Wives: 5 Ways to R-E-S-P-E-C-T Your Husband

BY: - 12 Apr '18 | Marriage

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For a woman, respecting her husband, especially when she feels he doesn’t deserve it, can be a really difficult thing to do. As his wife, she has to be intentional about giving him respect when her emotions are running high and her marriage hits a rough patch.  If she is a woman of faith, she shows him respect as a matter of obedience to God’s word. However, this becomes even more challenging when society, often times in the form of her besties, says she should treat him otherwise.

In the early days of her marriage, a wife is usually unaware of what showing her husband respect actually looks like. Often times, there is a gradual shift as she drops some disrespectful habits and works her way through to obeying her half of Ephesians 5:33. This scripture, which says in part “the wife must respect her husband,” can help the couple eliminate friction that builds as a result of a lack of respect.

Now, wives, I need you to keep yourselves in check. I’m pretty sure that some of you might get sidetracked by the first part of that scripture which asks a husband to “love his wife as he loves himself.” Your marriage only works when each of you does your part. As such, here are some ways you can show respect to your husband Aretha Franklin style:

Don’t nag, condemn or unjustly criticize him.

At any point in your marriage that you notice that you react rather than respond to your husband, you need to check it. If you have respect for him, you will never nag or speak in an unruly manner to him. You should speak loving and encouraging words into his life, or better still, not speak at all when your emotion is high. Catch yourself before you are seen or heard arguing with him or making condescending comments. If you disagree or have questions, try asking them in a polite manner for clarification, rather than bursting out in anger. No matter how angry you might feel, refrain from haphazardly raising your voice and losing control. When communicating with him, the point is to communicate so choose your words wisely to ensure that they express your message respectfully.

Avoid treating him like a child.

There is nothing a man hates more than to be treated like a child. If you respect him, don’t attempt to rescue him from the repercussions of his poor decisions. Allow him to take charge like the adult he is and offer constructive advice if he asks you. Many times, when communicating with you about the challenges he is going through, he really needs a listening ear more than a smart mouth.

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Don’t interrupt him when he is talking.

Biblically speaking, a great way to show respect is to “be quick to listen,” and “slow to speak,” especially when you are not expected to speak. When your husband is sharing his thoughts and feelings with you, your attention gives him the feeling that his thoughts matter and his feelings are relevant. As such, your ability to refrain from interrupting him when he’s speaking his peace shows not only your interest in the conversation but your respect for his manhood.

Let his final decision stand.

Okay, real talk. There are times in a marriage when your opinion on a matter completely opposes his line of thought. It is okay to disagree with him since you undoubtedly see things differently at times. However, when it comes to marriage, you need to allow your husband to make the final decision on matters that don’t involve your safety. This can be extremely tough to do, but there are lessons to learn for both of you in this process. Your husband needs to feel the weight of being the head of the household. As for you, well, playing a supportive role is a way to show him respect.

Speak good of him to others.

Irrespective of any misunderstanding between you two, don’t bad mouth your man to a third party, be it family members, friends or acquaintances. You should always guard your husband’s reputation even when he does things that you don’t like, or that hurts.

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Rather than vent your frustrations and disappointment about him or your marriage to other people, you should compliment and praise him whenever possible. Don’t fall into the trap of exposing his weaknesses or faults to friends on social media, or in public. If you have to speak in public about him, it should be something nice, not an underhanded praise, but honest and true encouraging words. This is one of the most powerful ways to validate the respect you have for your husband.

Marriage without respect cannot thrive, and showing respect can be very challenging sometimes. But if you take the time to “find out what it means” to your husband, then giving him his r-e-s-p-e-c-t won’t be as tough as you think.

BMWK wives, how do you give your husbands r-e-s-p-e-c-t?

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Joann Fisher has been a writer and editor for both print and online newpapers and magazines for the last 10 years. She now serves as a Writer/Editor at BMWK and lead Editor for The Joy Network.

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Husbands: 5 Ways to R-E-S-P-E-C-T Your Wife

BY: - 13 Apr '18 | Marriage

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In a recent article, I offered up five ways a wife can show respect to her husband. Well, now, it’s the men’s turn. As it stands, respect is a two-way street. However, the look of respect from man to woman has somewhat of a different feel. As previously quoted from Ephesians 5:33, a husband “must love his wife as he loves himself.” Ultimately, that love shows up in a variety of ways including these five ways to R-E-S-P-E-C-T your wife:

Lead her up

One of the most important ways to lead your wife in a relationship is to humble out when you’re wrong. The popular belief that admitting one’s fault is a sign of weakness is absolutely not true. Personally, I count it as a strength of character when a person in authority can own up to his or her mistakes and humble out. Similarly in marriage, when you humble yourself and admit your mistakes to your wife, you convey how much you respect her.

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When the head of the family honestly and willingly takes responsibility for his mistakes, whether done intentionally or not, he demonstrates how much he values and respects his relationship with his wife.

Size her up

What wife doesn’t like to be gawked at by her husband? A great sign of respect to a woman is when her man appreciates her sexy. Making your wife feel admired for her appearance is a way to demonstrate respect. In an odd way, you further solidify the trust in your marriage as she sees your admiration as a contributing fact to your fidelity. She feels you only have eyes for her because your actions say so. You make her feel adored, secured and respected and even more so in public places.

Build her up

Paying full attention to what your wife has to say and putting away any form of distraction during a meaningful conversation with her shows how important what she has to say means to you. If you respect her, you will also try not to cut her off during conversations. You will give her room to express her thoughts. This ensures her that you understand her and respect her opinions, ideas, thoughts, and feelings.

Additionally, making time for your wife consistently no matter how busy your schedule shows that she comes first, everything else is secondary. This action backs up your words of how much you love and cherish her as commanded by God. By taking the time to build her up as a priority in your relationship, you effectively strengthen the bond you formed when you said: “I do.”

Talk her up

There are times in a marriage when misunderstandings arise and the temptation to say nasty things about her behavior is strong. But speaking ill of her in the presence of family members, friends, or acquaintances is great sign of disrespect. It doesn’t matter if it was done in her absence. Complaining and making bad jokes about her simply shows how low you place her. No matter the level of misunderstanding you have, public affirmation of your wife depicts her importance to you and your respect for her.

Pray her up

This is simple. Your wife needs your prayers. She needs you to fight for her spiritually because yes, she gets weary. Take her dreams, her fears, her wants, and her needs to God on her behalf. Your relationship will grow so much stronger because there is a respect she will feel knowing you don’t see her as weak and needy, but human. When you have given her everything you have to give, prayer lets her know you respect her enough to give her even more.

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There’s no doubt that the respect a man has for his wife is tied up in how much he loves her. Still, according to Ephesians 5:33, that’s exactly what God intended.

BMWK husbands, are you ready to r-e-s-p-e-c-t your wife?

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Joann Fisher wrote 150 articles on this blog.

Joann Fisher has been a writer and editor for both print and online newpapers and magazines for the last 10 years. She now serves as a Writer/Editor at BMWK and lead Editor for The Joy Network.

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