Hmmm, this may appear as though I’m suggesting a little trickery. Or, that there may be some dishonesty, but allow me to explain. The majority of us desire a partner who is excited about the idea of us; one who can’t wait to be intimate with us. Intimacy and lovemaking should never feel like a chore, but should be a moment that happens naturally and frequently in our marriage.
We’ve all shared, discussed and agreed how important intimacy is to a marriage, right? We know that lack of it can cause all kinds of challenges that are usually unnecessary. Like infidelity, emotional check out and yes, divorce. We’re all clear of the health benefits and that we need to be having more of it. Some are just wondering how to make it happen regularly in their own relationships.
Some couples send signals and some can never seem to be in the mood at the same time. There are quite a few difficulties that happen when it’s time to become intimate. In order for us to get on the same page, increase the frequency of our lovemaking and just remain physically connected, there are a few behaviors we can incorporate into our daily loving and living.
Be in Tune
In order to draw your boo closer to you, you must first be aware of the turn offs. We might not even realize that certain actions are sending our partners running in the opposite direction. We don’t even know they are as big of a deal as they actually are. So being aware and in tune with our love is the first step. Our focus, most frequently, should be on how we turn our spouse on. Whenever we are unsure what they are, all we have to do is ask.
Be a Giver
Another of our goals should be to make our mate feel good about us. It’s more likely to happen when honesty, patience and thoughtfulness are displayed. Relationships just feel better when both partners are able to trust one another. We should also be more giving and take the time to love and understand our spouse.
Be a Stress Reliever
Lastly, is finding ways to be the stress reliever and not the stress contributor. When an individual feels beat up, stressed and overwhelmed, they aren’t desiring much of anything else. Especially not intimacy. For some reason, many individuals struggle with connecting how lovemaking can positively contribute to the other areas of our lives. It definitely can relieve stress. However, spouses also have to do a better job of knowing how we can help relieve some of the pressures our partner is experiencing. Doing the little things matter. For example, helping out with certain chores or planning a relaxing getaway, or even a moment, is beneficial.
Our marriage should arrive at a place where who we are and how we make our partner’s feel are the turn-ons needed to get it on make frequently.
BMWK, how do you ensure there are frequent moments of intimacy in your marriage?