As a husband, I realize how easy it is to get caught up in the rat race. There is so much going on in our lives; sometimes I wonder how we get it all done.
Our weekends used to be a time of rest and relaxation, but even that has changed. Kids have soccer, ballet, gymnastics or whatever the event is that it seems they need to attend weekly. Some of us have church on the weekend. Our weekends are often just as packed with stuff to do as our weekdays. We often let the things that are important to our marriage slip away.
It’s especially imperative for us as husbands to be cognizant and remember how important our wives are and to show them how much we love them. Routines and the ups and downs of life are going to come and go, but our wives are going to ride those waves with us.
In times that are not around the holidays, anniversary or any special day in particular, it’s paramount to remind your wife you are there for her, but most of all remind her you are appreciative of all that she does for you and your family.
Here are 5 ways to do just that:
Relieve Her of a Chore
Select a duty your wife normally does, and just do it. It could be picking up the kids from school, doing laundry or managing the bills, etc. Whatever the chore, take it off of her plate for a month. Don’t ask, just do it! It’s a reminder that you are paying attention. And lifting a weight or two off of her shoulders is something tangible she can see and appreciate.
Pamper Her
Send your wife out for a massage, manicure and pedicure. Consider getting her a facial and a milk bath. If it’s feasible, you might even send her with a friend for them to enjoy the experience together. Pampering is something every wife needs from time to time, and I feel it’s even better received when it comes from her husband.
Buy Her Something Nice
Sometimes, context clues are not just in sentences, but you can see them in your surroundings. If your wife’s favorite purse is looking a little worn, it’s time to get it replaced. If her gym shoes are a bit beat up, get her a new pair. Often, women will sacrifice for the good of the family. Make it a point to make her aware of how much she sacrifices on a daily basis by buying her something she wants but doesn’t necessarily ask for.
Take Her on a Weekend Trip
Book an Airbnb or find something reasonable just to take a quick drive for a weekend trip. Try going to places you may not have considered, like a nature hike, somewhere with a hot springs or outlet shopping malls. The idea is to spend time together away from your current surroundings but not breaking the budget in the process. Your wife will appreciate the time and attention to detail you spent for her to have a good time.
Leave Her Notes
Remind your wife how much you love her by leaving her notes. It’s good to leave specific notes affirming her. If she’s working on something specific or a project around the house or possibly just dealing with the kids all day, sometimes a handwritten note or post-it on the mirror, reminding her of how much you appreciate her goes a long way. The fact you remembered to think about your wife and showed how much you appreciated her by writing her a note (when no-one writes anything anymore) will not go unnoticed.
Guys, the little things you do truly go a long way. We should remind our wives how we feel about them as often as possible. They will reciprocate the love for us throughout our marriages and our lives.
BMWK, what other ways do you like to show your wife you care?