Learning how to say sorry to your partner is important in keeping a peaceful relationship. With relationship comes vulnerability, and with vulnerability comes the opportunity of getting hurt. When you hurt a loved one, there are times when saying sorry isn’t enough. To know the ways of how to say sorry to your spouse, read on!
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What to Do When Sorry Isn’t Enough
There are times when those two little words don’t convey the depth of how you feel. What do you do when “I’m sorry” doesn’t always make amends for the offense that has been suffered?
Apologize sincerely from your heart. Make every effort to regain your mate’s trust. Ask for forgiveness. Be patient.
1. Apologize Sincerely from Your Heart
Mean what say. Use a language that expresses your earnest concern. Leave out blame and excuses. Right now, you want to express your regret for hurting your mate.
2. Make Every Effort to Regain Your Mate’s Trust
It will be up to your mate rather than you as to how long this process takes. It may take a few hours, or it may take a few days, or even months, depending on the offense and the depth of the wound. Check in with your mate. See how they’re doing. Ask what you can do to regain their trust. They may or may not know what it takes to earn their trust again. Trust that has been built through the years can be broken in a moment’s time. Go through the process to regain your spouse’s trust. Let your bond together be stronger than the offense that has occurred.
3. Ask for Forgiveness
If you need to ask for forgiveness from your mate, do it quickly. Don’t let time go by. The more time that goes by, the more challenging it will become. In a healthy relationship, it’s never the aim of one mate to hurt the other. For example, you may have meant what you said, but the delivery of your message was harsher than your mate could bare. Ask for forgiveness. “Baby, I never intended for my words to upset you. Please know that I have your best interest at heart. Forgive me for any hurt I may have caused you. I will work to not do it again.”
4. Be Patient
Be patient with yourself and your mate. You and your relationship are growing and changing day-by-day. Be easy-going with each other. One day, you’ll look back and give testimony to how you made it through.
Be encouraged to look at an offense in the big scheme of things. Place it into perspective in relation to your life together. How does this fit into the years of good you’ve created together?
Watch this video about what you can do to rebuild trust in your relationship aside from apologizing from Jay Cadet:
These ways on how to say sorry will peacefully solve any conflict going on between the two of you. It may hurt now, but it’s just one challenge amidst the many good things you have going right now in your marriage. When “I’m sorry” isn’t enough, take action. Love hard. Leave it all on the table. Let your spouse know how much you care about protecting their heart from hurt.
What are some more actions you’ve taken when saying sorry wasn’t enough? Share them in the comments section!
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Editor’s Note – This post was originally published on June 29, 2015, and has been updated for quality and relevancy.