Easter is upon us. I have to admit that I love this season and its traditions. However, more important than new clothes, delicious feasts, and candied eggs, is the resurrection of Jesus Christ. Resurrection is about new life, a second chance. Have you ever experienced a time in your marriage where love and seemed dead or close to dying? Well, there’s nothing like an Easter miracle to resurrect your dying marriage.
Many people consider Resurrection (Easter) Sunday to be the holiest day of the Christian year. It is the day that believers in Jesus Christ celebrate their risen Lord and Savior. But, I venture to say, we shouldn’t think about resurrection one day out of the year. What about the other 364 days? What about the areas we need to resurrect in order to truly live the life God intended?
When your marriage is going through difficulty, it can be hard to believe there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. But the Resurrection Experience of Jesus gives me hope, and maybe even you too, that a similar type of resurrection is possible in our daily living. By no means am I comparing the risen Savior to a loveless marriage. What I am saying is there is hope! Resurrection, or new life, is possible for you.
Consider what resurrection means for your daily life.
Not only do I believe in a resurrected marriage, I’ve experienced it. After marrying young and struggling to find ourselves, my husband and I went through a really rough period: seemingly dead love, dead intimacy, and dead dreams. If our marriage was going to live and not die, we had to make some tough decisions.
Believe in and work toward a resurrection.
Engage in serious soul-searching and focused prayer.
Are carrying around some dead stuff in your life? Dead self-esteem. Dead dreams. Dead hopes. Dead faith. Dead purpose. Dead friendships. Resurrection is possible for you. You can start experiencing new life in those areas through heartfelt prayer. If you and your spouse are both struggling to keep the relationship alive, then your relationship is in need of a miracle. Simply put, Dead + Dead = Dead. Your relationship miracle won’t happen without specific and focused prayer.
Discuss the Resurrection Story with your spouse and form a plan.
For us, it was important that we go to counseling. We bared our souls. We spoke the truth. We cried and screamed and prayed and talked until the spirit of death fled our home. Looking back, we could blame it on age, but that wouldn’t do any good. From what I understand, couples who have been married 20+ years still go through resurrection phases. At some point, your marriage will need new life. It’s not anything to fear; it’s something in which to look forward.
Since our marital resurrection, we have more togetherness, more joy, more understanding, and more intimacy. If it had not been for a near-death experience, we wouldn’t be walking in our purpose together as a couple now.
If you celebrate Resurrection Sunday as a part of the Christian faith, I encourage you to consider what resurrection means in the context of your daily life. Do some serious soul-searching and focused prayer about the dead areas in your life. Sit down and discuss the Resurrection Story with your spouse, and then make a game plan. Maybe it’s the dreams you shared as newlyweds. Maybe it’s kissing and holding each other while you fall asleep. Maybe it’s family dinner time and heartfelt communication. There’s nothing too dead for God. Resurrection is possible to those who believe and put their faith into action. Regardless of the challenge, your relationship can get its miracle resurrection starting this Easter.
BMWK, are you ready to experience a miracle in your marriage during this season?
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