In short, marriage is the agreement between two individuals to experience life together at each other’s sides.
We hear far too often of marriages in trouble because the individuals believe they have grown apart over the years. The gap of unspoken words can lead to unspoken emotions, sentiments, goals and ultimately, directions. Instead of experiencing life along side one another, you feel as if you’re experiencing life in spite of your spouse’s presence. And, this is dangerous space to be in over an extended period of time.
We all have ideas for how we would like our lives to be. Some want lives more lavish while others long for security. Some people want their family to experience every corner of the globe while others barely wish to explore the boundaries of their own city.
We are all different.
None of us are immune to time and we will grow as individuals whether we like it or not. In a marriage it’s important that the direction we grow in is in tune with our spouse and that only happens when we set goals for the marriage.
“A goal without a plan is a wish” – Antoine de Saint-Exupery
Here are 4 reasons why your marriage needs life goals
- The goals a couple sets for themselves keep them both focused on the same things. It keeps their actions rallied around the same dreams and aligns their motivations.
- It keeps both individuals on the same page of the marriage and their lives.
- This is true spiritually, financially, sexually, and otherwise. Your goals in the marriage arrange your steps so you can walk together in all things.
- So instead of the silence growing the gaps between you, your conversations around executing your goals keep you side by side.
BMWK – have you set goals for your marriage yet? If not, what are you waiting for?