So many times when we are in relationships, we have a hard time truly being happy in them because we spend too much time worrying about what we are lacking instead of what we have. Stop focusing on the NEXT thing and focus on YOUR thing!
So many people have a good spouse, who treats them well and who is loving, kind and supportive, but for some reason, they still aren’t satisfied.
But here is the reality check, “all that glitters isn’t gold.” While you’re focusing on these shining attributes, you’re missing out on the real beauty of what you have at home.
1. More money
They say money can’t buy you love, and while that’s true, money will buy you interest or disinterest. Sometimes when dating or in a relationship, we focus too much on what’s in someone’s pockets instead of what’s in their heart and character.
Some very hard working people might not be earning the amount that buys you a flashy lifestyle, but maybe they love you, cherish you, care for you, respect you and treat you well. Don’t lose the 80 searching for the 20!
2. More status
I get it, many people love attention and sometimes status brings attention. Some folks want to be social media famous or always in the spotlight, and they want relationships to follow suit.
Some people do everything for the “likes” and feel like they are missing out if the person they are dating or in a relationship with doesn’t have a lot of status. If your boo lives a more low-key lifestyle, don’t knock it. Sometimes the glitz and glamour can come with more trouble than you bargained for.
3. More physically appealing
Physical attraction is important in a relationship, but there will always be someone else who is more attractive than the one you’re with. Our eyes wander, and the attention we could be giving the person we are with ends up going to wishing we had “better.”
But shift your focus. While looks might spark the relationship, it’s your character that keeps you in a relationship. See your spouse’s beauty as an all-encompassing package of looks, intelligence, wit, gentleness, patience, loyalty and anything else that makes your spouse attractive.
4) More “exciting”
Maybe some other couples travel the world or always look like they are doing the most in their pictures. If you see a cutting-edge lifestyle played out with other couples, remember you are only seeing a snapshot into their lives. It’s also not a good idea to compare your daily life to other couples’ highlight reels.
If the nightly cuddling and down time you spend together with your family or mate make you happy, don’t devalue it, instead embrace it. Those same couples you admire for their exciting lives could very well be desiring the happy simplicity of yours.
There is always going to be someone with better physical attributes, more money, more things and more status. Instead of getting caught up in what your mate doesn’t have, try getting caught up in the love, loyalty, family and commitment that you do have. My point is don’t forget about what you do have in your spouse, you chose them for a reason!
BMWK, here’s our challenge to you. Let us know all the reasons you love and value your spouse. Then tag them to let them know.