith!  The same kind of faith that gives power, might, and strength to uproot a mulberry tree. So much so it can uproot a solid trunk of anguish in your marriage. No more small thinking here.  Like Luke, I believe that through your saving faith, you are more than capable of cleaning up the nastiest, stickiest mess that has built up between you and your spouse. We are living proof you can too!

This, for me, was only the beginning. Once I arrived at this point, God not only continued to guide me, but he gave me the strength to take the next steps. Stay tuned for part two of “After the Affair.”

BMWK, how have these scriptures helped you?

About the author

Da-Nay Macklin wrote 47 articles on this blog.

Coach Da-Nay Macklin is a Certified Christian Life & Relationship Coach, founder of the Courageous Conquerors Mastermind and Author of Love After Adultery: The Breakthrough Journey of the Brokenhearted Available on Amazon She is one of the nation’s leading experts on infidelity and a thought leader on maximizing potential as she assists couples and individuals to live life by design and not default. Da-Nay has been has been featured on the Oprah Winfrey Network’s show Unfaithful: Stories of Betrayal after successfully navigating adultery in her marriage, and named one of the 15 most powerful women on the south side of Chicago. She now resides in Charlotte, NC with her loving husband and daughter.

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After the Affair: 6 Faith Strengthening Scriptures to Help Restore Trust in Your Union

BY: - 2 Nov '17 | Infidelity

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Yesterday, I let you guys in on some of the crazy that happened to me and, quite honestly, some of the crazy that happens to anyone who finds their marriage embroiled in the aftermath of an affair. After the ugly crying and blame shifting were over, I could only do one thing, turn to God and His power. It was in that power that I was able to remember my faith and trust Him once again with my marriage. So, what kind of faith can God reignite in you in order to save your marriage when infidelity has rocked your world? Well, here’s what He did for me.

Guiding Faith

“Enjoy life with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun; because that is your reward in life and in your toil because you have labored under the sun” Ecclesiastes 9:9

When you marry with faith in God, you’re actually saying that you trust Him to guide your marriage in not only the good but the bad…and oh yes the ugly too!  Marriage is the epitome of faith from the very beginning to end, and while our logic and reasoning are required for effective problem solving, faith helps us to remember that we are not God.  A saving faith requires trusting God’s promises and plans for ourselves and definitely for our marriage.

CHECK OUT PART 1 OF AFTER THE AFFAIR HERE.

Powerful Faith

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares The Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

You must understand that faith and prayer are the most powerful tools and gifts given to every Christian couple.  Have you seen the movie “War Room”?  The key to unlocking this powerful tool is that you must not only believe in God, but believe in yourself through Him. When I applied my faith in this profound manner, I gained the power to turn my marriage around, and so did my husband.  Do you believe that you have the same exact power to do this too? You do!

Steadfast Faith

“I assure you, most solemnly I tell you, if anyone steadfastly believes in Me, he will himself be able to do the things that I do; and he will do even greater things than these, because I go to the Father.” – John 14:12

I’m blessed to read and know all the glorious miracles Jesus did, and to me the most glorious was that He CHANGED and changes people’s lives. Every miracle performed He did was to glorify the Father through life changing experiences. No matter how big or small every person Jesus encountered was forever changed.  Are you getting where I’m going with this?  See I realized He wanted to do the same in me and our marriage…and He did!  Don’t be conformed by this world but rather by the renewing of your mind. . Never forget how much He loves you and wants to work miracles in your marriage where there seems a lack.

Transformative Faith

“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect” Romans 12:2

Faith works with patience. The more we intentionally go straight to God, and turn away from the urge of trying to figure out solutions on our own; the more we invite God to be at the center of our marriage and do what only He can do…perform miracles! Understand we are human and things become taxing on us where we want to give up at times, but when we Let Go and Let God we can have faith knowing there is nothing He can not handle.

Restorative Faith

” I am the Lord, the God of all mankind. Is anything too hard for me?” – Jeremiah 32:27

I want to lovingly challenge you to reflect on how you can use your faith and the strength that lies in it to manifest the power of God in your marriage today.  You already see per the above scripture that He wants your marriage to be transformed and restored prior to sin showing its ugly face in your marriage.  Don’t be afraid to make the necessary changes to yourself and start with having as much belief in yourself as you have faith. Allow both to grow within you. By doing so, you’ll see the beauty of marriage multiplied in ways you never imagined possible.

Unyielding Faith

And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. – Ephesians 3:14–19

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God will continue to bless us as we praise him in the most high. Never give up on God because I promise you that he will never give up on you.  I wish you can see and feel my heart when I say…God is so good that I rejoice!!! I grew closer to God through my storm and put him first.  I trusted God’s judgment and believed in His will and He brought my husband & I back together stronger and more loving than I ever knew possible!

“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10:9

BMWK, Are you ready to allow your faith to help you restore your union?

About the author

Da-Nay Macklin wrote 47 articles on this blog.

Coach Da-Nay Macklin is a Certified Christian Life & Relationship Coach, founder of the Courageous Conquerors Mastermind and Author of Love After Adultery: The Breakthrough Journey of the Brokenhearted Available on Amazon She is one of the nation’s leading experts on infidelity and a thought leader on maximizing potential as she assists couples and individuals to live life by design and not default. Da-Nay has been has been featured on the Oprah Winfrey Network’s show Unfaithful: Stories of Betrayal after successfully navigating adultery in her marriage, and named one of the 15 most powerful women on the south side of Chicago. She now resides in Charlotte, NC with her loving husband and daughter.

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