Have you ever heard this from your spouse – “how is it that when I ask you to do something it takes forever? But when your friends ask you to do something, you move right away.”
Or, how about this one, “When your friend calls, you are on the phone talking and laughing. But when I try to talk with you, you have nothing to say.”
Your spouse is crying out. What they are saying is, “I don’t feel like a priority.”
3 Steps to Prioritize Your Spouse Over All Others
In my own marriage, my husband and I are careful to prioritize each other. It hasn’t always been this way with us. However, I now know, I’m his #1 and he’s mine. Take a look at these 3 steps that helped us.
1. Take note of your spouse’s wants and needs and help to fulfill them.
It feels so good to see your spouse happy. If you take note of their wants and needs and help to fulfill them, you will outwardly demonstrate your love. Love is an action word and this is one way to show your mate just how important they are in your life.
2. Place your spouse’s needs above the needs of your friends and parents.
It can be easy to quickly say no to our spouse. No, I don’t t want to go there. No, I don’t want to see that. With our spouse, no, can roll off the tongue easily. Yet with friends and parents we commit to things with little thought and have a hard time saying no. Turn the tables on this and let your mate hear a resounding YES on their behalf.
Yes, I would love to…
Sure babe I’ll go with you…
Whatever you want babe…
Yes, honey let’s go for it…
3. Make your commitments to your spouse non-negotiable.
In your heart of hearts you are committed to your spouse. If they are ill, you are there being attentive. If they are wounded emotionally, you are there to help pick up the pieces. If you make a date with your spouse the date is kept. Your commitment to your mate should be visibly non-negotiable. You know it, your mate knows it, and so does anyone who sees your relationship.
Let’s make it plain, you are not responsible for your mate’s happiness. That’s too much pressure to put on anyone. However, as a spouse our desire is towards one another. We want each other to be happy and we are willing to do what it takes to make it happen. Being a high priority in your life is something your spouse will appreciate. It’s a position they deserve.
Try these 3 steps and see how they work for you. They work for my marriage. I hope they work for you.
BMWK family how do you let your spouse know they are a high priority in your life?