Some things you just never get tired of hearing. When words are filled with love, they have the power to heal, soothe, excite and all sorts of wonderful things. Words spoken never return void, they produce, so why not produce something good in your marriage by speaking these four phrases.
1. You’re more beautiful than the day we met.
When beauty comes from the inside and floods through on the outside, it grows with time. This is the type of beauty that doesn’t fade with a wrinkle or a few stretch marks. Let her know how beautiful she is. Whisper it softly in her ear.
2. You’re a great wife and mother.
These are two completely separate positions, wife and mother. Yet, if your wife is anything like me, she tries her best to be her best in each role. The effort she puts forth may look easy because she does her job well. She has it down to a science and carries it out with ease. Don’t let that go unnoticed.
What she does, takes wisdom, planning, time, and energy. She is the doctor, nurse, school teacher, head chef, chief investigator, finder of lost things, and so much more to your family. Appreciate her with your words. Gently whisper, “You’re a great wife and mother”.
3. My life is better because of you.
You married her because she brought something special into your life. A few more smiles, no more lonely nights, a fulfillment that only comes from her, a closeness that only she can bring. You married her because you saw your life better with her. Let her know that. Don’t ride on what you said last week. Tell her softly today, “My life is better because of you.”
4. What can I do to support you?
Most women will do whatever it takes to get the job done. It is how we are built. We are not going to see our kids go without. If there is a challenge, we try to find the solution. We can get into “fix it” mode trying to help fix all the problems and people around. From the bake sale at school to the church bazaar, we can find a way to get involved. If we see something that needs to be done, we are going to get it done. This can land your wife in a place of overwhelm and stress. She may not even realize how she got there. She may need your support; take something off of her plate. From a heartfelt place ask, “What can I do to support you?”
Of course, “I love you” is a three words phrase you can always say. The phrases here are a pin pointed expression of your love. To say I love you is special. It’s appreciated and it feels good to hear. Yet, the phrases here take it a little deeper and give you a specific tangible way to express that love. Encourage her with your words.
BMWK family, give it a try and let us know your results.